Wwyd ? Updated

[mommytoe]

Update:

I have decided to go to the wedding. I will look at hotels. I guess if WDW is something I can do in Nov I should be able to get a hotel for the wedding.


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My dh's nephew is getting married in May. We would need to drive 3 hours to get to the wedding. Then 3 hours home the same day.

DD11 gets car sick really easy. She can actually get sick in less than an hour.

All 3 of my dc have trouble sitting for long periods. I don't like the idea of forcing them to sit in a car for 3 hours, through a wedding, and 3 hours in the car home. I know at the reception they would be able to walk around, but with 6 hours total in the car I am not sure how long we can be at the reception.

Dh claims we have to go to the wedding. I feel we could just send a gift.

We are not close to nephew. We only met the Bride twice at birthday parties.

Not sure why the wedding is so far away when they only live an hour from us.

 

[Uncle Remus]

My dh's nephew is getting married in May. We would need to drive 3 hours to get to the wedding. Then 3 hours home the same day.

DD11 gets car sick really easy. She can actually get sick in less than an hour.

All 3 of my dc have trouble sitting for long periods. I don't like the idea of forcing them to sit in a car for 3 hours, through a wedding, and 3 hours in the car home. I know at the reception they would be able to walk around, but with 6 hours total in the car I am not sure how long we can be at the reception.

Dh claims we have to go to the wedding. I feel we could just send a gift.

We are not close to nephew. We only met the Bride twice at birthday parties.

Not sure why the wedding is so far away when they only live an hour from us.

Get the kid that gets car sick some meds for the overnight trip to the wedding 'n make sure ya get free HBO TV.

 

[mjkacmom]

Stay overnight, or leave the kids at home with a sitter.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

If need be, I'd leave the kids home and go. Or spend the night. One way to have a closer relationship with the nephew is to reach out and share a very special day with him and his new wife. Family events are precious.

One weekend we drove from Maryland to Chicago for a Bar Mitzvah...12 hours there, there for a day and a half, then 12 hour drive home. There's 6 in our family and couldn't afford airplane tickets and rental car and it was finals week for our dd, so we couldn't stay gone longer. I did put my foot down so we'd fly to the next Chicago event, however I don't regret going to that crazy driving weekend (and we didn't know the Bar Mitzvah child at all and hadn't seen my husband's cousin, the dad of the child, for MANY years). We made priceless memories and shared in a very special day.

 

[TwinsinCA]

Let dh go by himself if he HAS to go.

 

[INDISMOM]

If it's my husband's family, he makes the call on if we go or not (luckily he doesn't like most of his extended family!).

If it's my side, I make the call.

If your husband says you need to go, I would figure out how to go and make it work for the kids. As the previous poster stated -- I would either spend the night, get a sitter, or figure out the best way for the kids to travel.

How old are the kids?

 

[Handbag Lady]

I would divorce my husband if he said or did anything stupid to impede me from going to my niece's wedding (whenever she gets married). Luckily enough he adores her too so it is a non-issue for us.

Do all you can to make this happen. He's made it clear it is important to him.

Get a sitter for the kids, or make it a three day trip so they can handle the car ride and the wedding.

And really? Three hours in car isn't that bad (outside of the carsickness, of course.)

 

[My2Cinderellas]

Dramamine is a wonderful drug... without it DD8 has a 45-60 minute limit on car trips.

the ages of the kids makes a difference also. I would expect my girls 10 & 8 to handle the schedule you mentioned. Especially if the next day was unstructured at home.

But even better, I'd probably try for a hotel room the night before. That gives you the morning to swim and get the wiggles out before the ceremony and drive home.

 

[RadioNate]

You have lots of options.

- Leave the kids at home with a sitter or one of your relatives.
- Stay overnight at the wedding location. Or even make it a 3 day trip
- Send hubby alone.

If it were me, I'd leave the kids home and go have fun overnight at the wedding. But I'm one of those odd people who enjoy wedding so much more without kids. I'd rather just go, dance and have fun with out having to worry that my child won't like the food, or that the music is too loud, or if he is about to take a lick out of the cake.

 

[DawnCt1]

Dramamine is a wonderful drug... without it DD8 has a 45-60 minute limit on car trips.

the ages of the kids makes a difference also. I would expect my girls 10 & 8 to handle the schedule you mentioned. Especially if the next day was unstructured at home.

But even better, I'd probably try for a hotel room the night before. That gives you the morning to swim and get the wiggles out before the ceremony and drive home.

I would also suggest Bonine and staying over the night before.

 

[DISUNC]

Personally I would go on the DISBOARDS and post a thread titled "WWYD?"!

 

[cinmell]

Personally I would go on the DISBOARDS and post a thread titled "WWYD?"!

Feeling a little feisty today, are we?

 

[DISUNC]

Feeling a little fiesty today, are we?

 

[Hoodie]

Personally I would go on the DISBOARDS and post a thread titled "WWYD?"!

Well, that's obviously the best option!

 

[scrapquitler]

Fortunately, you have a lot of options, including combinations of the ideas below:

1. send DH to the wedding along

2. leave the kids at home with a sitter and go to the wedding without them.

3. Give the kid some Dramamine.

4. Stay overnight. Personally, even as an adult that loves to drive and does not get carsick, I would NOT want to drive 3 hours the morning of a wedding, attend the wedding and then drive home the same night. No way.

Also might be worthwhile to see if you can let your child that gets carsick sit in the front seat. Sometimes carsickness will decrease if you sit in the front and look at the far horizon.

 

[Sheree Bobbins]

Travel early and stay overnight for the wedding. Make an event of it.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

I would tell DH that if he wants me to attend he is going to foot the bill for 2 nights in a hotel.

With or without kids I would NEVER drive home from an out of area wedding/reception the same day. I find that very odd in the first place.

 

[C.Ann]

I would tell DH that if he wants me to attend he is going to foot the bill for 2 nights in a hotel.

With or without kids I would NEVER drive home from an out of area wedding/reception the same day. I find that very odd in the first place.

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I agree.. That's too much on everyone - not just the kids..

 

[freckles and boo]

We can't even drive 35 minutes to the zoo without Children's Bonine. I sympathize. But if you do decide to go stay overnight. Otherwise it makes for a very long day.

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

Healthy families make decisions together. If it is important to your husband and isn't important to you, you have issues that go beyond a 3 hour road trip (not suggesting that the OP does, but some other posters in this thread might).

/rant /hijack