4luv2cdisney
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her parents say they had her in therapy long before moving out, and there were some meds involved. if she was having disciplinary problems at school (including suspensions), bullying her sister, and other behavioral issues that may be effected by outside influences (like a boyfriend) it may have been a therapeutic recommendation that the parents take a stance-and draw a line in the sand as far as what they deemed as support vs. privilege (and an expensive private school along with the expenses of being a cheerleader and lacrosse player with a car of your own are hardly basic needs).
I know plenty of people whose parents had/have hard and fast rules to remain (as adults) living in their homes, and sometimes that can include not having a relationship with someone the parents see as a negative/disruptive influence.
Could be. And that would be understandable. The suspensions could be because of an emotional / mental disorder alone. We don't really know, I guess.
Seems this girl has taken the initiative to apply to colleges, get accepted, even has a 20K scholarship offer despite whatever her recent school problems were. The dad said he is not withholding her college fund (money that's already been set aside for her). Yet, he stopped paying her HS tuition......? Seems odd.
If it's a "my house, my rules" issue....well she's not living at home. So, sure, don't give her the car, don't pay for her sports and don't give her any money to live on. Make her get a job, but I can't imagine not paying for her schooling. She's obviously still doing well enough to graduate (seems like the school is backing her up to some extent) and she wants to go to college. So, if your genuine concern is about your child's well being and maybe a boyfriend leading her down the wrong path and you just want what's best for her, your response is to yank her chances of graduating HS and getting a college education? Something just doesn't add up to me.

Another article with some more detail:
http://www.11alive.com/news/local/story.aspx?storyid=322908