2 months after death; a new life

[AlaskaMOM]

Today my deceased son's girlfriend had their baby.

I know I should be so happy, but I am having a hard time getting over him "missing" the celebratory time a new baby brings.

She is a cute little baby, all her fingers and toes.

I don't know what I'm supposed to be feeling.... just so mixed up!

What am I supposed to do?
(this is just a question thrown out to the cosmos, not really expecting/wanting an answer)

 

[MariDisney]

I am so sorry you are going through this. The most joyous day and saddest all wrapped into one. Sending you hugs. Feel free to vent here if you need to.

 

[*BTMRR*]

 

[luvmy3]

 

[N&B'smom]

What a happy yet tough day. I can't even begin to imagine what you're dealing with but I do know one thing, that little tiny baby that's part of your son will bring you so much joy down the road. Go love that little sweetie!!!

 

[MAKmom]

Honor your son & enjoy your new DGD.

 

[JessicaR]

There are no shoulds and supposed to's. You feel what you feel. I know you will embrace that sweet little girl as your son would. I am so sorry, my heart breaks for you.

 

[Stacerita]

Enjoy that baby. I know today had to be difficult for you. But rejoice in the birth of your grandchild.

 

[izziecat]

First of all I am so very sorry for your loss, and congratulations on your new grandchild. To me, it would only be reasonable for your emotions to be all over the place right now. My friend's son, who was stationed at Fort Richardson in Alaska was killed a month ago serving in Afghanistan. He too leaves behind a wife who is eight months pregnant with their first daughter, and a two year old son. I think that is one of the hardest issues is how these children will grow up not knowing their daddy. Also the fact that he never got to see his child born. I wish I had some words of wisdom, but all I can offer is that I will keep you both in my prayers.

 

[Briarmom]

Congratulations on your beautiful granddaughter.
I am so very sorry.

 

[4nana]

Oh sweetie, I can't begin to know the mixed emotions you must be feeling . The terrible heartbreak of losing your loving son, yet the joy of birth of this innocent beautiful baby ~ his daughter and your granddaughter.

They say God doesn't close one door without opening another . Perhaps this sweet bundle of joy from above will help heal some of your pain if you can embrace this child, who is part of your son, and feel the love and joy that only our grandbabies can bring us grandparents. It is truly a love like no other.

BTW ~ Congratualtions Gma and what's your sweet DGD's name?

First of all I am so very sorry for your loss, and congratulations on your new grandchild. To me, it would only be reasonable for your emotions to be all over the place right now. My friend's son, who was stationed at Fort Richardson in Alaska was killed a month ago serving in Afghanistan. He too leaves behind a wife who is eight months pregnant with their first daughter, and a two year old son. I think that is one of the hardest issues is how these children will grow up not knowing their daddy. Also the fact that he never got to see his child born. I wish I had some words of wisdom, but all I can offer is that I will keep you both in my prayers.

I am so sorry for yours, your son's and that poor family's sad loss and heartache . I truly thank that young man for giving the ulitmate sacrifice for our country and freedom. What a terrible tragedy this war has caused so many . Our son has 10 mos left in AFG and he is in a terrible territory where I can only hope and pray his
guardian angel is with him, the troops, and their every step. Godspeed these brave heros. ^i^

 

[pppiglet]

I remember reading your story months ago and felt so bad. Thank you for coming back and sharing. You are sure to have mixed feelings, but enjoy your new GD. I am sure as she grows you'll start seeing traces of you DS in her.

 

[disneyfav4ever]

 

[Eeyores Butterfly]

What a difficult time in your life. Your family continues to be in my prayers.

 

[GraysMom]

 

[Disneyland1084]

Today my deceased son's girlfriend had their baby.

I know I should be so happy, but I am having a hard time getting over him "missing" the celebratory time a new baby brings.

She is a cute little baby, all her fingers and toes.

I don't know what I'm supposed to be feeling.... just so mixed up!

What am I supposed to do?
(this is just a question thrown out to the cosmos, not really expecting/wanting an answer)

 

[quasar4legs]

Sending you all some Koala cuddles from 'down under'.
Thinking of you.

 

[Tuffcookie]

OP,



Congratulations, you are a grandma!

I know the circumstances aren't the most ideal but a part of your son was left behind! I hope your DS's girl friend will continue to let you be a part of your DGD's life!

TC

 

[minnie56]

Such a blessing..part of your son lives on with your new grandbaby.
That he isn't here to share in this joy is so very sad...there is no way you should feel. Your emotions must be all over the place..understandable.

Hold her close and think of him..he would want you to.

 

[safetymom]

Congratulations on your granddaughter. I know it is tough.