Would you tolerate this?

[MushyMushy]

<-------- that's me after my kids trying to tell me I had to leave.

 

[imabrat]

I'm sorry, but your in-laws need to grow a backbone. Stop being doormats. If I EVER tried that one with my parents, I'd be locked in my room until I was 80. That is utterly disrespectful and needs to be stopped NOW.

 

[antmaril]

The parents are asking for trouble - big trouble.

That would never be tolerated in my house. My son is almost 22, but when he was a teenager, he was not allowed to have a girl in our house when we weren't home. I never had any trouble saying to him "I am the boss of you."

 

[Sleepy]

So maybe they should develop a system to let each other know when it is not a good time to return home. Sort of like hang a towel on the front door knob or something.

The idea of telling a parent they have to leave so the kid can have the house to themself is ridiculous. They are NOT roommates. They are mom and dad and should be treated as such. Mom and dad are crazy to even suggest this is acceptable or even remotely amusing.

 

[Kath2003]

I can't imagine EVER telling my parents what to do as a child. Heck I can't imagine telling them what to do now

 

[Amlee]

You have got to be kidding me! Not happening! No way! No how!

 

[Disney Doll]

If I had ever said that to my parents when I was 14 they'd probably still be laughing.

 

[ntsammy5]

If they allow this behavior they'll be grandparents soon.

 

[c4a]

Is this a joke? No. Never. Kendall's dates have to come to the front door when they pick her up-no "meeting" boys somewhere or "honk & runs". Actually, it's part of the fun...we try to come up with creative ways to let the guys know that the young lady they think is "a hot woman" is our "little girl". Cleaning guns...
Granted, if they are going to do it-they are going to...do it. But geez, why not just go ahead and light them some candles, put on some Luther Vandross, and turn the bed down while they are at it. They trust their daughter. Great. However, they are also putting their trust into a teenage boy they have never met. Do they not remember being teenager's? Does the dad not remember being a teenage boy & what was on his mind?

 

[mickeymedic]

With their attitude towards parenting, maybe they would not be upset to be grandparents so soon.

 

[rpbert1]

I have a DD26 and DS 24, and they knew the rules of MY house, even up to DD got married, and DS has his own house now and is getting married next year, No one in the house especially opposite sex without other responsible adults, they where not happy about it , but the rules applied to both of them, needless to say when we where on hols , who knows what went on, we where never told. But when we where there they kept the rules.
If i had been asked to leave , alarm bells would start ringing, so think they need to have a family meeting and start laying down rules of THEIR house, but will probably be to late for that now going by what has been said.

 

[Serena]

My daughters would have never even thought of telling me to leave. It might be too late for them to grow a backbone, the daughter runs the house. The grandchild will be there soon as well. Tell them to get prepared.

 

[binny]

Who is not allowing them to meet the boyfriend, their dd?
So when the dd told her parents to leave, they did?
I'm sorry for the confusion, but I just can't imagine any of my children ordering me to leave my house, and me actually doing it

uhhh yeah what they said.

It woul dbe a cold day in heck before I allowed my kids to make me leave my house and an even colder one if there was a BF or GF involved in tha situation. Especially one I hadnt met.

I cant imagine not knowing my kids friends much less a BF.

If they even suggested it I think dh and I must just bust out laughing actually.

 

[Allison]

Why am I reminded of the Seinfeld episode where they talk about Bizarro World where everything is the opposite of what it should be?

 

[Stacerita]

I would not tolerate this at all.

 

[Minnie_me]

OP here again =- -

I finally heard back from my SIL, and she was VERY snippy in her response.

Here it is:

OF COURSE we're meeting him. We're meeting him Wed night. I had full and complete trust and confidence in Lilly when I left on Wed (with major conditions!!!) to give them an hour by themselves with Rose (the friend) there. I do not feel she is hiding anything from us, just merely embarrassed at an awkward situation.

Your turn will come.

I think she just did some major backpedaling, considering that in her original email to me she said this:

But here's the kicker: Lilly won't let us meet him. He came over the other night for a couple of hours to watch a movie with Lilly and Rose, but she did NOT want me there. Can you imagine?!? Having NO CONTACT with your daughter's boyfriend??!

Doesn't sound like the same situation to me! Oh well. She's right - my turn will come, and then I can make sure I put my foot down instead of let my daughters tell me what to do!

 

[GoofyGolferGirl]

Some kids run their house, I have a friend who lets her daughter tell her what to do--when to get off the phone and when she can use the phone. I don't even call on the weekends or evenings I know her daughter won't let me talk to her. Not me I pay the bills I make the rules!!

 

[TomLovesBecky]

That's crazy! I would never allow that. No, I don't know every single one of my kids' school friends, but that stays at school. If they are coming over or our kids are going to their houses, we MUST know the kids AND the parents. No way on this earth would any boy be alone with my teen daughter in the house when we were not home (young teen with a boyfriend, a responsible 17-year-old with a friend MAYBE) whether we knew him or not.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

If they even suggested it I think dh and I must just bust out laughing actually.

Same thing here.

 

[Amlee]

OP here again =- -

I finally heard back from my SIL, and she was VERY snippy in her response.

Here it is:

OF COURSE we're meeting him. We're meeting him Wed night. I had full and complete trust and confidence in Lilly when I left on Wed (with major conditions!!!) to give them an hour by themselves with Rose (the friend) there. I do not feel she is hiding anything from us, just merely embarrassed at an awkward situation.

Your turn will come.

I think she just did some major backpedaling, considering that in her original email to me she said this:

But here's the kicker: Lilly won't let us meet him. He came over the other night for a couple of hours to watch a movie with Lilly and Rose, but she did NOT want me there. Can you imagine?!? Having NO CONTACT with your daughter's boyfriend??!

Doesn't sound like the same situation to me! Oh well. She's right - my turn will come, and then I can make sure I put my foot down instead of let my daughters tell me what to do!

I do believe the words I have put in red, are famous last words.