Of course I meant no disrespect to anyone! But here we're told of a guy who is trying to lose weight. He is advised of a goal range (which is in the healthy range according to everything I've read) and before his journey even begins his mother is saying "there is no way he'll ever get there" and another person saying that at 6'3" 185 lbs. he won't look attractive. I think people fighting to lose weight should be supported, not discouraged. My mother always thought I was too thin even when I was significantly overweight.
Snackystacky, I don't think we have the same interpretation of the Body Mass Index (BMI). According to the Center for Disease Control, BMI does not measure body fat. For example, two people of the same height and weight will have identical BMI's. However, one person might have substantially more body fat than the other who has substantially more lean muscle mass. BMI is just one statistical tool used to predict health risk and healthy body weights. If you are 6'2" and 195 lbs. your BMI is 25, which the government considers to be "overweight. Interestingly at 194 lbs. your BMI would be 124.9 and within the healthy weight range. Of course, as with any other measure, this is simply one factor in considering your overall health and your situation may be different. If you did have abdominoplasty and your weight went to 170, your BMI would be 21.2 which is below the mid-point for the range considered healthy.
I certainly did not mean to offend, but I think peoples' goals should be supported unless they are unhealthy. Personally, I've run into some people who've discouraged my weight loss and excercise program. Perhaps my success results in their feeling bad or guilty about their own weight. And society, right or wrong, does use weight and attractiveness as a point of comparison. So let me compare myself to Snackystacky and say "I'm envious of those 34/32's!" (I'm going to get there - the 36 / 32's are starting to bunch up a little in the waist!)