WWYD? Leaving Daycare Money Issue

[princessbride6205]

Maybe someone that is more experienced with Facebook can answer this, but is it possible that the articles that are being posted are by some automated system? I have a FB friend that I had to hide his status because there were so many crazy political articles-- and we share the same political views! He just is more extreme. But I have assumed that these are posted to his status automatically because of the sheer volume of them and the fact that it will be 10 or 12 of them in a row.

That may account for some of the time if she isn't actually online posting them.

However the comment about her husband being home and she could read a book and take a nap would be enough at this point to be gone. But I am also snarky and would have posted back to her "So who is watching the kids?" just to see how she responded.

She does have one program that I can tell is automated, which provides her daily motivational quotes. The other articles and links she comments on as she posts them, so those really are her and not an application.
There have been a few posts that I've been extremely close to responding with a snarky comment. I'm trying to be above that, but some of her comments get under my skin!

 

[torinsmom]

I think you're right to pull your daughter; sounds like the person is watching kids for a job, when working with kids should be a passion. I used to keep a few kids in my home before I became a teacher. I would fold laundry in the living room while they were playing or sweep the kitchen while they were having a snack. I did not spend hours on the computer while they were watching tv.

Obviously, this person does not think she is doing anything wrong, since she has you as a friend and is still posting all day every day. I would be worried what she is doing that you don't know about.

Marsha

 

[princessmom29]

She does have one program that I can tell is automated, which provides her daily motivational quotes. The other articles and links she comments on as she posts them, so those really are her and not an application.
There have been a few posts that I've been extremely close to responding with a snarky comment. I'm trying to be above that, but some of her comments get under my skin!

they could be posting automatically and she is commenting after the fact. I know that is possible on FB.

 

[apnep]

But I am also snarky and would have posted back to her "So who is watching the kids?" just to see how she responded.

Ha! I totally would have too. I'm sorry, the woman commented that she would go read and take a nap while she was supposed to be working?? That is just too much.

Ang

 

[disneymom3]

However the comment about her husband being home and she could read a book and take a nap would be enough at this point to be gone. But I am also snarky and would have posted back to her "So who is watching the kids?" just to see how she responded.

Yep, I was going along with mixed feelings until I read that one! I suppose he is listed as her relief caregiver on her contract though. I still would not be comfortable with it. I would however, probably keep her there until the two week notice was up. She is not endangering hte kids, she is just doing a crappy job.

 

[EclecticWAHM]

I know someone is going to take offense to this, but I have to throw it out there. You are upset that she is on facebook while your children are there, but how many of us dis with our kids at home and awake when we are the only caregiver??? Is it really the fact that she is on facebook, or her political views ect that you have a problem with? Why does the content matter if the issue is simply being on facebook and giving constant attention to the kids. Mabye they were napping while she was on, or engaged in some activity and she is stealing a couple minutes at a time to post? I think you should talk to her and get her side before umping to conclusions with both feet.

I think the issue would be that this person is supposed to be acting *professionally. She is being paid to supervise the children, not to play on Facebook all day. I'd fire any employee I was paying who was posting on FB all day instead of doing what I paid them to do. It's basically stealing.

 

[DebMcDonald]

I'm a former daycare provider here who gave it up after 5 years when I needed to go back to work as my husband had been laid off.

You have lots of questions/comments here. I'll start with the two week notice thing, providers require that because of situations like your's where someone decides to pull with no notice to the provider which happens more often than you think. I think you need to have open communication with your provider and when you no longer do the relationship breaks down, which from your point of view I think it has. I had a previous daycare provider while I was still working that did the same things with my own kids, on the computer all day, emailing parents about what they supposedly did, which they never did, she even once mowed the lawn at naptime . I think if you are not comfortable with leaving your child their for two more weeks then you will spend the next two weeks worried, what I will highly recommend is that your child has time to say good-by and close out that relationship.

Regarding the Facebook thing, I did play on that and check my email and also spent time on the disboards when the kids had what I called "free play", which was just letting them be kids and play with what they want, but I was still providing that structured time at other times. Being a daycare provider is a very lonely job with no one to talk to all day because everyone else is working, I am by no means making excuses for her and I think you have much more going on than just this itself.

Regarding the TV, I NEVER let my daycare kids watch TV as I felt that parents will not paying me to let their kids sit in front of the TV all day. Back to my earlier comment about my previous daycare provider, my kids were singing all sorts of songs from TV shows that we never watched, unfortunately it took me awhile to put this all together.

Regarding the breakfast, if she's participating in a food program, she can NOT cut out any meals because she is being reimbursed for them. This would be grounds for being terminated from that program.

Regarding the money that she owes you, it may be easier to walk away from that, easier said than done, but it comes down to the safety of your child.

Also, remember that she has your kids for 8-12 hours a day and all of that day can not be structured because kids learn by just playing with each other and playing by themselves. Sometimes when using a home daycare provider there is a very very fine line between business/family and friends.