2006 DVC Member Cruise - SSMC06 - October 22, 2006 Part 3

[alikat99]

Good morning everyone - happy Friday! Got some running around to do this morning for work and then a busy day in the office. I'm glad the weekend is almost here.

Tonight is cruise chat - anyone going to come?

I'll try. I need to get some scrapbooking done tonight, so if I can, I'll be there.

 

[alikat99]

Good morning everyone! Anyone planning on going to the new Pirates Movie this weekend! We are going to shoot for Saturday. I hope it is as good or better than the first one!

Have a great day everyone!

I think that we're going to wait a week or 2. I'm not a big fan of crowded theaters, so I want the hype to slow down a bit first. Plus, Emily really wants to go, so I have to find a babysitter for Madison.

 

[cgcw]

Good morning everyone! Anyone planning on going to the new Pirates Movie this weekend! We are going to shoot for Saturday. I hope it is as good or better than the first one!

Have a great day everyone!

I had thoughts of going tonight but now it's postponed until some time over the weekend with Cameron's game going tonight.

I've heard so many times from my kids that they want to see it, I hope they are not disappointed.

 

[gometros]

I have to wait until I get home to see it, since my wife would kill me if I went to see it without her. We'll probably see it during the week, since we're busy next weekend and I refuse to wait two weeks. I couldn't see it as early as I did The Curse of the Black Pearl, since we saw that at the premier on the Magic back in 2003. They opened the Walt Disney Theater for the midnight showing and since we were out to sea, we were an hour ahead of the folks on the east coast.

 

[WDWLVR]

We're thinking of seeing it at the first showing Sunday morning. Hopefully the crowds won't be too bad at that time.

 

[RRBB]

Okay all you seasoned mommies, I need to know. Just this past week Ian started those tantrums of frustration. How long should I expect these to go on? I totally understand that he's just upset because he can't do what he's trying so hard to do, and trying to help only makes it worse. So, how many months/years does this go on? I feel so helpless!

 

[alikat99]

Okay all you seasoned mommies, I need to know. Just this past week Ian started those tantrums of frustration. How long should I expect these to go on? I totally understand that he's just upset because he can't do what he's trying so hard to do, and trying to help only makes it worse. So, how many months/years does this go on? I feel so helpless!

Well, I can tell you that Madison still does it, and she's 2 yrs 3 months. Now, Emily is almost 5, and she only does it once in a LONG while. It's only when something REALLY frustrates her. But with Maddie, I see it with the simplest of things. If I remember right, it's around 3 or so that they don't get frustrated SO quickly.

 

[cgcw]

Okay all you seasoned mommies, I need to know. Just this past week Ian started those tantrums of frustration. How long should I expect these to go on? I totally understand that he's just upset because he can't do what he's trying so hard to do, and trying to help only makes it worse. So, how many months/years does this go on? I feel so helpless!

Been there, done that. Good thoughts coming your way to get through it.

My experience has been that it truly depends on the child.

If the tantrums are coming just because he can't master something and doesn't have the verbal skills to say what's bothering them, then maybe it will be short lived. As you have found out, trying to help him isn't the solution as it tends to make them even more angry.

I've found the worse tantrums are those when they don't get their way and show it by tossing themselves down on the floor. By far, it doesn't take long for a child to figure out this is the thing they can do that has the most impact in the reaction area from a parent.

I have a daycare child who would throw these tantrums even at 4 years old. Sulk like there was no tomorrow. I thought for sure he'd never grow out of them -- so much so that I was concerned for his mental health. In a lot of ways, he still throws tantrums, just not to the extreme he did when he was younger. I tell you, it was a long process for both of us as he got over it.

Fortunately, right now I don't have anyone who's going through that stage. As me that again in another couple of months when I have four 2 year olds and I'm sure to have a different outlook at that time.

My best advice would to to ignore him. If he gets any type of reaction (mine is usually to laugh at them as I walk away so they can't see me), they will continue to occur. When they see they don't get a reaction from us, they tend to stop a bit quicker.

 

[RRBB]

Well, I can tell you that Madison still does it, and she's 2 yrs 3 months. Now, Emily is almost 5, and she only does it once in a LONG while. It's only when something REALLY frustrates her. But with Maddie, I see it with the simplest of things. If I remember right, it's around 3 or so that they don't get frustrated SO quickly.

Oy, another 17 months of this? Well, I guess it's something everyone goes through so I'll just have to give lots of hugs, find some earplugs, and deal.

 

[RRBB]

If the tantrums are coming just because he can't master something and doesn't have the verbal skills to say what's bothering them, then maybe it will be short lived. As you have found out, trying to help him isn't the solution as it tends to make them even more angry.

I've found the worse tantrums are those when they don't get their way and show it by tossing themselves down on the floor. By far, it doesn't take long for a child to figure out this is the thing they can do that has the most impact in the reaction area from a parent.

Luckily for me, he's not one to pitch a royal one when he doesn't get his way. He'll get upset but not hysterical. It's when he's trying to do something that doesn't work that he's inconsolable. For example, just a little while ago he was trying to open the container of grapes - I cut them up and put them in a little Glad container for him - and he couldn't get the lid off. The more he struggled the more upset he got, to the point he was about to throw it across the room (or at least on the floor.) I finally took everything - container of grapes (without lid), bowl of cheese pieces, opened baggie of crackers - and set them on the table next to him, turned on the TV and left the room. He's now happily eating and watching Higglytown Heros. I hate resorting to TV, but at least the distraction was enough to get him to stop crying.

 

[cgcw]

Luckily for me, he's not one to pitch a royal one when he doesn't get his way. He'll get upset but not hysterical. It's when he's trying to do something that doesn't work that he's inconsolable. For example, just a little while ago he was trying to open the container of grapes - I cut them up and put them in a little Glad container for him - and he couldn't get the lid off. The more he struggled the more upset he got, to the point he was about to throw it across the room (or at least on the floor.) I finally took everything - container of grapes (without lid), bowl of cheese pieces, opened baggie of crackers - and set them on the table next to him, turned on the TV and left the room. He's now happily eating and watching Higglytown Heros. I hate resorting to TV, but at least the distraction was enough to get him to stop crying.

Good for you! You mastered it in your own way. By doing it for him, whether he liked it or not, and leaving the room, you showed him that it's okay he can't handle everything right now, but gave him the "power" to decide that he'll eat it anyway. If you stood there and battled with him, chances are that you'd still be doing just that right now. Neither one of you would win -- Ian because he wouldn't eat and you because you'd be frustrated by the entire situation. But, you handled it well, showed Ian that tantrums don't upset you and now you're both walking away with positive feelings!!

 

[RRBB]

Thanks Cindy. It's good to hear I'm doing something right since this is all new to me. It used to be so much easier to calm him down, but I guess this is what comes when they grow up.

 

[gometros]

Okay all you seasoned mommies, I need to know. Just this past week Ian started those tantrums of frustration. How long should I expect these to go on? I totally understand that he's just upset because he can't do what he's trying so hard to do, and trying to help only makes it worse. So, how many months/years does this go on? I feel so helpless!

Until they move out of the house and go to college

 

[RRBB]

Until they move out of the house and go to college

Do they really move out? I thought that was just rumor.

 

[Stitch#1]

Ok we are back from the seeing Pirates!!

Luckily there is a theatre not to far from us that is rarely crowded so that's were we went. We met up with my sister at Panera Bread for lunch and then off to the movie theatre!

Lets just say I can't wait until Memorial Weekend next year (when they are supposed to be coming out with part 3). There was some really funny parts! And some surprises..........

 

[IleneF]

Hi everyone. I couldn't get on earlier because my internet and phone weren't working right. I couldn't figure out why but when I went to investigate I found one of the pups last night bounced a ball on the router plug and it was just out enough so that it would still "almost" connect but not quite. Back in good shape now.
Robin I saw your post. Fortunately (or unfortunately) stages keep changing along with the challenges they bring. Ask 10 moms and you'll get 10 different answers on the "best" way to handle tantrums (or any other behavior). It sounds like you did very well. The "best" way to handle it is the way that works best for YOU. Every child is different, what works for one, doesn't for another (a lesson I needed to learn the hard way). Be sensitive to your childs age, stage of development and environment (sounds like you already are). Kids give you LOTS and LOTS of chances to learn. .thank goodness they are resilient (more than we give them credit for) and forgive our mistakes just as we forgive theirs. Also remember everyone has bad days and sometimes it isn't an age or stage..just a bad day. I guess maybe it's important to not say NO all the time..they will quickly become desensitized to it and to not reinforce the tantrum by giving in after a long cry (if it's not important and you are going to give it do it right in the beginning). Raising kids....it's the hardest job you'll ever love
My dd saw Pirates at the midnight show last night. She said "it was darker than she thought it would be, not as funny as the first and had a great ending". She's going again tonight, LOL. I can't wait to go see it, if I feel up to it maybe Sunday.
Hey I went onto the DVC site to see whats up and put in my Castaway Cay number. There are some screensavers, wallpapers, coloring book pages and recipes up there. The Palo chocolate mousse recipe is there
And my BCV studio for August 23-25 came through now I hope I'm better enough to go!

 

[IleneF]

P.S. Bragging Rights...
My son just got his class ranking for first year Law School. He is NUMERO UNO in his class!! YIPEE! This is really amazing considering the incredibly rough and rocky road he took to get there. Suffice it to say he is slightly LD but gifted and basically flunked out of HS but traveled his own road and got his HS diploma, went to a two yr college, transferred to a state college, changed his major from Aviation Science to Political Sci, applied to Law School, got accepted but then found out he was short one course for his undergraduate degree, the Law School accepted him, he had to complete the missing course the spring semester as it wasn't offered last fall. So he finally got his undergrad degree in May and also finished his first very successful year in Law School. More than you needed to know but we are so very happy for him. He is THE lesson for letting your kids lead the way with your guidance and support and they WILL succeed if it THEIR dream and not yours.

 

[ohanafamily]

P.S. Bragging Rights...
My son just got his class ranking for first year Law School. He is NUMERO UNO in his class!! YIPEE! This is really amazing considering the incredibly rough and rocky road he took to get there. Suffice it to say he is slightly LD but gifted and basically flunked out of HS but traveled his own road and got his HS diploma, went to a two yr college, transferred to a state college, changed his major from Aviation Science to Political Sci, applied to Law School, got accepted but then found out he was short one course for his undergraduate degree, the Law School accepted him, he had to complete the missing course the spring semester as it wasn't offered last fall. So he finally got his undergrad degree in May and also finished his first very successful year in Law School. More than you needed to know but we are so very happy for him. He is THE lesson for letting your kids lead the way with your guidance and support and they WILL succeed if it THEIR dream and not yours.

Woooo Hooo, Congrats IleneF!!!

 

[rsschneck]

P.S. Bragging Rights...
My son just got his class ranking for first year Law School. He is NUMERO UNO in his class!! YIPEE! This is really amazing considering the incredibly rough and rocky road he took to get there. Suffice it to say he is slightly LD but gifted and basically flunked out of HS but traveled his own road and got his HS diploma, went to a two yr college, transferred to a state college, changed his major from Aviation Science to Political Sci, applied to Law School, got accepted but then found out he was short one course for his undergraduate degree, the Law School accepted him, he had to complete the missing course the spring semester as it wasn't offered last fall. So he finally got his undergrad degree in May and also finished his first very successful year in Law School. More than you needed to know but we are so very happy for him. He is THE lesson for letting your kids lead the way with your guidance and support and they WILL succeed if it THEIR dream and not yours.

Congrats to your son! And might I add Ilene I totally agree with your last sentence!

 

[rsschneck]

Ok we are back from the seeing Pirates!!

Luckily there is a theatre not to far from us that is rarely crowded so that's were we went. We met up with my sister at Panera Bread for lunch and then off to the movie theatre!

Lets just say I can't wait until Memorial Weekend next year (when they are supposed to be coming out with part 3). There was some really funny parts! And some surprises..........

Okay for a 9 1/2 year old? DD thinks it might be scary!