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[HelenePA]

does she have a job is she looking if not?

 

[Dr.Girlfriend]

Maybe it's time to have a heart to heart with the cat and ask it politely to stop meowing.

 

[cm8]

My pets are members of my family, they *live* here. Anyone, homeless or not, who was a guest in my home and started to verbally abuse any member of my family?... after the first word, they'd be gone. No warnings, they'd be out and "don't let the door hitcha sista!"

agnes!

 

[okeydokey]

Why are you letting her do this to you? What deadline did you give her to get out of your house?

 

[WDSearcher]

Methinks that the OP is enjoying talking about how lousy this "houseguest" is. Every new post is about some other way that this homeless person is taking advantage of her. And the posts are worded almost like she's bragging about how badly this person treats her. I don't get it? If it was that bad, the OP would have kicked out the freeloader weeks (months) ago. It's almost as if she likes being taken advantage of because she can then come on here and have everyone tell her how lousy this other person is treating her, after which everyone tells her how right she is to feel that way and how crappy the other person is. It's like some strange on-line version of Munchausen Syndrome.

Just a theory ...

 

[2binak]

It's like some strange on-line version of Munchausen Syndrome.

Just a theory ...

and a good one at that

 

[horseshowmom]

Methinks that the OP is enjoying talking about how lousy this "houseguest" is. Every new post is about some other way that this homeless person is taking advantage of her. And the posts are worded almost like she's bragging about how badly this person treats her. I don't get it? If it was that bad, the OP would have kicked out the freeloader weeks (months) ago. It's almost as if she likes being taken advantage of because she can then come on here and have everyone tell her how lousy this other person is treating her, after which everyone tells her how right she is to feel that way and how crappy the other person is. It's like some strange on-line version of Munchausen Syndrome.

Just a theory ...

Ummm, yeah. A month ago I had some empathy, but now I have to question the situation. Somebody can only continue to take advantage of you if you allow it.

 

[Scurvy]

Somebody can only continue to take advantage of you if you allow it.

OP, that's something you really ought to think about.

 

[tinkerbellandeyor]

She found a place so I am hoping for november 1st

 

[tinkerbellandeyor]

The place she found feel threw. Back to square one and I am not handling it well.

 

[chloelovesdisney]

Time to change the locks.

 

[Scurvy]

The place she found feel threw. Back to square one and I am not handling it well.

Then don't handle it any more. I can't understand why you've let her stay this long unless you're actually enjoying having her there. Don't want her living with you? Then choose a date you want her out by and stick to it. She can find someone else to sponge off of or she can go live with a relative or she can stay in a hotel or homeless shelter or a car somewhere. She isn't your responsibility. Given that you've let her stay so long, I'd be concerned that you might be legally required to give her notice. That might not not be an issue since she hasn't paid rent, but you probably ought to look into it just to be sure. Figure out how much notice (if any) you have to give her and then kick her out if she is making you unhappy. Or, you can let her stay and put up with all the things you claim to be so unhappy about. Ultimately, it's your choice. She can't stay there unless you let her. But you know what she's like now, so if you choose to let her stay then you really don't have any reason to complain since obviously that means you don't really mind having her there.

 

[tinkerbellandeyor]

Then don't handle it any more. I can't understand why you've let her stay this long unless you're actually enjoying having her there. Don't want her living with you? Then choose a date you want her out by and stick to it. She can find someone else to sponge off of or she can go live with a relative or she can stay in a hotel or homeless shelter or a car somewhere. She isn't your responsibility. Given that you've let her stay so long, I'd be concerned that you might be legally required to give her notice. That might not not be an issue since she hasn't paid rent, but you probably ought to look into it just to be sure. Figure out how much notice (if any) you have to give her and then kick her out if she is making you unhappy. Or, you can let her stay and put up with all the things you claim to be so unhappy about. Ultimately, it's your choice. She can't stay there unless you let her. But you know what she's like now, so if you choose to let her stay then you really don't have any reason to complain since obviously that means you don't really mind having her there.

Point taken however my mom pays the rent and my mom will not allow me to change the lock so I am stuck wow 7 monthes has passed. The only good thing is that they are finaly getting off ther *** and job hunting. It just anoys me that they wanted so long

 

[dislaney]

You need to tell her that you need to be out of here by a specific day and mean it when you say it. Sorry you are in this situation but you need to put your foot down.

 

[Scurvy]

Point taken however my mom pays the rent and my mom will not allow me to change the lock so I am stuck wow 7 monthes has passed. The only good thing is that they are finaly getting off ther *** and job hunting. It just anoys me that they wanted so long

Have you asked your mom about changing the lock, or do you just assume that she won't let you change it? Does she actually know that she is paying rent for this formerly homeless person who is making you unhappy? Because I have to say, if my mom had been paying my rent and then discovered that I was letting some jobless rude person live with me for free she'd probably have been pretty upset about it and might well have been there changing the lock herself!

 

[tinkerbellandeyor]

You need to tell her that you need to be out of here by a specific day and mean it when you say it. Sorry you are in this situation but you need to put your foot down.

Dec 1is the kick out date that my mom set lets hope she sticks to it

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Point taken however my mom pays the rent and my mom will not allow me to change the lock so I am stuck wow 7 monthes has passed. The only good thing is that they are finaly getting off ther *** and job hunting. It just anoys me that they wanted so long

So your mom is forcing you take in a homeless person?

I really do not understand your situation.

I thought your mom lived elsewhere?

 

[MickeySP]

Okay if your Mom says Dec 1st. I wuld say one of you moves by then, if not her then you.

If your Mom is making you house her, then maybe you should move out & let Mom deal with her. Otherwise I would have her bags waiting at the door on Nov 30th. Oh and a countdown calendar on the fridge

BTW has anyone put this in writing to her, because since she has lived with you for 7 months she is a tenant. Whether she has paid rent or not you need to give her notice in writing.

 

[tinkerbellandeyor]

So your mom is forcing you take in a homeless person?

I really do not understand your situation.

I thought your mom lived elsewhere?

she does however she pays the rent for my DFi and I so we can just focus on our studies

 

[The Mystery Machine]

she does however she pays the rent for my DFi and I so we can just focus on our studies

So is she forcing this person on you?