This is the worst week of my life

Discussion in 'Budget Board' started by BlueIvy, Sep 4, 2013.

  1. ZehnJahren

    ZehnJahren DIS Veteran

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    I would have taken a picture of the bruise, sent it, and said "no, THIS is how much he loves us. So please don't contact me on his behalf again."

    What a lowlife. Good luck to you.
     
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  3. Zim

    Zim Meow meow

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    It's tough to hear all the groveling and wonder if it might work out. It sounds like you've got that under control. In your weak moments look at your kids because if you have a daughter, she likely will follow the pattern you provide for her (so will a son). Part of that is what people feel they deserve and can cope with based on what they grew up around. it's an amazing thing when someone can grow out of a bad pattern but its hard to do. Find a strong father figure for them to imprint on.,, not someone who pummels their mom when they can't control their anger issues. The minute you take him back is the minute he gets confirmation his behavior was acceptable. Or just be a strong single mom I've managed it for the past 14 years and have an amazing DD15 to show for it. :) no regrets here.
     
  4. crisi

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    If you keep getting the run around from the detective once you return.

    Our county under the office of the County Attorney's office offers a Victims Advocate.

    In Minnesota a restraining order is a civil document - you don't need a case. You would need to pay for it.
     
  5. bdcp

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    They are always sorry. He can be sorry, and you can forgive him, but that doesn't mean you have to let him back into your life. Abuse is a deal breaker for me. I have never been abused (married 32 years to a wonderful man) but have friends who have been. Most got out, one got out because her husband died not long after of a heart attack. Those who stayed married did so because their spouse got help. This guy was just your boyfriend. Do not go back to him and /ormarry him because this will happen again and again. And, possibly to your kids. You need to protect them.
     
  6. goNDmay9

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    Isn't today Day one of vacay??? Sending hugs and good vibes. Cannot wait to hear about the trip when you get back. Plus, you can let us know how well you did on your budget!!!

    Have a blast!!
     
  7. lauradis

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    He doesn't deserve to say sorry. Block him and everyone else that he is using to contact you . He leaves letters make copy give it to police, screen shot stuff off facebook give copy to police...

    But in now way shape or form should you ever reply to him. He will stop trying to hound you in time, change your number don't give it out till its over.

    I wouldn't talk to anyone that has anything to do with him and I would tell them what he did will not be tolerated period, please don't contact me or my family.

    There is power in taking back control use it.

    Have great trip.
     
  8. snowwite

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    I am just astounded by the lack of empathy and the sheer meanness of some of the comments. This woman had the strength to come on here and tell people about her abuser. She was looking for a little support and advice. If you could not offer either one then why comment at all? She could be your friend, your sister, your mother or your neighbor. How can people be so small that they cannot imagine how it feels to be a victim? I've learned a few things and one of them is you don't give a man like that the power to continue to harm you or your children. She took the kids on a preplanned cruise and trip to Disney which is exactly what she should do. To stay home lets this dirtbag win and teaches the kids to be afraid and that might makes right. It took courage to come on here and admit what he did and it took guts to carry on as if he did not do it. If don't have something nice to say the please say nothing at all.

    To the OP, I'm not sure if you will see this before you get back but I hope you and your kids have a wonderful trip. I'm sorry that you are going through this but it will make you stronger. Trust me on this. You will glad you did not let this monster take this trip and the memories you will make away from you and your kids.
    You already got a lot of money saving ideas for meals. You will be fine on $600 with small kids. Coco Key where you are staying had a free breakfast when we stayed there as well as free water park and minigolf. If you have a kitchen get some food at shops like fruit,cheese,cereal and milk. I'm assuming you will have a rental car as it is off site. Try Sweet Tomatoes over at Crossroads. It is a buffet but all fresh fruit/veg, salads, baked potatoes, pizza, pasta,soups and desserts and drinks and it is cheap. I think it was $12 for me and my daughter in June. Have a terrific time.
    Stay strong.:hug:
     
  9. NHTikiBeckie

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    Looks like the mods removed the comments from the user who said she deserved it, very happy to see that.
     
  10. usd2bmd

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    To answer the bolded. if you stay home he wins... he succeeds in disrupting your life more than he already has. I have never been in your situation but I feel for you. Your kids need this trip but so do you. You need it to remember that there is still fun to be had in the world. Go and enjoy the time with your kids.
     
  11. mrsklamc

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    Worth repeating, especially if they specifically acknowledge guilt.
     
  12. kymom99

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    Wondering how the vacation went. Hope the OP posts an update!:)
     
  13. AlyssinWonderland

    AlyssinWonderland Lost in the Looking Glass

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    OP- I really hope you post to let us know how your trip went! I hope you had a magical time and great break! My prayers and thoughts are with you!
    :hug:
     
  14. disneylove69

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    Hope u had a good time. As far as the **** you need to make sure you change the locks, get a restraining order, change your ph# and prosecute him!!!!! Take him to civil court for damages and the hotel fees. You and your kids deserve the best :)
     
  15. JoShan1719

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    OP I hope your trip was wonderful! Please come update!
     
  16. kiki02

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    I'm so sorry for you. You deserve better. CHIN UP . work hard and take time for yourself and kids.

    Don't let this bring you down. If you do, then 'they' win.... :flower3:
     
  17. Schrute Farms

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    I just listened to the podcast and heard about this thread. I had to check it out. I am heart broken for you that this happened.

    No woman deserves this. Please love on your children for us.

    I hope you went and had a great vacation.
     

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