11 mo. old ring bearer?

[Kristi1357]

I thought this would be a good place to ask this question, even if it's not Disney-related...

My SIL is insisting (and being quite nasty about it) that our son be a ring bearer in her wedding this June. He will be two weeks shy of a year old on the wedding day. Isn't this insane or what? We explained that he may or may not be walking at that point. And if he is walking, he will not be capable of holding a pillow with rings and making it all the way down the aisle himself. Well, my DH's family's bright idea is to have DH carry him and the pillow down the aisle! DH is already an usher. I don't know what they expect for the bridesmaid he is paired up with to do, if he is holding a baby while going down the aisle.

We thought we were comprising in simply bringing DS to the wedding at all. Originally, we hadn't even considered it since he is so young. But, I can understand SIL wanting him in some family pics. But in the wedding? Now really!

Any thoughts?
Kristi

 

[Scratch42]

As long as she is fully aware that he will probably add some comic relief to the whole scene!LOL Or maybe a crying scene!LOL Children are so unpredictable!

If she really wants him there, why not. I am all for having children at family functions, after all they are part of the family!

Scratch

 

[Kristi1357]

I am leaning towards letting him do this since it's her wedding and if he does freak-out, it's on her, not me.

I guess I am more upset about how she went about this. We told her our concerns when she brought this up a month ago. She called DH last week to talk about it, and basically got all upset that we didn't give her the answer she wanted to hear. So she then hung up on DH (which really burns me) and called her Mommy to complain. Mommy was then on the phone to DH immediately. And this girl is mature enough to be married?!

Anyway, I remember my Disney Wedding in '99. Our neices were 20 mos. & 15 mos. old at the time. We called them honorary flower girls - bought them cute dresses. But really they were simply there and did not have any flower girl "duties." They were older than DS will be and they certainly could not handle walking down a short aisle back then (only 30 guests, about 4 rows of chairs). Nevermind making it down an aisle of over 100 guests as SIL is having!

Oh well! Hopefully all will be fine. Too bad the ceremony is during his normal nap time - should make things interesting anyway...

 

[Fantasia Sam]

LOL Kristi the wedding is during normal naptime well that will make it very interesting indeed.

I think it's sweet, a little crazy, but sweetal all the same that your SIL is gunning for your son to be in the bridal party - and I see by your last post that you have surrendered to the request - very wise - as you say it's her wish so guess you should let her get on with it.

But we definitely want a full wedding recap

 

[madelyn]

I had my then 2.5 year old nephew in our wedding at the Wedding Pavilion. He was very small for his age and he walked very slowly and crooked down the aisle. It was very cute and all the guests laughed but that scared my nephew even more. He didn't cry though. I heard of a wedding where the infant nephew was in the wedding. He had to ride down the aisle in his infant car seat/carrier that was in a "Snap N Go" stroller frame. I remember the wedding coordinator talking about it before the wedding and they planned to decorate the stroller/carseat with tulle and make it "wedding-like". If there are other children in the wedding, maybe one of them can pull a decorated wagon with the "ring bearer" in it.

 

[DisneyFanJen]

we are planning to have my godson in our wedding as our ringbearer, he will be 20 months old then. I love this little boy as though he were my own. i was his mother's birthing coach (dad is not in the picture), and have been around this little boy nearly every day of his life. my fiance and i have a place 3 houses down from him. no matter if he was walking or not, i cannot imagine him NOT being in our wedding.

he is walking though - in fact running, and has been since he was 5 months old. but the problem that we were worried about was that he would not want to walk, or would just get scared stand there. so we were thinking of either having our 9 year old flower girl hold his hand down the aisle or have her pull him inside of a decorated wagon - which he loves to sit in. we were going to decorate it in sheets of satin or tulle to match our colors.

PS. Brides - check out www.theknot.com and their boards - great girls on there with great advice!!!! i have done most of my planning on there

good luck,

 

[jennandsg]

I'm having my Future Nephew, who will be 18 mos and my neice who will be 23 mos as the flower girl and ring bearer. They are both walking fine, but I'm not sure if they can make it down the isle by themselves, so I am having my junior bridesmaid walk them down together.