XH took the kids to see "The Lovely Bones"

[paintnolish]

I am so mad right now! Xh took the kids to see The Lovely Bones- they are 8 and 9! The 9 year old worries enough about death lately. Thanks a lot, "dad"! I am fuming. So, tell me, how disturbing was it? I want to know what to be prepared for. I have not read the book because I don't care for sad, upsetting books.

 

[kathie859]

I haven't seen the movie; however, I read the book. I can't for the life of me think of how this could be appropriate for your children.

The previews I saw seem to have the occasional "other worldly" quality about them. Maybe if the kids ask questions or if they seem bothered by it, you could pass it off as a dream the little girl in the movie had

What a doofus move on your DXH's part.

 

[hellokitty86]

It's PG13 so just judging from that its not appropriate for your kids.

I saw it last night and I was pretty upset from it so I can't imagine how your kids will be. It was a good movie, its just very upsetting material.

Maybe they won't understand all the content so it won't be so bad for them. I'm so sorry...hope they can sleep tonight because I had a hard time last night!!

 

[remyandhollandsmommy]

My DH said not for young eyes..he wouldn't take our 11 or 6 yr old girls to see it no way. He said it is done in a "dream like" way graphically speaking so you could possible go with the suggestion of a PP that the girl was just having a bad dream I guess..I personally have no desire to see this movie myself.

 

[Feralpeg]

I haven't seen the movie yet, but I read the book. It deals with a very disturbing subject from the eyes of the victim...a child. While the book contains a great deal about the love of the family for their lost child and the concern of the child for her family and others, it still contains graphic violence and death.

I can't imagine taking a child to see this movie.

 

[Briarmom]

I read the book years ago, but have not seen the movie.
What in the heck was he thinking? Taking children to a movie about the murder of a child?

 

[IDoDis]

What age is appropriate? I read the book a few years ago, and DD begged me to read the book. I finally let her read the book. She's always been an advanced reader and is pretty mature, so I said she could. She asked if we could see the movie tomorrow. She'll be 14 years old in April.

 

[mickilee]

its an awesome movie for adult. but for a child . No way..

For a 14 year old. I think they would appreciate the movie and learn a lesson, that even a neighbor can be harmful. I dont want to spoil the movie.

 

[Ohiodislover]

Holy Cow....You would have to DRAGGGGG my 11 Y.O. kicking and screaming.
What a stupid stupid move.

 

[VillageMama]

I can see why this bozo is your ex. My dh would be an ex-dh if he had such incredibly bad judgment.

I hope that your children do okay. I like the other poster's suggestion to say that the girl was dreaming.

Good lord, I just want to shake your ex.

 

[paintnolish]

Thanks for the response. I am just getting angrier. I sent him a well composed (but not so nice) email about it. DS actually told me he wanted to see it, but I told him it was inappropriate and upsetting. Apparently he asked dad to take them. I am a little annoyed with ds, but I am obviously more annoyed with XH for his glaring lack of judgement!

 

[VillageMama]

Okay, I'm pregnant and easily irritated, so let me try to give this guy the benefit of the doubt.

Did he know what this movie is about? Did he think it was a cute movie about dinosaurs? (You know, lovely bones??)

Does he have a habit of making terribly bad decisions?

Did he take the children to see something G rated and accidently turn into the wrong screening room?

 

[testifyoncruises]

Just as an aside the actual rape and murder of the child was never filmed.

http://themoviespoiler.com/Spoilers/lovelyBones.html

 

[Mickey Fliers]

Stupidity. Sheer stupidity.

 

[allicat]

My 14 year old saw it last night and cried her eyes out. She was very disturbed by it and Im mad that I didnt stick to my guns and not let her see it. I was disturbed by the commercials.

 

[Bluestars]

I saw it and I don't think it's appropriate for young children. Some of the scenes would probably scare them, not to mention the subject matter.

 

[paintnolish]

VillageMama- You're cracking me up. Yes, he is generally an idiot but it is usually not harmful. We are just evry different people and started dating when I was too young to know any better! Anywho...
testifyonsruises- Well, that's good news!
mickeyflier- That sums it up.

He took them to see Bridge to Terabithia and ds cried his eyes out. At least that is a sad but appropriate movie! This is the same guy that complained to a mediator that I let them watch That's So Raven!

 

[autumnpalm]

Wow. IMO that is SO not appropriate for kids to be watching. Heck, I don't plan on seeing it because I think I would find it too upsetting. I read the book and enjoyed it but the previews for the movie seem like they are a lot more focused on the crime itself than the way the family deals with the crime.

 

[luvmy3]

Wow, he used poor judgement in picking a movie, its not like he took them out to a gentlemen's club. I'd be mad but I'd give him a break. I know if dh was left to pick a movie and my dd said she wanted to see it he'd take her because he would have no idea what the movie was really about. And yes teh rating is PG-13 but there are very few movies rated just PG anymore and I know my kids aged 6-12 watch movies with that rating all the time. Anyway I'd be upset and talk to him about it, but I wouldn't rake him over the coals for it.

 

[paintnolish]

DD just told me he let them see it "to teach them a lesson".
Luvmy3- Like I said, I am usually the more liberal one. It is not just the violence in the movie. Ds, specifically, has seen PG-13 movies and knows what is real vs. what are special effects. Unfortunately, you can't explain away the rape and murder of a young girl. Harry Potter dueling Lord Voldemort violence I am okay with. A little PG-13 making out between Edward and Bella I am okay with. I am not okay with the disturbing theme (for children) of The Lovely Bones.