WWYD? School Dress code update #63

[diznygirl]

Actually my girls went to a public high school in North Dakota that had absolutely NO dress code. It was crazy...they came home from school the first day and couldn't believe some of the skanky clothes some kids wore!

Well, there is a difference between having a dress code and enforcing a dress code.


Here they thought it would be easier to enforce a uniform policy than a dress code. (I hate the way politicians think!) But the uniform policy is usually not enforced either.

 

[Mkrop]

Maybe you don't see the big deal, but this dress code is way over the top. I see many others agree.

for flag football, they supply the uniforms, well we pay for the, we don't have to go out and search for something that fits their
rules.

I guess I have a problem with not having a problem with this dress code. With so many other things to worry about, how about just saying that nothing vulgar nothing too short and no tummies or undies hanging out, that about covers it. This is what our school system uses and it works quite well.

Our Flag only supplies shirts, so like with any organization you need to comply with what is provided and what is not.

Obviuously, people were not follwing the guidelines you suggested or there would not be a need for a dress code or uniforms.

I do agree that public schools have qutie a lot to be worrying about but a dress code would not bother me, maybe because I was raised in a uniform. And then when I got into the workforce there were specific things that were deemed acceptable in my profession. Throw in Casual Fridays and people would got nuts because they could not handle a dress code and dress appropriately for the office.

 

[MushyMushy]

I think once the school gets to where the dress code is strict enough that you can't find clothes in a local store, they might as well just go to uniforms. At least then there's no question of what's right and wrong.

There was a constant struggle with my daughter's middle school last year with the dress code for girls. "Some" girls would get in trouble and "some" were fine in the same types of outfits. It was so ridiculous. It was getting to the point where my daughter was coming home in tears because the assistant principal was cornering her to measure this or that and making her bend over (to see how much cleavage was showing). When we went shopping, I followed the school handbook to the letter. If they said a skirt had to come below fingertips, then I made sure it was considerably below fingertips PLUS I'd make her wear leggings under them. She got in trouble three separate times for different skirts and leggings -- yet, girls were always wearing leggings with tunics that were shorter than those skirts.

Was that principal picking on my daughter for personal reasons? Hmmmm, let me think. Uh, yeah!

The high school has been soooooo much better for this kid. Same district, so same dress code. The high school is just more reasonable and consistent in following it.

Anyway, sorry for the minor rant. I just think you're in for a long haul if that's how they'll do it in kindergarten!

 

[HelenePA]

I really do understand the need for a dress code but some of this stuff is just over the top why not allow other coloR polos? There are only so many blue and white ones out there! Heck let's add in grey and black! And small unnoticable logos? Who is really going to be jealous of $3 starter shorts from walmart?!?

 

[MichelleVW]

Well, there is a difference between having a dress code and enforcing a dress code.


Here they thought it would be easier to enforce a uniform policy than a dress code. (I hate the way politicians think!) But the uniform policy is usually not enforced either.

This school didn't even have a code to enforce!!!

 

[luvsJack]

Our Flag only supplies shirts, so like with any organization you need to comply with what is provided and what is not.

Obviuously, people were not follwing the guidelines you suggested or there would not be a need for a dress code or uniforms.

I do agree that public schools have qutie a lot to be worrying about but a dress code would not bother me, maybe because I was raised in a uniform. And then when I got into the workforce there were specific things that were deemed acceptable in my profession. Throw in Casual Fridays and people would got nuts because they could not handle a dress code and dress appropriately for the office.

I get what you are saying and agree to some degree. It is the dress code of the school and your child should go by that code just like they will have to dress by a certain code, spoken or unspoken, when they go into the work force. But, I must point out to you that very few work places would have anywhere near the dress code that some schools have.

When our schools announced our dress code/uniforms, i was thrilled. I thought, "great, now I dont' have to worry about shorts or skirts being too short or arguing with dd about what to wear" Well, I was only partly right. DD is great about knowing what she has to wear, so that part is good.

But, c'mon you can't honestly tell me there is some extremely important reason for not having a star on a pair of shorts or a thin color line on a pair of socks. Or that a teacher does not have more important things to do than to do "sock checks" or inspect shorts for stars that you can barely see! Way too much overkill, imho.

 

[wvjules]

I think once the school gets to where the dress code is strict enough that you can't find clothes in a local store, they might as well just go to uniforms. At least then there's no question of what's right and wrong.

There was a constant struggle with my daughter's middle school last year with the dress code for girls. "Some" girls would get in trouble and "some" were fine in the same types of outfits. It was so ridiculous. It was getting to the point where my daughter was coming home in tears because the assistant principal was cornering her to measure this or that and making her bend over (to see how much cleavage was showing). When we went shopping, I followed the school handbook to the letter. If they said a skirt had to come below fingertips, then I made sure it was considerably below fingertips PLUS I'd make her wear leggings under them. She got in trouble three separate times for different skirts and leggings -- yet, girls were always wearing leggings with tunics that were shorter than those skirts.

Was that principal picking on my daughter for personal reasons? Hmmmm, let me think. Uh, yeah!

The high school has been soooooo much better for this kid. Same district, so same dress code. The high school is just more reasonable and consistent in following it.

Anyway, sorry for the minor rant. I just think you're in for a long haul if that's how they'll do it in kindergarten!

No way, no how is that even acceptable! That borders on harassment, IMO. I certainly hope you did something about that.

 

[Mkrop]

I get what you are saying and agree to some degree. It is the dress code of the school and your child should go by that code just like they will have to dress by a certain code, spoken or unspoken, when they go into the work force. But, I must point out to you that very few work places would have anywhere near the dress code that some schools have.

When our schools announced our dress code/uniforms, i was thrilled. I thought, "great, now I dont' have to worry about shorts or skirts being too short or arguing with dd about what to wear" Well, I was only partly right. DD is great about knowing what she has to wear, so that part is good.

But, c'mon you can't honestly tell me there is some extremely important reason for not having a star on a pair of shorts or a thin color line on a pair of socks. Or that a teacher does not have more important things to do than to do "sock checks" or inspect shorts for stars that you can barely see! Way too much overkill, imho.

Like I said maybe because it is what I grew up with. In HS I went to a Catholic School with uniforms. But we were allowed to wear some things with those uniforms. We could wear any color sweater but it had to be solid, but lo and behold someone would come in with a striped one or a sweatshirt. We were allowed to wear earrings but they couldnt be big, this was the 80s so all the earrings were huge. Once again this got violated. So yes we had the teachers who cared and checked every little thing about your dress and those that did not. Uniforms had to be a certain length and that was constantly being checked becasue most girls did not want them the length the school did.

So I really dont get the uproar over them checking things, if they allowed the $3 Starter star,then they have to let the Polo Horse, or the Nike Swoop, or the Justice label etc.

My education was just fine with the teachers doing these checks. And this wasnt the crazy nuns either, I didnt have a lot on nuns in our school. The strictest teacher was the art teacher. People would run in the opposite direction if he was coming down the hall.

 

[HelenePA]

Like I said maybe because it is what I grew up with. In HS I went to a Catholic School with uniforms. But we were allowed to wear some things with those uniforms. We could wear any color sweater but it had to be solid, but lo and behold someone would come in with a striped one or a sweatshirt. We were allowed to wear earrings but they couldnt be big, this was the 80s so all the earrings were huge. Once again this got violated. So yes we had the teachers who cared and checked every little thing about your dress and those that did not. Uniforms had to be a certain length and that was constantly being checked becasue most girls did not want them the length the school did.

So I really dont get the uproar over them checking things, if they allowed the $3 Starter star,then they have to let the Polo Horse, or the Nike Swoop, or the Justice label etc.

My education was just fine with the teachers doing these checks. And this wasnt the crazy nuns either, I didnt have a lot on nuns in our school. The strictest teacher was the art teacher. People would run in the opposite direction if he was coming down the hall.

The starter logo is the same color as the shorts. Unless your looking for it you'd never see it.. I didn't until I got them home! I got dd a nwt justice sweater on ebay and didn't notice a label.. ut oh did I miss it on there too? she wore it to school this morning

 

[daughtersrus]

Not sure if this is what you're looking for, but I got an e-mail this morning from The Children's Place and they're having terrific sales. They have shorts for boys that are plain, no pockets, and no logos.

Good idea but they're only available in size 4 online. Maybe some of the local stores might have them. They're probably much cheaper than a sporting goods store.

 

[castleview]

How will they have gym if there are classroom in there?

 

[POPCITY]

I have no problem with dress codes, but what bothers me is that these poor kindergartners are getting punished for something they have absolutely no control over. It's hard enough at that age to understand the concept of consequences for their actions, now they have consequences for something they didn't even do. And while it's obvious that OP is trying to get the right clothes, what about those parents that just don't care? Are their little 5 year olds going to be in detention every day?

 

[HelenePA]

Good idea but they're only available in size 4 online. Maybe some of the local stores might have them. They're probably much cheaper than a sporting goods store.

I'D need them in a 6 or 7 I don't remember what size he's in there I'd have to look but I do know it's not a 4 we don't have a local cp the nearest one is in Hershey or reading both are an hour away :-/ do I really want to drive that far for non logo shorts lol next wks weather is saying low 70's with rain IF it holds up to that I'll just do sweatpants today was the hard decision to make I even thought about just keeping him home. Stupid stupid dress code!! If they would have deamed them illegal the first time he wore them I would have been able to find other shorts now it's the end of sept my choices are even more limited this late in the season. 2 hrs til I find out what happened

 

[HelenePA]

How will they have gym if there are classroom in there?

Now they go outside for gym when it gets colder it will be in the hs gym

I did find out they are building 34 classrooms that should be done for the next school yr

btw you have no idea how much I wish I was making any of this up...

 

[Mkrop]

Lands End has a variety of colors of gym shorts that seem to meet your dress code for $12 online, do you have a Sears near you? I would order them now because we may have more warm days, and if we dont you can use them for the spring, or for a younger child.

 

[ShesAPirate]

Am I the only one who's surprised that there's "gym" in kindergarten? I guess I'm out of touch. Certainly didn't have gym when I was in kindergarten, but that was roughly a million years ago... we just had recess or playtime or something.

I'm also surprised by the fact that they have detention at that age!

No pockets and no logos... I just don't get it. How would a logo hurt someone?

 

[dislaney]

We used to have a pretty strict dress code and the school was very helpful with providing the stores names of who provided the clothes that met their dress code. I would try calling the school. Fortunately, my children are at a different school now, and there is still a dress code- but it's much less restrictive.

As far as PE, we had recess way back when I was in kindergarten. That was in the dark ages though!

 

[HelenePA]

Yes gym starts in K.. my son also went to the same school last year for prek which is all day and the handbook states that yes they will give out detention to FOUR yr olds for inproper clothes... this is all new to me.. the dress code started this year. I wanted to go to the school board meeting last night but wasn't able he had to work I guess I could have gone with all 4 kids in tow.. but I am not that insane..

 

[castleview]

Now they go outside for gym when it gets colder it will be in the hs gym

I did find out they are building 34 classrooms that should be done for the next school yr

btw you have no idea how much I wish I was making any of this up...

I can only imagine!

 

[ksjayhawks]

If you find plain shorts with the "side pockets" --the ones built into the side seam, simply sew the pocket shut along the seam.