Would you rather...

[Rora]

Would you rather...

Be with the person you loved and be poor?

OR

NOT be with the person you loved and be well off?


And please, no: "Be well off AND be with the person I love!", unless you really really really can't help yourself. Looking for what people value most: love or financial well-being. Just curious!

 

[lacrosse_lady72]

Question: does each situation last forever? As in, if you choose to be in love and poor, will you always be in love? Will you always be poor? It hasn't happened to me personally but I feel like I hear of a lot of couples being driven apart because of financial reasons.

Reversely, if you are currently rich and single, will you always be rich and single? Can you continue being rich the rest of your life and eventually find someone?

 

[harleyquinn]

Question: does each situation last forever? As in, if you choose to be in love and poor, will you always be in love? Will you always be poor? It hasn't happened to me personally but I feel like I hear of a lot of couples being driven apart because of financial reasons.

Reversely, if you are currently rich and single, will you always be rich and single? Can you continue being rich the rest of your life and eventually find someone?

lmao

I can't imagine life without my husband.

My question is, however, how "well off" would I be? Are we talking professional athelete well off?

 

[NY Disney fan]

Although money is important, it is just a distraction from our real life. Our real life is what goes on inside of us, not what goes on outside of us. Your "inside" life eventually rules your outside life. Not vice versa.

That being said, I would rather be rich and single. I do better when I'm single so I might as well be rich! LOL.

 

[Rora]

Lacrosse Lady:

Hmm.. good question.

If you choose the first option- you will always be poor but always be in love. No trouble in paradise, just financial troubles. But it doesn't tear you apart.

If you choose the second option- you will always be rich but won't be with the person you love (think: the love of your life). You could be with someone else but it wouldn't be your "soul mate".

 

[lacrosse_lady72]

Also... how poor is poor? Because I like eating. If being poor makes it so that I have to eat ramen noodles the rest of my life I'm definitely picking option #2.

 

[Rora]

Also... how poor is poor? Because I like eating. If being poor makes it so that I have to eat ramen noodles the rest of my life I'm definitely picking option #2.

Okay.. poor meaning you can make ends meet.

So, you can eat, own a car, have somewhere to live, etc. BUT, you can't always go to the movies, out to dinner, have extra money to just spend, take shopping sprees.. and worst of all: cut back on your Disney habit.

 

[wdwfan16]

Dh and I got married and all we owed was bills. Some of our fondest memories were from our poor times. We worked and no longer are we poor.

If DH passed away now I would be well off and sad. I would rather lose all that we had and have him. Love is more
important than money.

I vote for love.

 

[dislaney]

Tough choice. I can't imagine my life without my dh though.. Hmm maybe I can?

 

[Nancyg56]

I chose poor and with my DH. Nothing comes for free so having a lot of money would have a price as well.

I would like to just say that a young woman I worked with corrected me when i whined that I was "poor" the day before payday. SHe told me that I meant that I was broke. She was raised by a single mother and they had very little. She told me that I was far from poor. I never used that expression again so if I was really choosing I would say that I would rather live with a lot less ans be in love with my best friend.

 

[pearlieq]

Why does being with the person I love make me poor?

Does he have a drinking/drug/gambling problem or something? Can he not control his spending? Is he so sick that he requires constant care and I can't work? Does he insist on living somewhere with no prospects or keeping me barefoot and pregnant?

I don't understand why I have to be single to be rich, but if the reasons are anything like those above, I think I'd stay single.

I'm inclined to say I'd stay single in either way. Love shouldn't hold you back--it should help you be the best person you can. If loving this person clips my wings and keeps me from succeeding, it doesn't sound like a positive thing.

It helps that I don't believe in "soulmates". I think a lot of love is deciding to make a commitment to someone and then working at it. I'm convinced I could be equally happy with any number of people as long as we have some affection and attraction for each other and a willingess to commit and work it through.

 

[lacrosse_lady72]

Lacrosse Lady:

Hmm.. good question.

If you choose the first option- you will always be poor but always be in love. No trouble in paradise, just financial troubles. But it doesn't tear you apart.

If you choose the second option- you will always be rich but won't be with the person you love (think: the love of your life). You could be with someone else but it wouldn't be your "soul mate".

Hm... see this drives more questions. What if I am one of those people who do not believe in "soul mates", because I am one of those people. I think everyone has the potential so be in love with many people. I just think love comes when person A1 finds person B1, one of many potential person Bs. They then decide that they will stick together.

What if person A1 dies, is that it for person B1? Do they not get anymore chances to be truly in love?

I think person B1 also has a bunch of person As around and if they run into person A2, they can love that person just as much as they loved person A1.

So for me, if I pick #2 then I miss out on person B1 but I still have a chance at the rest of the person Bs?

lol... hopefully that wasn't confusing. I'm really not trying to be a butthead, I'm just making sure I know the fine print here

 

[SC Minnie]

Okay.. poor meaning you can make ends meet.

So, you can eat, own a car, have somewhere to live, etc. BUT, you can't always go to the movies, out to dinner, have extra money to just spend, take shopping sprees.. and worst of all: cut back on your Disney habit.

Well, with that definition of poor I'm going with #1.

 

[lacrosse_lady72]

Okay.. poor meaning you can make ends meet.

So, you can eat, own a car, have somewhere to live, etc. BUT, you can't always go to the movies, out to dinner, have extra money to just spend, take shopping sprees.. and worst of all: cut back on your Disney habit.

Then ABSOLUTELY NOT!

 

[Rora]

Why does being with the person I love make me poor?

Does he have a drinking/drug/gambling problem or something? Can he not control his spending? Is he so sick that he requires constant care and I can't work? Does he insist on living somewhere with no prospects or keeping me barefoot and pregnant?

I don't understand why I have to be single to be rich, but if the reasons are anything like those above, I think I'd stay single.

I'm inclined to say I'd stay single in either way. Love shouldn't hold you back--it should help you be the best person you can. If loving this person clips my wings and keeps me from succeeding, it doesn't sound like a positive thing.

Oh, I didn't mean for it to be at all like the situations you suggested. You're poor because you're poor. You don't make much money, etc. There's no other circumstance than that.

Again, purely hypothetical and just curious to see what people would choose!

Hm... see this drives more questions. What if I am one of those people who do not believe in "soul mates", because I am one of those people. I think everyone has the potential so be in love with many people. I just think love comes when person A1 finds person B1, one of many potential person Bs. They then decide that they will stick together.

What if person A1 dies, is that it for person B1? Do they not get anymore chances to be truly in love?

I think person B1 also has a bunch of person As around and if they run into person A2, they can love that person just as much as they loved person A1.

So for me, if I pick #2 then I miss out on person B1 but I still have a chance at the rest of the person Bs?

lol... hopefully that wasn't confusing. I'm really not trying to be a butthead, I'm just making sure I know the fine print here

It's a bit more difficult to answer this question if you don't buy into the Soul Mate theory. I guess in your situation just pretend that this person is the only person left that you could love, for whatever reason, and that you wouldn't fall in love with anyone else.

Guess that doesn't help but ultimately you're just choosing love or wealth.

 

[Mickey'snewestfan]

Hmmmmm, I'm single and perfectly happily so. That isn't to say that I would mind finding the perfect partner, but it isn't a high priority to me, so if my fairy godmother (the only person who I might believe) came to me and said "OK, I located your prince charming for you but he's a mail order husband, and he'll cost you $1,000 a month on your credit card for eternity", I'd probably say "Nah, I'm fine the way I am, let him stay where he is".

On the other hand, the person I love most in the world is my son. If somehow I had to pay every cent I'll ever earn to keep him -- yeah, in a heartbeat. I'd crawl through fire for the priveledge of continuing to parent him.

 

[pearlieq]

You're poor because you're poor. You don't make much money, etc. There's no other circumstance than that.

I'm sorry, then, but your scenario just doesn't make any sense. I'm poor because I'm poor, but only if I'm with that person? Otherwise I'm well off?

Is there a single person money fairy involved? Otherwise I just don't see how your financial situation is tied to your partner without them being involved.

I realize you're just asking a question out of curiosity, but it's hard to answer because there just isn't any logic to it.

Unless, of course, I can find that fairy.

 

[ginna74]

being with the man that I love, even without a lot of funding, would (and does) make me the richest woman in the world

 

[Rora]

I'm sorry, then, but your scenario just doesn't make any sense. I'm poor because I'm poor, but only if I'm with that person? Otherwise I'm well off?

Is there a single person money fairy involved? Otherwise I just don't see how your financial situation is tied to your partner without them being involved.

I realize you're just asking a question out of curiosity, but it's hard to answer because there just isn't any logic to it.

Unless, of course, I can find that fairy.

Again, just curiosity. I guess I should've realized people would read into it and put more thought into it than I did!

If this helps, just pick love or money.

 

[angie@dvcstore]

Being with the person I love because money can't bring happiness only a true love can