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[tinkerbellandeyor]

I took in a friend that is homeles and she is yelling at my cat becuse he wonte stop meowing typicaly Mike and I ignore the meowing knowing he is going to stop. However the roomate is yelling at him, as I am listening to her words I flench becuse I hate verbal abuse. Should I aporch the roomate?

 

[ShesAPirate]

Absolutely! Your friend should be grateful that you took her in, and should respect the members of your household -- human and otherwise. I would definitely say something.

 

[chloelovesdisney]

I took in a friend that is homeles and she is yelling at my cat becuse he wonte stop meowing typicaly Mike and I ignore the meowing knowing he is going to stop. However the roomate is yelling at him, as I am listening to her words I flench becuse I hate verbal abuse. Should I aporch the roomate?

Yes, I would tell her to stop yelling at my pet or she is welcome to stay elsewhere. Is this a long time friend of yours?

 

[ontariomonkey]

YES! A condition of staying there should be the basic respect for other members of the household, cat included. She is free to go if she dosn't like the cat.

 

[agnes!]

My pets are members of my family, they *live* here. Anyone, homeless or not, who was a guest in my home and started to verbally abuse any member of my family?... after the first word, they'd be gone. No warnings, they'd be out and "don't let the door hitcha sista!"

agnes!

 

[Disneyadore]

I'm afraid there will be a million problems ahead of you.
BTW. Walked is those shoes and ended up being robbed by the one we provided shelter for. At the end he was commanding me,ruled like a king over the tele and stole money out of my purse.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

I would tell friend that there are rules for living in my home and yelling at my pets is one of them.

If they continue to yell, I would kick them out.

You have to draw a line somewhere and I think that is not an unreasonable request. "No pet yelling".

In addition if they are not able to comply with something that simple in your home it is best to put them back on the streets. Next they will be yelling at YOU.

 

[Magic Mom]

I would definitely have a talk with her and let her know that kind of language is not welcome in your home regardless of who it's directed at. However, don't forget your friend is a guest. You invited her to live with you, so I think you also have a small responsibility to at least try to keep your pet from being annoying or bothersome to your guest. Just because she is desperate for a place to live, doesn't mean she loses the right to be treated respectfully.

Be firm and stand your ground about her language and treatment of your pet, but make an effort to stop the constant meowing.

This might be a good time for you to set up a timeline with this person. A plan that works for you both about when she will be moving.

 

[eliza61]

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This might be a good time for you to set up a timeline with this person. A plan that works for you both about when she will be moving.

Op, also try not to "attack" your friend. I had a friend who grew up in a house where everyone yelled and cursed. For whatever reason it was how they communicated. when we became roommates during our college years I had to tell her that f$%%k was not an adjective and she did not have to use it before every noun.
I can imagine the stress of being homeless may be turning her into a person you don't recognize.

I would simply sit down with her and have a powwow on some mutal rules that will make living together tolerable.

Good luck.

 

[Tina]

She is yelling at your cat? How old is she? 12? Does she not realize cats do not speak English? She sounds wacko. Tell her to zip it or hit the bricks.

 

[Acklander]

I'd just explain that yelling at the cat doesn't stop it from meowing all it does is annoy me so cut the crap. Seriously, if this was someone that you were close enough to invite to live with you, it's someone that you're close enough to be honest to. It will save a lot of frustration in the long run if you can be upfront with each other.

 

[Mermaid02]

She is yelling at your cat? How old is she? 12? Does she not realize cats do not speak English? She sounds wacko. Tell her to zip it or hit the bricks.

LOL 12? Sounds more like 2!

Seriously- tell her no yelling- it's annoying and gives you a headache.

 

[Disney Doll]

Homeless freind would be homeless again. I don't tolerate that behavior in my home, period. And I wouldn't care what her problems were.

 

[heatherwillmom]

I would worry if she is yelling at the cat that she could be mean to it as well. I would tell her in no uncertain terms that my house is also my cat's. She is a visitor & will abide by my rules or she would find herself homeless again

 

[tinkerbellandeyor]

I would definitely have a talk with her and let her know that kind of language is not welcome in your home regardless of who it's directed at. However, don't forget your friend is a guest. You invited her to live with you, so I think you also have a small responsibility to at least try to keep your pet from being annoying or bothersome to your guest. Just because she is desperate for a place to live, doesn't mean she loses the right to be treated respectfully.


Be firm and stand your ground about her language and treatment of your pet, but make an effort to stop the constant meowing.

This might be a good time for you to set up a timeline with this person. A plan that works for you both about when she will be moving.

Good point however she moved in the thrusday before easter and she was suposed to be there for a week but I told her that Oct 1st she has to have a job and 2 she must be out of my house by christmas

She is yelling at your cat? How old is she? 12? Does she not realize cats do not speak English? She sounds wacko. Tell her to zip it or hit the bricks.

No she is grown suposedly like I am.

I'd just explain that yelling at the cat doesn't stop it from meowing all it does is annoy me so cut the crap. Seriously, if this was someone that you were close enough to invite to live with you, it's someone that you're close enough to be honest to. It will save a lot of frustration in the long run if you can be upfront with each other.

Oh trust me if she does this again I will have a few words with her like how if I enjoyed hearing verble abuse I would not have moved out behind my dads back, for the record it was his girl friend that verbly abused me not him.

 

[agnes!]

Oh my...this woman has been living in your home since EASTER?!? Has she at least been paying some nominal amount towards rent or helping with household chores or *something*?

Friend needs to be given a firm deadline to move out...your charity has gone on long enough.

agnes!

 

[tinkerbellandeyor]

Oh my...this woman has been living in your home since EASTER?!? Has she at least been paying some nominal amount towards rent or helping with household chores or *something*?

Friend needs to be given a firm deadline to move out...your charity has gone on long enough.

agnes!

Yes she has helped with chores and cooking. So I am greatful for that however I want my house back more then anything. When she stayed at my moms to dogsit it was peacful. When she is at my house however it is anything but peacful

 

[Liberty Belle]

Yes, if it bothers you. Is your friend getting any mental health help?

 

[heatherwillmom]

Op called her a "roommate." She is not a roommate, but a freeloader. it is one thing to help someone out, but she has already been there 5 months & doesn't have a job? Fast food places hire all the time. She is taking advantage of you.

 

[tinkerbellandeyor]

Yes, if it bothers you. Is your friend getting any mental health help?

no but she needs it