16 and Pregnant Part 2

[ZPT1022]

Anyone watching tonight? This poor girl's baby daddy is a real d-bag.

I DVR'ed it and watched it yesterday afternoon. OMG, this season is awful. I cannot believe that kid and his behavior! The girl is definitely better off without him but I hope she can realize that on her own. That message that he sent her, calling the baby a mistake, ugh, that is just lower than low. I hope she does terminate his rights and someday when he is a sad and lonely man he regrets it, reaches out to the child and gets snubbed in return.

OMG, I am so disgusted with that jerk!! How can anyone say that about their own child?
I think she is doing a great job, she is trying her best. She went out for 1 stinkin night, the baby was cared for and she came home early to be back with her child.
I am teary-eyed for her....poor thing!

Of this season, she is so far the mom I like the best. I thought she was going to be another whiny spoiled brat but she seems to really love the baby and to be very bonded to the baby and to really put the baby first- which is how it should be. I mean, she went out once? To a football game at her high school, but then declined to go out to the rest of the evening's festivities in favor of being home with the baby? And she second guessed herself the entire time she was out. I couldn't believe the "dad" of the baby had the nerve to call her and tell her she was irresponsible. This coming from the guy who would rather sleep than visit his baby in the nicu and would rather work on his POS car than to be there when his baby came home from the hospital. This show aggravates me to no end but I can't seem to stop myself from watching it. If my girls were a bit older I would be making them watch it and see what the reality of being a kid with a kid really is.

 

[disneymomofmyca]

The boys on the last 2 episodes have been so utterly horrible! After the text message on the last episode I turned to my husband and said " If Mason(DS15) ever disrepects his girl or her parents like that you better put an end to it immediatly" I can't believe these boys parents aren't stepping in to put a stop to this over the top disrespectful behavior! I would be mortified if I was the parent of one of these boys...I assume they probably are now that the episodes have aired

 

[Cornhusk]

So I finally saw the show and unlike the other teenage moms who went out way too much to take care of their kids and let their boyfriends walk all over them, this girl had a good head on her shoulders about things. Like she genuinely loved being around her daughter and that boyfriend was such a jerk that when he left, I am happy that she got his last name away from the little girl, he is a jerk and scum. Also, it was nice seeing a parent who didn't always yell at their daughter like the first episode.

 

[Hillbeans]

I really enjoyed the first season but it seems for this season they really went for a different kind of crowd of kids...not watching anymore.

I think I mostly watched last time just because of the Adoption story line, but now it's just depressing seeing these girls going to parties and having these horrible boyfriends.

 

[stahshee]

I DVR'ed it and watched it yesterday afternoon. OMG, this season is awful. I cannot believe that kid and his behavior! The girl is definitely better off without him but I hope she can realize that on her own. That message that he sent her, calling the baby a mistake, ugh, that is just lower than low. I hope she does terminate his rights and someday when he is a sad and lonely man he regrets it, reaches out to the child and gets snubbed in return.



Of this season, she is so far the mom I like the best. I thought she was going to be another whiny spoiled brat but she seems to really love the baby and to be very bonded to the baby and to really put the baby first- which is how it should be. I mean, she went out once? To a football game at her high school, but then declined to go out to the rest of the evening's festivities in favor of being home with the baby? And she second guessed herself the entire time she was out. I couldn't believe the "dad" of the baby had the nerve to call her and tell her she was irresponsible. This coming from the guy who would rather sleep than visit his baby in the nicu and would rather work on his POS car than to be there when his baby came home from the hospital. This show aggravates me to no end but I can't seem to stop myself from watching it. If my girls were a bit older I would be making them watch it and see what the reality of being a kid with a kid really is.

that guy was a hunk of poop

 

[tinkerbell_xo]

WHAT THE F!
I am so mad right now.
I feel like Lori is being backed into a corner. Not cool.

 

[acejka]

WHAT THE F!
I am so mad right now.
I feel like Lori is being backed into a corner. Not cool.

I feel the same way. The poor thing.

 

[tinkerbell_xo]

Maybe it is the best decision but Lori needs to be able to make it herself, and I think the baby's father should be on board too. Both of them were unsure and are still unsure. Aahhh I didn't like that one.
I've hated every boyfriend so far, except the other girl that was adopted, I thought her boyfriend could have potential and might eventually pull through and maybe at least provide for his baby. But I think these parents pushing adoption has been the worst yet.

 

[WeLoveLilo05]

I am watching (well doing stuff on the pc and doing wash so not fully paying attention) and this guy is a loser too. He can't sit with Lori to talk about the baby's future b/c he's going to be late to the bar?
What is up with these guys? They are so selfish! It makes me wonder if these boys will ever change, KWIM? Like when they are older and get married and decide to have kids....what will that be like? I know that these lil ones that are coming into the world in this show aren't planned, but these boys helped to make them, don't they feel a bond too between father and child? It's just so sad.

 

[hereyago]

All I kept saying was Wow to Lori's Mom. Her ex made the good point about he had a good support system and Lori did not. That is what it really amounted to. I almost cried it was just so upsetting.

 

[DisneyJules]

It really bothered me that the mother was so against her friend's throwing her a baby shower, she said something to the affect of "this is NOT something to celebrate," ouch! I mean honestly, even if the baby is being given up for adoption, you're still celebrating the birth of a child. I felt really bad for that girl, I agree, she seemed very cornered.

 

[eh24fan]

I think tonight's poor girl was steamrolled into adoption and that's where her confusion came in. Her boyfriend just didn't know which way to go and in all honesty wanted to keep his son. Let's not forget they are young and more emotional as it is, so he was just back and forth.

I can't imagine making that kind of decision at any age. How heartwrenching. Her mom was pushing it for selfish reasons IMO. I think her parents just didn't WANT a baby in the house at all. They weren't pushing it as a necessity because they thought it was best for the baby or Lori & Cory...they thought it was best for themselves.

And what was up with them calling him to "get answers"???? Huh?

 

[WeLoveLilo05]

It really bothered me that the mother was so against her friend's throwing her a baby shower, she said something to the affect of "this is NOT something to celebrate," ouch! I mean honestly, even if the baby is being given up for adoption, you're still celebrating the birth of a child. I felt really bad for that girl, I agree, she seemed very cornered.

I agree, I found out I was pregnant a few weeks shy of 20. DD was not planned, but me and fiance knew we wanted to be parents. My mom and dad were shocked (of course) when we told them, when my mom told my nan the next day my nan said something to the effect of she told you she is pregnant and having a baby, a little baby, a blessing, we will love him/her. I am teary eyed thinking about it, my nan passed when DD was about 6 months old. I get sad thinking she only had such a short time with DD, and DD does not remember her. She really cherished the time with her grandchildren and great grandchild. My family has been super supportive of me and my little family. I now live around the block from my mom and dad and DD is so close to my mom. It's still not easy, but DD is 5, she will start school in Sept. I just finished college in January, I will walk in May and receive a degree in education and psychology. It's been tough, but we got through and I know I could not have done it without my mom, dad, and fiance's support.

The baby shower is for THE BABY, not the mom. Every baby should be showered and celebrated and loved. I just felt really bad for Lori, she had no support. Her mom clearly did not want to help, her boyfriend said he would but was running out. This season has just made me disappointed.

 

[charming23]

Last night was heartbreaking. I felt so bad for Lori having adoption being pushed on her especially after her parents ambushed her after talking to the boyfriend. That was horrible.

 

[HonnyDipp]

I just finished watching last night's show. I was DISGUSTED with Lori's parents. From the beginning, they were dead set against Lori bringing a child into their home. It made me wonder if there were problems in that marriage that bringing a child in would make matters worse. It made me sick how they were trying to persuade that girl into giving up her child. I was a teen mom, my folks and I considered giving my daughter up. But from the beginning, I knew I wanted my daughter. My folks respected my choice and becuase they were my parents they helped me get on my feet. Lori's mom said that at 17 there was no way she could be a mom, not true. I had my daughter in March, graduated with my class in June and by September, I was in college. My family had my back, that's what familes do. The good and the bad, they are there when things get rough. After this show was over I called my parents. I was reminded of how lucky and blessed I was to have them in my corner during that difficult time.

 

[monkeybug]

My heart just broke in pieces for Lori! Poor girl!!!
I really hope that the adoption service she went with provides counciling and support. It seems to me like she really needs it, and I doubt she will get much from home.
I think her parents set them selves up for problems. It may have been the best decision, but it should have been Lori's decision, and they could have showed a lot more compassion while helping her make it. It's going to take a lot of growing, and an amazing maturity for that girl to forgive or let go of the negative feelings she must feel towards her mom. I can't imagine being a teen in that situation and feeling like you haven't got a safe place to land. No matter if they were right or not, it's got to hurt an awful lot to realize your parents are willing to let you and their grandchild live on the streets. That's some really, really tough love! With that much tough, it's got to be hard for a teen to see the love part at all.
That girl has got to be hurting so badly!

 

[simba20]

I, too, felt for Lori.

I wish there had been more explanantion as to why she felt she couldn't keep her son and live at home. Lori felt as though her only options were adoption or to move in with her boyfriend (which IMHO was not the best option there). Why did her parenst not present her with the option of allowing her to live at home and raise the baby...I know there was a comment her mother made about "One day we will be ready to be grandparents, but we don't want to be parents." Why did they feel that Lori would end up dropping her responsibility on them as though the baby were a new pet that Lori will become tired of after a few weeks (ummm Janelle).

On the other hand, I think that because Lori's parents had adopted her, they were more on the side of "there are childless couples out there who long to have children" as maybe those were thir circumstances that led to Lori being adopted by them.

It was sad all around. My heart broke when Lori said "Okay, you guys won this one." to her parents.

It also seemed that Lori was in a better situation/family than some of the other girls who have been shown. It's sad that her parents seemed to be of the "keep the baby and we will throw you out the door" mentality. That's the way it came off, but whoever did the editign on this episode did a crap job, because there was so much more that really needed to be explained.

 

[MainStMandy]

I, too, felt for Lori.

I wish there had been more explanantion as to why she felt she couldn't keep her son and live at home. Lori felt as though her only options were adoption or to move in with her boyfriend (which IMHO was not the best option there). Why did her parenst not present her with the option of allowing her to live at home and raise the baby...I know there was a comment her mother made about "One day we will be ready to be grandparents, but we don't want to be parents." Why did they feel that Lori would end up dropping her responsibility on them as though the baby were a new pet that Lori will become tired of after a few weeks (ummm Janelle).

I wondered this too...but did you catch at the end where they talked to her and basically told her she couldn't take of herself, how could she take care of a baby?? I understand where her parents were going with a lot of this stuff, but boy did they go about it wrong! This girls is obviously suffering from low-self esteem and I don't think her parents are helping.

 

[simba20]

I wondered this too...but did you catch at the end where they talked to her and basically told her she couldn't take of herself, how could she take care of a baby?? I understand where her parents were going with a lot of this stuff, but boy did they go about it wrong! This girls is obviously suffering from low-self esteem and I don't think her parents are helping.

Yes, and unlike Janelle there is a difference between helping your child out (such as allowing her to keep her baby and letting her live at home to save money) and then putting your foot down and teaching your daughter that the baby is her responsibility (i.e not to be a doormat and allow your teen to schlep the child off on you). I think her parents missed that reasoning when they made the "grandparents/parents comment"

However, I did not mind that THEY had to contact Lori's ex to get answers. Either Lori was lying to THEM about not hearing from him or two he was avoiding Lori, but would answer when her parents called.

Also, while teen dads get a bad rap, if he was soooo super serious about wanting to keep the baby, he could have without Lori. I think a course needs to be given to teen dad's about their rights as well. He could have chosen to take the baby and work out a visitation arrangement woth Lori......ahhhh oh, well, that's a dream world that doesn't exist.

I think, though, given her situation, and the ex's situation they did make a good choice for the baby. Too bad it was the only option given to her.

 

[WeLoveLilo05]

I just finished watching last night's show. I was DISGUSTED with Lori's parents. From the beginning, they were dead set against Lori bringing a child into their home. It made me wonder if there were problems in that marriage that bringing a child in would make matters worse. It made me sick how they were trying to persuade that girl into giving up her child. I was a teen mom, my folks and I considered giving my daughter up. But from the beginning, I knew I wanted my daughter. My folks respected my choice and becuase they were my parents they helped me get on my feet. Lori's mom said that at 17 there was no way she could be a mom, not true. I had my daughter in March, graduated with my class in June and by September, I was in college. My family had my back, that's what familes do. The good and the bad, they are there when things get rough. After this show was over I called my parents. I was reminded of how lucky and blessed I was to have them in my corner during that difficult time.

Very well said! I think Lori's parents pushed her to chose adoption b/c the baby would "inconvenience" them (Lori's parents). Yes, of course its not going to be easy, but when you are family that is what you do. I just wonder what Lori is feeling now, does she resent her parents for pushing her to that decision. I mean, I am sure if her parents said we are behind you in raising your child then I am sure she probably would have led more towards keeping her child. I think she felt that she was going to be doing this totally alone. I really felt bad for her.
Don't get me wrong, I am def. NOT bashing people who put their children up for adoption, but I see that Lori was really struggling with the idea and it wasn't something that she 100% wanted to do.