Young dating...

[VolleyballQt07]

I think when you can drive, you can date. Think about it, middleschoolers can't drive. So do they really go out? No! They just hang out at school/recess and call each other alot. They are just being friends I think.

All of my "old friends" have BF's/GF's. Its stupid. At school dances, they dance to a slow song, kiss each other on the cheek, then leave their "date" until another slow song and go hang out with their friends and flirt with the opposite sex when they aren't with their BF/GF. Its stupid. I had a BF in 6th grade. He asked me out at a dance on a Friday night. I said yes(because I was stupid and immature)and then realized over the weekend we weren't really gonna be dating. We would just hang out at school and stuff like we usually do. So, the next Monday at recess, I "broke up" with him. I told him I wasn't ready for a BF and asked if we could just be friends. He said yeah, and he was sorry. He asked me out again a couple weeks later and told him no. But we are still friends today.

But I personally think 16+ is an appropriate age to start dating.

 

[BabyPiglet]

I think that as long as they don't go "too far" (ya know what I mean), it's perfectly fine at about 7th or 8th grade.

I don't like those girls who ask a boy out on Monday and dump them on Wednesday. It's unbelievable that kids do that. If that's what all middle schoolers do, then they are obviously not ready for a serious relationship. There's the most popular girl who's been with the most popular guy for *gasp* approx. 7 months. But they do "break up" every week or so and then forgive each other the next day.

There are some really immature kids in our school. I'll get on the bus in the morning and be amazed at what I hear flying out of these kids mouths. They not only say curse words, but throw rude and unnessecary comments at one another. Eek.

I, personally, am in love. And I'm not talking about one of those cheesy boyfriend deals (more like scams) I've mentioned above. I think if I (or he) mustered up the courage to confront each other, we could really love each other (and I don't mean "you know what"). Like, I've seen some signs. He talks to me, and he's only "rude" around his friends. He gives me these weird stares in our Spanish class; I think that's his way of getting my attention. And golly, does it work! He's said hi to me numerous times in the hallway, and I've caught him sneaking some looks at me in gym class. So today I was proud of myself when he looked my way while I was hitting the win for us in volleyball. I want to tell him so bad, but it's so hard. Once I asked him why he gives me those looks, and he thought I was mad, so he was like, "I'm sorry" and I was like, "No no, I just wanna know why you look at me in Spanish" He started to laugh, I think that was a sign. He might have been laughing because he thinks I should know why he stares. And I do. Ah, love love love...

Oh dear, I've turned this into my own Fairytale! Carry on with your opinions, everyone!

Fairytail? You are seriously kidding me right? Shelly, come on. How can you be in love with someone who is a jerk to you when he's around his friends. Even if he does like you, you can do better than someone who is rude to you part of the time. And don't deny it, you've said that he was rude before. I am just trying to be a good friend and tell you this is not a fairytale. He is playing you.

You can do better Shelly

 

[Vannah]

I think that the appropriate dating age is whenever you can drive. I mean, are you really going to ask your mom to drive you and your date to the movies, where she will stay probably next to you the whole time?

 

[BabyPiglet]

I think that the appropriate dating age is whenever you can drive. I mean, are you really going to ask your mom to drive you and your date to the movies, where she will stay probably next to you the whole time?

Hmmmm good point. Although in 7th grade, I had a "date" with this boy. My dad drove us to the movies and my mom picked us up. It was my first "real date" and it was basically a blind one, because I couldn't remember what he looked like. We had only met once, and he said I was cute. LOL..

So horrible. He dropped his money at the pay thingy. He didn't even offer to get me a soda, so I was thirsty the whole time. And the movie sucked. He didn't say two words to me the whole time, and to top it all off he fell down the stairs on his front porch. I had such a headache after that.

 

[2HOT2touch]

i had a boyfriend when I was in 7th grade, but I didn't take it too seriously. Then i had another boyfriend in 9th grade but that didn't last very long(we saw each other too much) but we were really close friends afterward. and now I have a boyfriend and this relationship is probably the longest I have ever been in, and I don't want it to end because he makes me really happy. And I mean we are kind of serious, because if we weren't it would have been over with in the first week, because there are soooo many people that don't want us together. but at the same time we are in highschool and we don't live anywhere near each other and we want to go to colleges that are not very close to each other.
So I think it is a good age probably after 16 and before that it's okay to hook up with people I guess like when you're in high school, but in middle school I don't being just really close friends works just fine.

 

[DisGirlAllie]

I think when you can drive, you can date. Think about it, middleschoolers can't drive. So do they really go out? No! They just hang out at school/recess and call each other alot.

No we don't! We go to the movies and the mall!

 

[Babyjustrun]

Honestly, people in my grade have been dating since about grade 4.
Most of them started in grade 5. It was never serious they just went 'Oh, I like him.' But they never hung out.
It stayed this way for a while.
People only really started dating last year. A lot of them claim to have kissed, but they're really just doing it as a facade and I'm not sure why. I don't envy them, I honestly don't care who they've kissed.

I think towards grade 8 is a good time. Better when you're in high school. It's a lot less like 'OMG I LUVVV HIM!!!' and you've been going out for two days, and actually didn't have a date yet. I honestly think when people tell another they like them, to actually ask them out. Otherwise, it's just like 'Yeah.. we both like each other..' but you didn't do anything about it.

I personally, don't know people who have had sex. Though there is one that I wouldn't be suprised about.
But my math/science/health teacher has said that some of the boys she's taught in about the past 5 years, have had gotten people pregnant, without a doubt.

 

[VolleyballQt07]

No we don't! We go to the movies and the mall!

How do you get there?


I'm talking over all. Because most kids/teens won't want their parents driving them around places. It'd be kinda akward(sp?) I think..............

 

[AngienLuLu]

Everyone says that there is no such thing as being young and in love. They say teen love will never last. What those people don't realize is that 50% of adult love doesn't last either.

 

[milkabum]

Girls are having boyfriends in grade four/age nine now.
Pretty creepy.

I'm in grade seven, and I don't want a boyfriend now. Too much things going on and either way we'd be seperated when we go to high schools because I doubt there are many guys that I happen to know that are auditioning for schools for the performing arts.

I have swimming, music, friends, photography and my family to be worried about. Not a relationship at thirteen.

 

[shellybellypolo]

Fairytail? You are seriously kidding me right? Shelly, come on. How can you be in love with someone who is a jerk to you when he's around his friends. Even if he does like you, you can do better than someone who is rude to you part of the time. And don't deny it, you've said that he was rude before. I am just trying to be a good friend and tell you this is not a fairytale. He is playing you.

You can do better Shelly

Thanks, But I seriously think he doesn't mean it. He could be just pretending to be mean, which I think is my case. The only reason I fell hard for him was because he hangs out with this group. Their names are Zainab, Travis, and himself. Well one day I felt like [Insert word that describes horrible here] and Travis and Zainab started to laugh at me. I just ignored them, hoping they'd go away, when the kid (his names Connor) came up to me and asked me if I was OK. He sat down next to me and kinda made me feel better, and when Zainab and Travis tried to tease me, I swear he said something similar to this:
"Go away, can't you see she's feeling bad. Sheesh!"
And that was to his friends. He's been pretty nice to me ever since, and that tripped me. Hard. So I fell. Hard.

Oh, and if the kid doesn't like me? BIG DEAL. The only really true good quality in me is that I have a VERY high self confidence. Someone could walk right smack-dab in front of me, tell me I was FAT, and be in front of the whole school, including the guys I like (and that are popular or hot). I wouldn't shed a tear, wouldn't get embarrassed, nothing. Anything could be thrown at me, and I'd stand straight like a brick wall.

I am Italian. FEAR ME.

 

[Sparx]

Thanks, But I seriously think he doesn't mean it. He could be just pretending to be mean, which I think is my case. The only reason I fell hard for him was because he hangs out with this group. Their names are Zainab, Travis, and himself. Well one day I felt like [Insert word that describes horrible here] and Travis and Zainab started to laugh at me. I just ignored them, hoping they'd go away, when the kid (his names Connor) came up to me and asked me if I was OK. He sat down next to me and kinda made me feel better, and when Zainab and Travis tried to tease me, I swear he said something similar to this:
"Go away, can't you see she's feeling bad. Sheesh!"
And that was to his friends. He's been pretty nice to me ever since, and that tripped me. Hard. So I fell. Hard.

Oh, and if the kid doesn't like me? BIG DEAL. The only really true good quality in me is that I have a VERY high self confidence. Someone could walk right smack-dab in front of me, tell me I was FAT, and be in front of the whole school, including the guys I like (and that are popular or hot). I wouldn't shed a tear, wouldn't get embarrassed, nothing. Anything could be thrown at me, and I'd stand straight like a brick wall.

I am Italian. FEAR ME.

Love is a two way thing, you can not love without being loved in return. Its not love, if its not returned, its infatuation. You're infatuated with this guy, not in love with him.

there is a vast difference.

 

[AngienLuLu]

You wouldn't believe how many girls are pregnant at my high school (well you probably will lol). I go to a small high school (about 500 people) and I hear that there are about 20 or a little less girls pregnant. But some for sure, because you can obviously see it.

i go to a middle school (6-8) with a population of 1,000 and there are about 30 mothers already and about 20 more walking around pregnant. its incredible.

one of my best friends is a dad and he's in 8th grade. yeah.

 

[big_ol_lineman]

really what is the urge to date? do you know 100% that you are going to get married to that person and can you really say yes IF YOU ARE IN MIDDLE SCHOOL. HECK CAN YOU EVEN SAY IT IN HIGHSCHOOL??? plus all you are is gonna get distracted from your school. fro pete's sake really. one of my old friends says that he has found the girl of his dreams....he is 18 and she is 14... really u can say that. I'm 17 and i've only had 2 gf not bc i cant i just choose not to. at the last church i went to i KNOW every girl in the youth group and puppet team had a cruch on me. ok did i got out with anyone of them...NOPE. how many have said i love you to your bf or gf. now really think about this. what does the word Love mean??? tell me what yall think it means i really want to know..

 

[Sparx]

really what is the urge to date? do you know 100% that you are going to get married to that person and can you really say yes IF YOU ARE IN MIDDLE SCHOOL. HECK CAN YOU EVEN SAY IT IN HIGHSCHOOL??? plus all you are is gonna get distracted from your school. fro pete's sake really. one of my old friends says that he has found the girl of his dreams....he is 18 and she is 14... really u can say that. I'm 17 and i've only had 2 gf not bc i cant i just choose not to. at the last church i went to i KNOW every girl in the youth group and puppet team had a cruch on me. ok did i got out with anyone of them...NOPE. how many have said i love you to your bf or gf. now really think about this. what does the word Love mean??? tell me what yall think it means i really want to know..

I've been telling my boyfriend that I love him every day for 6.5 months. We live 800 miles away from each other, but I call him every night, just to say goodnight and tell him I love him. We live 800 miles away from each other, but I'm faithful, and he is too. I know what its like to not be with him. I know what its like to just lay there, wanting him next to me, crying till my chest hurts just because he's not there. I know what its like to look into his eyes, and say "goodbye" not knowing when I'll see him again. I know what its like to spend your 6 month anniversary, half a year, away from each other. I know what it feels like to do all the milestones without him, and it only makes me want him more. I don't know the day we first started dating, it just developed over time, but I vividly remember the day he told me that he loves me. that was 6 and a half months ago, and I cried for 30 minutes. I'd waited so long for one guy to tell me that. Oh, and he'd never even stood next to me. He didn't love me for my body. He didn't love me for my physical abilites. He didn't love me for my voice. He didn't love me for the way I kiss. He'd never kissed me. He loved me for my personality.

That, is love.

 

[DramaQueen]

First of all, let me say, Shelby, that post ^^^^ is sooo touching!!!

anyways here is my two cents.

i had a "boyfriend" when i was in grade 6. we just hung around each other at recess and people pressured us into kissing each other all the time.
ridiculous.

in middle school i had a "boyfriend" who lived across the street from me, but we went to different schools (he went to a catholic school, i went to a french immersion school) anyways, we'd just hang out after school and stuff.
then i moved and we lost touch and broke up.
i don't remember ever kissing him. i probably did, it just wasn't memorable.

then i had a boyfriend in grade 9. he only liked me because of the way i look and we had nothing in common. we broke up after a month. then i dated him again in grade 10, because I was lonely, and I'll admit it, I had no one else.
our dates sucked because our moms had to drive us around.

in grade 11 i went out with a guy who was 18 (i was 16) again, i think he only liked me for the way i looked. i really liked him for his personaility and his creativity. (we are both actors, drama kids) but he was TOO MUCH of an actor, everything we did seemed like it was out of a movie.
it was cheesy and froces and i hated it. i broke up with him after 3 months.
he had a car, and my curfew was 1am, so our dates were alright, we could actaully go out and do stuff.
(one night we snuck into a cemetary...long story, turned into another cheesy movie relationship moment)

im now in grade 12 and i have been dating my current boyfriend for 9 months.
he goes to my school and i had a crush on him in grade 10.
im sure most of you have read this story on numerous other boards because i like talking about it oh so much.
anyways i told him i loved him after we had been dating for 2 months.
seems soon, but i know then, and i know now that it is true.
i truly want to marry this guy and be with him for the rest of my life.

so how young is too young?
none of my boyfriends worked out when i was younger, but it was fun to be with them while it lasted.
what's life without a few regrets?
so go ahead, be in a relationship when you are 12, have your first kiss.
it's our expiriences when we are younger that shape us into who we are as we grow.
so soak it up. have a good time young'ns.

 

[big_ol_lineman]

I've been telling my boyfriend that I love him every day for 6.5 months. We live 800 miles away from each other, but I call him every night, just to say goodnight and tell him I love him. We live 800 miles away from each other, but I'm faithful, and he is too. I know what its like to not be with him. I know what its like to just lay there, wanting him next to me, crying till my chest hurts just because he's not there. I know what its like to look into his eyes, and say "goodbye" not knowing when I'll see him again. I know what its like to spend your 6 month anniversary, half a year, away from each other. I know what it feels like to do all the milestones without him, and it only makes me want him more. I don't know the day we first started dating, it just developed over time, but I vividly remember the day he told me that he loves me. that was 6 and a half months ago, and I cried for 30 minutes. I'd waited so long for one guy to tell me that. Oh, and he'd never even stood next to me. He didn't love me for my body. He didn't love me for my physical abilites. He didn't love me for my voice. He didn't love me for the way I kiss. He'd never kissed me. He loved me for my personality.

That, is love.

good answer
i am in awe that there is still some ppl in this world who dont cheat. KUDOS

this is a little more toward the middle schoolers bc well the high schooler and college are are closer to marrage than middle school i mean really if you are in middle school are u gonna get married NOW? i say wait to date till later im still not thrilled about high shoolers but what is the point of it really? i keep going back to gettin married bc this world doesn't get married anymore! i read that ppl are now just living with eachother rather than getting married ih and their having kids! the only reason why im would date is to get married other than that it is a distraction

 

[DramaQueen]

why do all my posts turn into short novels?

 

[Sparx]

good answer
i am in awe that there is still some ppl in this world who dont cheat. KUDOS

this is a little more toward the middle schoolers bc well the high schooler and college are are closer to marrage than middle school i mean really if you are in middle school are u gonna get married NOW? i say wait to date till later im still not thrilled about high shoolers but what is the point of it really? i keep going back to gettin married bc this world doesn't get married anymore! i read that ppl are now just living with eachother rather than getting married ih and their having kids! the only reason why im would date is to get married other than that it is a distraction

I would love to marry Mike. the way we work together, its just wonderful. Yes, we've actually talked about it. I could spend the rest of my life with him. But even if we don't, I would never consider him a distraction. Life without love is distracting enough. You need love to live.

as for "this world doesn't get married anymore", where are you getting that statistic? I cater weddings, and trust me, they're as strong as ever.

and about "whats the point of it, really?", love is the point. I know people who would just die for 5 minutes of what I have with him. Those are the people who jump from relationship to relationship, and you know, they're just looking for someone to love them most of the time. They just don't know how to ask for that. I have security, I have a companion, I have a friend, I have a life with mike. Its amazing. There are 8 Billion people in the world, and I'm supposed to be with him. I've found him. I'm so incredibly lucky.

And, there are thousands and thousands of married couples that don't cheat, there are thousands and thousands of not married couples that don't cheat.

I also don't see why you think that a couple has to be married to live together. There's nothing wrong with it. Whatever makes them happy is none of your business.

You really have no experience in what you're spouting off about, and I do. Your opinions don't make sense, and you're not backing them up. You're coming off as sad, jaded, and hurt. Love isn't bad, but it seems like you think it is.

 

[Blumonkeyboy]

( i know some ppl might think im insane ) im not really going to start dating untill at least my sr. year in college bc i need to school not date yea i have had 2 gf b4 but that was then. so me i dont think ppl should date till later on but that is me

Woot to that one