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[mickeylove2]

Ok, I wanted to get some opinions from you guys about this new issue I have. I've been living in this apartment for a few months, and now that the weather is getting nice my girls are outside playing. I found a while ago from a neighbor that there is a guy who lives 2 doors down who is a registered $ex offender (child molestation, we will call him Mike) Anyway, he lives with a woman and her children, 1 girl has made friends with my DDs. This girl comes over and plays with my DDs and the rest of the kids in the area (there are 5 apartments all with kids around the same ages and we share a lane and huge grassy area) but I have told my DDs that they are not allowed to her house and have to stay within sight of the front door at all times unless they tell me where they are going, and then usually my friend-Mary who lives behind me has sight of them.

So, the other day this guy that I have been dating-Joe was over and we were outside with the girls, I went in to start dinner and Joe was keeping an eye on them for me. Well, Joe is Mary's cousin so he knows all about Mike and apparently, while I was in starting dinner, my girls got out of Joe's sight for literally 2 minutes and he went around the corner to check on them and Mary was outside with the kids and she yelled for Joe because Mike was trying to get my DDs to come into his house with freeze pops. Well, Mary yells for my girls to get to her house and Joe goes over to Mike and, well you can imagine the words that were exchanged. So I hear Mary yelling for her BF-Greg to come outside and then she's yelling at Joe so I go out to see what is going on and I find all this out. Nothing was said about Mike to any of the kids, Joe and Greg were just flipping out because he was trying to coax my DDs into his house, his GF was at work so there was no one in his house but him. Regardless of Mike's status, he is a grown man and does not need to have little girls in his home. There were about 8 kids outside playing together and he only had 2 freeze pops and was calling my DDs names specifically. So of course I'm mad as h3ll at this guy and now I'm scared to have my DDs outside at all!

Well, after all that, now I want to ask, what would you do in this situation? What would you tell your kids about this guy? Would you do or say anything to anybody about what happened? What would you say? I'm really at a loss for what to do, I don't want my kids to be limited in what they do or where they play, but I also don't want to worry every time they go out of my sight. I really doubt that anything like this will happen to my DDs again, because Joe and Greg pretty much told Mike that if he even looked at my kids again his family will never find his body! And they were dead serious.

 

[lovemygoofy]

I would be calling the police first. It's not just your children but others including the child in that guy's house that need to be protected. I would tell them every detail including that he is living with a woman and child now, which would be against the rules.

I would also have an age appropriate conversation with the girls stressing under no circumstances that they should be going into that apartment whether with the other little girl or mom there or not. I would stress how much you worry about them when you or Joe or whomever can't see them and that you would never want anything bad to happen. I wouldn't scare them but they need to understand to never leave your site but especially never never go into that apartment even with the other little girl there.

 

[EMom]

Seriously? Call the police now. Tell them a registed sex offender tried to lure your girls inside his place and you want him stopped before a child is raped or murdered. That should get their attention. Find out if you can contact his parole officer or whatever you have to do. He tried to entice your DDs into his house while his GF was not there. Gee, you think he MAY have been up to no good? Thank God someone caught on to what he was doing. The odds are, he has restrictions against contact with children. I wouldn't be surprised if he shouldn't even be anywhere around his GF's 2 kids. For that matter, I'm such a freak about child molesters that I'd call CPS on her stupid *** for having her kids around a registered sex offender and putting them at risk. Basically, I'd be on the phone all day until that guy was headed off behind bars.

 

[Hoodie]

Seriously? Call the police now. Tell them a registed sex offender tried to lure your girls inside his place and you want him stopped before a child is raped or murdered. That should get their attention. Find out if you can contact his parole officer or whatever you have to do. He tried to entice your DDs into his house while his GF was not there. Gee, you think he MAY have been up to no good? Thank God someone caught on to what he was doing. The odds are, he has restrictions against contact with children. I wouldn't be surprised if he shouldn't even be anywhere around his GF's 2 kids. For that matter, I'm such a freak about child molesters that I'd call CPS on her stupid *** for having her kids around a registered sex offender and putting them at risk. Basically, I'd be on the phone all day until that guy was headed off behind bars.

This exactly. He's probably breaking the law by living with kids.

 

[pilesoflaundry]

What I would want to do and what I legally could do are two different things.

He was trying to entice a minor, get him arrested.

 

[java]

Seriously? Call the police now. Tell them a registed sex offender tried to lure your girls inside his place and you want him stopped before a child is raped or murdered. That should get their attention. Find out if you can contact his parole officer or whatever you have to do. He tried to entice your DDs into his house while his GF was not there. Gee, you think he MAY have been up to no good? Thank God someone caught on to what he was doing. The odds are, he has restrictions against contact with children. I wouldn't be surprised if he shouldn't even be anywhere around his GF's 2 kids. For that matter, I'm such a freak about child molesters that I'd call CPS on her stupid *** for having her kids around a registered sex offender and putting them at risk. Basically, I'd be on the phone all day until that guy was headed off behind bars.

I agree! That is making me furious and they are not my daughters.

 

[cabanafrau]

I would be calling the police first. It's not just your children but others including the child in that guy's house that need to be protected. I would tell them every detail including that he is living with a woman and child now, which would be against the rules.

I would also have an age appropriate conversation with the girls stressing under no circumstances that they should be going into that apartment whether with the other little girl or mom there or not. I would stress how much you worry about them when you or Joe or whomever can't see them and that you would never want anything bad to happen. I wouldn't scare them but they need to understand to never leave your site but especially never never go into that apartment even with the other little girl there.

Absolutely true. Every word.

 

[Darsa]

Oh my gosh, I would have a problem with this WAY before this had happened... but maybe that's just me being paranoid. If I knew a registered sex offender

lives with a woman and her children,

at all, I would be as nervous as a cat in a room full of rocking chairs... And there would be NO WAY IN YOU KNOW WHAT that I would be letting my children out of my sight, uh uh, no sirree...

 

[EMom]

I'm just going to go on the record and say I hate, loathe and despise women like this monster's GF. There is a subset of women out there who MUST have a man, at any cost. Any man will do, apparently. So what if he's a child molester who will rape her kids and maybe even do worse? She's GOT TO HAVE a man or life isn't worth living.

I swear, if anything ever happened to my DH, I'd rather be celebate for the rest of my life than ever knowingly put my child (or any child) at risk. These women do not deserve the children they were blessed with and certainly don't deserve to be called mothers.

 

[OceanAnnie]

Seriously? Call the police now. Tell them a registed sex offender tried to lure your girls inside his place and you want him stopped before a child is raped or murdered. That should get their attention. Find out if you can contact his parole officer or whatever you have to do. He tried to entice your DDs into his house while his GF was not there. Gee, you think he MAY have been up to no good? Thank God someone caught on to what he was doing. The odds are, he has restrictions against contact with children. I wouldn't be surprised if he shouldn't even be anywhere around his GF's 2 kids. For that matter, I'm such a freak about child molesters that I'd call CPS on her stupid *** for having her kids around a registered sex offender and putting them at risk. Basically, I'd be on the phone all day until that guy was headed off behind bars.

Yes.

I'm honest with my kids. I'd tell them about the situation within reason. I would stress to your girls not to be around this man for any reason. I would tell them he has a problem and has been arrested before for being hurtful to kids. I'd also tell them that is not something to talk to other people about, but that I am telling them to how serious it is. I would watch them like a hawk.

 

[AlleyKat]

I've been living in this apartment for a few months

Too bad you didn't know about this guy before you moved in!

Is moving soon to a "safe" area feasible?

My stress level would be through the roof! I'd get the heck out of there ASAP!

 

[iwrbnd]

You should call the police! Even if you didn't know his status his behavior would have sent up huge red flags to me! Normal adults don't want to spend time with children that aren't their own! Think about it. You're home alone and kids are outside playing. Do you think "Gee, it would be nice to hang with some kids and just chat this afternoon?" No! I'm a teacher and a mom that loves children and even I don't go out of my way just to spend time with another person's child! I take this so far that even the new movie called "Letters from God" creeps me out. I'm sure it will be a good movie but I would NEVER let my kid just go hang out with the mailman! Or a policeman, doctor, teacher or any person that looks too interested in my child! We had a man in our church molest a child...it wasn't in the building but he befriended the kid and started taking him bowling and stuff! No way! I don't care how moral you look or what your profession is, if you're an adult that wants to spend one on one time with a child that's not your family that's weird and a blazing red flag!

 

[Aisling]

i would be calling the police first. It's not just your children but others including the child in that guy's house that need to be protected. I would tell them every detail including that he is living with a woman and child now, which would be against the rules.

I would also have an age appropriate conversation with the girls stressing under no circumstances that they should be going into that apartment whether with the other little girl or mom there or not. I would stress how much you worry about them when you or joe or whomever can't see them and that you would never want anything bad to happen. I wouldn't scare them but they need to understand to never leave your site but especially never never go into that apartment even with the other little girl there.

100%!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[OceanAnnie]

I would want my kids scared of that guy. Absolutely. Otherwise they would be easy prey for him if he got an opportunity.

 

[EMom]

My mother, may God rest her soul, would have said, "I would kill him and tell God he died." Not recommending that, but since you can't kill him, do whatever it takes to get this disaster in the making off the streets. Heaven knows what may have already happened to his GF's children.

 

[GoodFairies]

You should call the police! Even if you didn't know his status his behavior would have sent up huge red flags to me! Normal adults don't want to spend time with children that aren't their own! Think about it. You're home alone and kids are outside playing. Do you think "Gee, it would be nice to hang with some kids and just chat this afternoon?" No! I'm a teacher and a mom that loves children and even I don't go out of my way just to spend time with another person's child! I take this so far that even the new movie called "Letters from God" creeps me out. I'm sure it will be a good movie but I would NEVER let my kid just go hang out with the mailman! Or a policeman, doctor, teacher or any person that looks too interested in my child! We had a man in our church molest a child...it wasn't in the building but he befriended the kid and started taking him bowling and stuff! No way! I don't care how moral you look or what your profession is, if you're an adult that wants to spend one on one time with a child that's not your family that's weird and a blazing red flag!

Generalize much?

OP the very first thing you need to do is verify what your friend told you about this person and the degree is correct. Then you can figure out how to proceed. It will probably be a matter of contacting the police (non-emergency line) and having a chat about who is living with him and his attempted contact with your children. You do not need to give your children details; all you need to say is that he is a bad man who hurts children and they need to stay away from him.

 

[Rora]

Generalize much?

OP the very first thing you need to do is verify what your friend told you about this person and the degree is correct. Then you can figure out how to proceed. It will probably be a matter of contacting the police (non-emergency line) and having a chat about who is living with him and his attempted contact with your children. You do not need to give your children details; all you need to say is that he is a bad man who hurts children and they need to stay away from him.

 

[bgirldeb]

This...

I would be calling the police first. It's not just your children but others including the child in that guy's house that need to be protected. I would tell them every detail including that he is living with a woman and child now, which would be against the rules.

I would also have an age appropriate conversation with the girls stressing under no circumstances that they should be going into that apartment whether with the other little girl or mom there or not. I would stress how much you worry about them when you or Joe or whomever can't see them and that you would never want anything bad to happen. I wouldn't scare them but they need to understand to never leave your site but especially never never go into that apartment even with the other little girl there.

And This

Seriously? Call the police now. Tell them a registed sex offender tried to lure your girls inside his place and you want him stopped before a child is raped or murdered. That should get their attention. Find out if you can contact his parole officer or whatever you have to do. He tried to entice your DDs into his house while his GF was not there. Gee, you think he MAY have been up to no good? Thank God someone caught on to what he was doing. The odds are, he has restrictions against contact with children. I wouldn't be surprised if he shouldn't even be anywhere around his GF's 2 kids. For that matter, I'm such a freak about child molesters that I'd call CPS on her stupid *** for having her kids around a registered sex offender and putting them at risk. Basically, I'd be on the phone all day until that guy was headed off behind bars.

 

[iwrbnd]

Generalize much?

OP the very first thing you need to do is verify what your friend told you about this person and the degree is correct. Then you can figure out how to proceed. It will probably be a matter of contacting the police (non-emergency line) and having a chat about who is living with him and his attempted contact with your children. You do not need to give your children details; all you need to say is that he is a bad man who hurts children and they need to stay away from him.

I realized after I wrote it that it's a huge generalization which I don't normally do. But, when it deals with children and the huge ramifications of abuse I do err on caution. Have you ever gone out of your way to take somebody else's child just for fun that wasn't in your family? And not to have a friend for your own child or helping the family out because they need someone to watch their child? I never have. But, you're right. I'm sure there are instances where people do. I had a neighbor lady who would read to me when my older sister wouldn't let me play. But, this was a 60 year old lady. Pretty safe. My warnings may be harsh but it was actually advice given from the police of the sexual abuse unit. They told us that and it did make me think. I realized I don't go out of my way to take kids out for the day or have them over at my house. But, you're right, it was a generalization and I apologize for offending anyone that likes to just hang with children.

 

[dislaney]

Please call the police and report him. If a sexual offender tried to lure my children into his apartment, I would move heaven and earth to make sure it would never happen again. I would talk to my children as well and tell them about him. I'm not sure how old your kids are but you can make it age appropriate if you have to.