I love to spend holidays with family.
But to plan a vacation that "suits everybody" in my family? My parents. My siblings. Their children? No. No way.
Our family gets one good vacation a year. Sometimes day dreaming about this vacation gets me through some pretty tough times
I am not about to plan it around what my SIL enjoys or what my nieces or nephews would find fun. They have younger children. Why should I take away from my teens so we can plan vacations with toddlers?
I am going to plan a vacation around what my partner and I enjoy. I am going to plan my vacation with MY children in mind. I am going to dedicate one week a year to my immediate family.
I don't want to raise my children like you were raised. I don't want them to feel they have to accommodate a gaggle of family members for their one hard earned vacation a year. It is NOT selfish to reward yourself with what YOU want to do on vacation.