This is the worst week of my life

Discussion in 'Budget Board' started by BlueIvy, Sep 4, 2013.

  1. BlueIvy

    BlueIvy Earning My Ears<br><a href="http://www.disboards.c

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    Omg @ the meaness on this board by certain posters...I've just dealt with the worst thing I've ever gone through in my life and I'm being told well fine be depressed and broke on your vacation. I have no plans on being depressed. I'm trying to keep my mind off the fact that I was just cheated on,lied to and had the crap beat out of me. I saved for this trip . I planned it for my kids and I plan to enjoy it and escape. As far as emergencies I can control ..I'm packing asprin,dayquil,sleep aids and other medicine we may need on board. My kids are excited for this trip. I never buy lunchables at home but I bought them for my kids as a vacation treat ..they're excited just to have that..and they have their own giftcards for souvenirs . I think we'll make it just fine . Ill have a couple of kids meals and I booked the plaza as our one table service. It doesn't take much to make my kids happy. Ill be happy just being in a different enviroment so I'm not stuck at home being depressed and dwelling on something I can't change. I can't change what happened to me but I can still try to give my kids a nice vacation. I'm not going to deprive my kids on this vacation. If I have to eat a kids meal at every meal just to give them $20 to spend in the arcade than ill do that. I want them to be happy and for them to feel spoiled.
     
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  3. BlueIvy

    BlueIvy Earning My Ears<br><a href="http://www.disboards.c

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    Were really looking forward to the dole whip floats . We loved them on our last visit.
     
  4. NHTikiBeckie

    NHTikiBeckie DIS Veteran

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    Don't let those responses bother you...it's only been a couple posters and you have received a ton of support...I know those stick out, but they are definitely the minority here. Have a great time!
     
  5. Zeebs

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    Best of luck to you, I am pleased you contacted Safe Haven and have the support of them. Go have a fantastic time, that's plenty of money to take with you and feed yourself and two little ones.

    To the people who think this is a scam or lies - you know what I do on facebook when people continually share stuff that is clearly a scam, well apart from uttering the words you edjit, I ignore them. It's that easy you don't need to reply.

    Kirsten
     
  6. lilkimmyk

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    Good for you! You are being so strong for your kids! Enjoy your vacation and try to relax! Have fun! :thumbsup2
     
  7. Zim

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    PS - also, if you don't have little costumes to bring along for MNNSHP and you have a Party City near you, at least ours is having a $5 for yellow dot sticker costumes trying to clear inventory for the onslaught of new 2013 merchandise.

    You might find some cute pirate costumes that would do double duty as things they could wear for the pirate party night on the cruise and for trick or treating at MNSSHP.
     
  8. irishsharon

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    :grouphug: I hope you and your kids have a wonderful time:grouphug: Please take care of yourself:hug:
     
  9. Nennie

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    $400 is plenty for 3 days!!!!

    Our last trip, we set a goal of spending $36/day on food, and we were successful!

    We packed a whole suitcase with just food! Granola bars, cereal, bread, peanut butter, coffee, etc. We used out pre-purchased food for breakfast and lunch every day, and then treated ourselves to c/s dinner each night (usually not in the parks, as it is so much cheaper to eat off-site). We don't drink soda, so drinking water with our meals isn't really a sacrifice, but it does help the budget!

    Also, if you really pig out on the cruise (like I usually do! LOL!), you'll be looking to take a break from heavy eating anyway!

    Have a wonderful trip!!!!!!!! :goodvibes:goodvibes
     
  10. OrangeCountyCommuter

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    I have a theory... some of these posters who know exactly HOW YOU should live your life actually are probably the exact opposite. It's "easy" to come on a message board and pretend your life is perfect......

    There is a DIS poster out there who shall rename nameless ... However, she also wanders around the park with big green lime Mickey's plastered to her bags with her screen name. I had the misfortune to dine with them once. SCREAMING and RUNNING through the restaurant, nearly tripping several waiters... that was the premeal entertainment. When dinner came they threw food at each other, when the kids were done they announce "we are done, let's go " (And the parents actually got the waiter and left with most of their meal still sitting there!) Kids were hitting their parents .. saw them later that night in a shop and they were "i want i want" and mom was piling up stuff and whipping out that credit card. So I came back and looked her up on the DIS "My kids can go to fine dining because they know how to behave" "we NEVER use credit cards" :rotfl2::rotfl2: She is also one who often tells other's "how to live"

    At that point I realized that at least some of the posters are "do as I say" and paint this picture to make themselves feel better. So when you post that things aren't going well it gives some folks a chance to "prove" their message board status by telling you how wrong you are.. But realize that there's a strong chance at least some of them are probably not really "lead by example" type!

    GO, have fun and quit reading this thread. I think you have gotten what you can out of it!
     
  11. Vickibean

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    Blue Ivy-

    I hope you have a WONDERFUL time!

    5 years ago, my then-husband showed no signs of violence. He came home one night and tried to strangle me. I fought for my life for what seemed like an eternity, and I survived.

    When his ex-wife heard what happened, she said "he used to beat me all the time".

    Press charges! Get a restraining order! Don't expect him to get much more than a slap on the wrist from the justice system, but it will be a heads-up for future girlfriends.
     
  12. DisneyFansInLINY

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    Have a great time! You and your children deserve a vacation after the ordeal you have been through.
     
  13. grimley1968

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    I'm not sure I've seen this mentioned as a "budgetary tool" in here yet: Getting the Quick Service Dining Plan. I normally don't think paying for any of the dining plans actually saves any money, but it IS nice to know that you've paid in advance for all the food and drink you'd really need in a trip. It's sort of like being on a cruise that way, though the food on the QSDP isn't what you'll get on the cruise. It could be too late to get it for your check-in, though.

    Otherwise, I think there has been some great advice on here regarding saving money where possible. I agree with most others that, especially since the trip is paid for and you couldn't ordinarily get a refund, you may as well go. The problems with the ex-boyfriend will still remain, but that's true whether you went or not, and if you're not around, there's that much less opportunity for him to find you. And, as others have said, it sounds like you and the kids have earned a few days rest from your troubles.

    I believe everything you've said, and can't see why anyone would post your story if it weren't true. It has to be hard to relate that story in a public forum such as this. There is a shelter in my small town that is pretty well-known over a multi-county region for their help in cases like this. My Kiwanis club tries to help however we can, though it's a drop in the bucket for what they need, especially with kids normally in the equation. Basically, it's a place where families can be safe from domestic violence while EPO's, legal actions, etc. are worked out. Their problem is that they don't want to become TOO well known where they are, etc. It's a fine line between being a well-known resource for abuse victims, and being a target of the abusers. But surely there are places like that where OP lives, in addition to the nationwide resources already mentioned in this thread.

    OP, thanks for posting this, and I'm sorry you're going through this. Hopefully, the ex-boyfriend will be brought to justice soon, and you can live a more peaceful life after your return from vacation. This thread has been an eye-opener, for me at least. I've always assumed violent tendencies would be obvious to everyone who knows someone who commits such acts. Reading this thread has taught me otherwise. To OP and everyone who has experienced the domestic violence detailed here: :hug:

    OP, please enjoy your trip!
     
  14. luvsJack

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    And if she hadn't put in all the details she would have been slammed for that. And OMG, no one DARES put the details in later because that's "changing the story".

    For every single abuser there is a first time. For some there is that one thing that set them off and they go blind with rage suddenly. It happens. Or maybe there were warning signs that she didn't see until after the beating she took. Not everyone has the blessing of hindsight before something happens.

    Maybe she wanted to confront her? I doubt she thought about what she wanted to accomplish, maybe she just wanted the truth and knew she wasn't going to get it from him.
     
  15. tinker&belle

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    I still think it would be wise to at least call and see if you can postpone; but if you are going anyway I think you could add the regular DDP for about 90 a day. You would have sit down meals then but you would have to tip.
     
  16. Shleedogg

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    Honestly, with no previous inklings of violence, I probably would have called the other woman too!

    Hugs to you and your kids! I'm with the majority of the posters - I'm glad you're going and not letting him get the best of you! $400 is more than doable. We always pack snacks and breakfast at home. Pop tarts are the favorite vacation food that's a no no at home (like lunchables for your kids).

    I wouldn't worry too much about souvenirs. For kids who are experiencing their first time at Disney and universal, the attractions and characters will take their attention for sure. You said they had their own souvenir money/gc I think so they'll probably spend it carefully and find exactly the right thing.

    You might want to grab a WDW themed notebook at the dollar store (ours always seem to have them in stock) or index cards for autographs. The index cards you can put in a photo album later for them with a pic of them.

    Stay safe! I agree with the PP who said to stay somewhere else the night before (maybe when you return too). You don't want any unexpected problems/delays. Have fun and enjoy your trip!!!
     
  17. mrsklamc

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    Don't you have to be staying on property to add the DDP?
     
  18. bankgirl05

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    Blue Ivy,

    I think that you are showing your kids, that when bad things happen, you have to pick yourself up and move on.

    Have a wonderful, fun filled trip. When you get back, please make sure that you continue to show your kids how strong you really are!!! When you return, get over the shock, betrayal and grief and get good and MAD!!!

    When you get home feel free to reach out to me here, I always have a sympathetic ear.
     
  19. NHTikiBeckie

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    Yes you do, and it isn't really a money saver at all anymore either. We crunched the numbers and it was easily cheaper to eat without it.
     
  20. cheshireqt

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    Good for you! I hope the excitement grows and grows!!! :thumbsup2
     
  21. cheshireqt

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    Oh my goodness I so badly want to know who that is now :lmao:
     

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