Wwyd?

[GOOFY4DONALD]

My DH informed me last night that no matter how much he loves WDW we will NOT be going again for at least 5 years..more like 7 . He wants to buy a new house, get a new truck, etc., etc., etc. I understand all that and I want to do all that too but there is no way I will be happy waiting that long to go back. I love Disney and that was really one of the most difficulties when I moved from So Ca. Now if we wait 5-7 years both girls will be teenagers and may or may not even want to go. I was pretty upset and then I realized I am thirty something and I am being told what I can and can't do (something that I really hate). I was thinking of making some extra money that will not effect our budget (so we can get all of the things that my DH wants to get) and do stuff to earn extra money that I wouldn't be doing if I wasn't earning for a trip. I was thinking of saving for about a year and a half and if I earned enough tell DH I earned this without any help do you want to go. If he does great but if he doesn't I will take the kids w/o him.
WWYD?

 

[MARCIAKAZ]

If it were me, I'd sit down with DH and try to work with him to create a plan that will get all your goals accomplished. You can acknowledge how important his goals are, and show him that they are important to you too. You can express to him how important vacations are--in general, for rest and relaxation and family togetherness--but also how important Disney Vacations are to you. Before you talk to him, do some home work and see if you can come up with a "budget" trip outline, and some specific ideas for how you can earn some extra money to put toward all your goals. You can also review your family budget for reasonable ways to save money over time, such as: do you have the best deal for your cable bill, your phone service, your car insurance, etc...? Can you cut back on eating out, or grocery expenses, hair and nails, clothing and other purchases, etc...? You might surprise yourself, and him, once you take a good look at everything.

I think working toward the goals together is the best way for both of you to get what you want!

 

[Tuffcookie]

Marcia wrote: If it were me, I'd sit down with DH and try to work with him to create a plan that will get all your goals accomplished. You can acknowledge how important his goals are, and show him that they are important to you too. You can express to him how important vacations are--in general, for rest and relaxation and family togetherness--but also how important Disney Vacations are to you. Before you talk to him, do some home work and see if you can come up with a "budget" trip outline, and some specific ideas for how you can earn some extra money to put toward all your goals. You can also review your family budget for reasonable ways to save money over time, such as: do you have the best deal for your cable bill, your phone service, your car insurance, etc...? Can you cut back on eating out, or grocery expenses, hair and nails, clothing and other purchases, etc...? You might surprise yourself, and him, once you take a good look at everything.

I think working toward the goals together is the best way for both of you to get what you want!

Ditto, what she said!

TC

 

[GOOFY4DONALD]

Although that is a great idea my DH can be stubborn at times. My plan was to not change any of our plans (house vehicle) or the way we live. He would not be up for cutting down cable or anything like that. My plan was to make money above what we need ...not cut back. He never took vacations as a kid and sees them as a luxury that a family can easily do without. This trip that I am taking (in 11 days) was not a joint effort. It was more like if you make the money I wil go.

 

[bumbershoot]

Maybe he's having the pre-vacation, pre-holiday heebie jeebies.

I might not take this at all seriously right now...wait until after you've gone to WDW then have been home a bit, before revisiting future plans.

Have a fun trip!

 

[debbiet1]

I know what you're feeling like. We are going to Disney for Christmas. Our daughter was there in 96 when she was 4, we went again 2006 she was 14. Our son is 7 he went in 2006 when he was 6. Now DH says this will be our last trip to disney. He's not a theme park type of person he would rather go to florida and get a condo on the beach. Sigh guess I had better enjoy this trip!

 

[Tess'smom]

My husband says we are not going back to WDW every time we finish a trip. We have been back every year since 2004 . My deal with him is that I will supplement our income with a part-time job to help defray the cost of our trip. I also make sure we travel and stay at values and go during free dining when possible. I also hunt down the best airfares I can. I remind him frequently how much money we saved and how much it would cost to travel to the Carribean. (He only wants to travel to a sunny place). I also talk about how kids are only young once and you won't get that family vacation time back.

Good luck!

 

[DISNEYFOS]

If it were me, I'd sit down with DH and try to work with him to create a plan that will get all your goals accomplished. You can acknowledge how important his goals are, and show him that they are important to you too. You can express to him how important vacations are--in general, for rest and relaxation and family togetherness--but also how important Disney Vacations are to you. Before you talk to him, do some home work and see if you can come up with a "budget" trip outline, and some specific ideas for how you can earn some extra money to put toward all your goals. You can also review your family budget for reasonable ways to save money over time, such as: do you have the best deal for your cable bill, your phone service, your car insurance, etc...? Can you cut back on eating out, or grocery expenses, hair and nails, clothing and other purchases, etc...? You might surprise yourself, and him, once you take a good look at everything.

I think working toward the goals together is the best way for both of you to get what you want!

Ditto! It should be a two-way street with everyone working toward goals that make EVERYONE happy. Personally, my DH wouldn't have much of a chance if he tried to put his foot down like that.

 

[MiniGirl]

Although that is a great idea my DH can be stubborn at times. My plan was to not change any of our plans (house vehicle) or the way we live. He would not be up for cutting down cable or anything like that. My plan was to make money above what we need ...not cut back. He never took vacations as a kid and sees them as a luxury that a family can easily do without. This trip that I am taking (in 11 days) was not a joint effort. It was more like if you make the money I wil go.

I understand what you're saying. In your first post though, you made it sound as if you would make/save money without telling him until you had enough (or almost enough) for your trip. I would do as others have mentioned and come up with a budget to help meet your joint goals. Then tell your dh that you would like to put any money you can shave off of that budget (coupons, rewards sites, extra income here and there) into a vacation fund. If he has agreed to the previous budget, then I don't think he would object since you would not be taking mony away from your joint goals. If he does, then, well......, ya'll will have to come up with some compromise. Personally, my dh does not realize how much money I save (or make) using coupons.

Good luck to you.

 

[Elmo888]

I just wanted to add another way to save - rebates. I cash every check that I get and save it for Disney. If you internet shop, sign up at ebates and earn cashback. I just received a $37 check from ebates that will go in my Disney fund. (And if you decide to sign up, could you PM me so I could give you my email to get the referral $$? I would really appreciate it.)

I've sold stuff on ebay, too, for extra cash.

And I agree with the other posters. Wait until after your trip, and revisit the plan. If he has a great time and sees how much the kids enjoyed the trip, he may change his mind. Money is just tight this time of year and he may not see the forest for the trees. There may be some sort of compromise, like 2 or 3 years instead of 5 or 7. I would sit down with him and agree on what your financial goals are. Agree and compromise should be key words. His opinion on financial goals doesn't need to be the final word. If you contribute, maybe another Disney trip could be priority #3 after a house and car.

Good luck!

 

[stacy6552]

I'd sit back and wait. He'll get the fever again. Don't nag, just get subscribed to mousesavers.com and point out when a really good deal comes along, or a really good airfare. Just mention it. Just do what Jack says and wait for the opportune moment.