Would you tolerate this?

[TomLovesBecky]

I do believe the words I have put in red, are famous last words.

No kidding. What is she, stupid?? Look, we all want to think we are such great parents that our kids would never do the dumb things we did as kids. At 14, having a boy over with my parents not there would have led to just one thing. Maybe not the "full monty" so to speak but definite sexual activity. NOT GOOD. She has to understand that you can trust your kids all you want but that doesn't make it right to put them in or allow them to create situations that are over their heads to test them, especially if failing the test could lead to lifelong consequences (like a baby at 14).

 

[rie'smom]

When my daughter has friends over boyfriend of the moment, etc., I walk in and out of the room 55 bazillion times. If she tried to tell us to leave, I'd laugh. Hello, we pay the mortgage. It's my husband's and my house, she lives here as her brothers did. It's theirs after we're dead and buried and not one minute sooner, so she'd better not tell me to leave.

 

[Minnie_me]

She has to understand that you can trust your kids all you want but that doesn't make it right to put them in or allow them to create situations that are over their heads to test them, especially if failing the test could lead to lifelong consequences (like a baby at 14).

This is a great quote.

 

[Nancyg56]

Not a chance this would fly in my house.

 

[golfgal]

My daughters would have never even thought of telling me to leave. It might be too late for them to grow a backbone, the daughter runs the house. The grandchild will be there soon as well. Tell them to get prepared.

I was thinking the same thing because they would know DH and I would be doing something like this . Nice try Shirley.


I would probably just start calling her grandma just so she can get used to the idea.

 

[Wishing on a star]

<-------- that's me after my kids trying to tell me I had to leave.

Me too!!!
And, DH would be the one with the shotgun!!!

This is really just incredible...
If there is any truth, then I agree with the poster who said it sounds as if the parents are encouring this and living vicariously thru the kid.

They are talking this boy up... how he is just such a great kid...
Pretty obvious that the parents... the mother... is way too vested here.

 

[disykat]

I trust my sons. However, no one is allowed in our home when dh and I are not there unless I know them well and also trust THEM.

 

[RitaZ.]

My niece is 14 and has her first "real" boyfriend. My DB and DSIL have been chatting about him via email all weekend.

They showed me pictures of him, from my niece's phone. He's a good student, an athlete, good family, etc.

When I asked if they liked him, they both said that they have not been ALLOWED to meet him yet.

He came to their home to watch a movie with my niece and her best friend, but my brother and SIL had to LEAVE THE HOUSE before he arrived!

My SIL says to me, "Can you imagine? Not being allowed to meet your daughter's first boyfriend?!??!"

Um, NO I CAN'T!

Why are they allowing this?!?!?

My oldest is only 11, so I may not know what I'm talking about, but I think I'd tell her that she is not allowed to have the boy in my home without introducing him to me first!

Thoughts?!?!?

Thougths? Yes, that would be my reaction to being ordered/asked to leave my home.

I think that some parents place too much importance on these young "relationships". I can't think of one reason why a 14 yr. old needs to have a "real" boyfriend.

DH recently went to lunch with one of his old friends. He was surprised at how much time his friend devoted to discussing his son's girlfriend during their lunch. It sounds like he and his wife are very involved in their son's relationship. BTW, the boy is 16. He told DH that they've even taken the girl on vacation with them, even a cruise. DH couldn't care less about any of it, but his friend went on and on. I don't get it.

 

[dislal]

My niece is 14 and has her first "real" boyfriend. My DB and DSIL have been chatting about him via email all weekend.

They showed me pictures of him, from my niece's phone. He's a good student, an athlete, good family, etc.

When I asked if they liked him, they both said that they have not been ALLOWED to meet him yet.

He came to their home to watch a movie with my niece and her best friend, but my brother and SIL had to LEAVE THE HOUSE before he arrived!

My SIL says to me, "Can you imagine? Not being allowed to meet your daughter's first boyfriend?!??!"

Um, NO I CAN'T!

Why are they allowing this?!?!?

My oldest is only 11, so I may not know what I'm talking about, but I think I'd tell her that she is not allowed to have the boy in my home without introducing him to me first!

Thoughts?!?!?

I really really hate parents who cannot tell their children NO!!!!! What happens when they get into the real world and think everything should be their way.

 

[Laurabearz]

I would not allow that at all. No way no how?



This is a joke right? I has to be a joke...


I would like to know what dirty secret she has to have such power over her parents

 

[famofsix]

your sisinlaw does not have a clue.

It wouldn't fly at our home...we actually parent the kids.