Would You Pack Up And Move Across The Country For $10,000 More A Year?

[oxfordcircus]

What would YOU do?

No freaking way would I do this. There's more to happiness and therefore productivity than salary.

I switched jobs within town for about the same increase. I've regretted it ever since.

The only way I'd move across country for a $10000 raise is if my new job was at Disney World.

 

[AKL_Megs]

You need to talk to your boyfriend about your feelings. You stated that you do not want to leave MI but of course don't want to live apart from your boyfriend. He needs to know how you are feeling about all this. Are you trying to sway him one way or the other? You also have to decide if you could be happy making this move with him being that far from MI. It really does come down to more things than just money.

I've talked to him, but like I said, all he sees is the $10,000, and he's convinced I would go with him happily! He's in a little bit of denial... blinded by the $10,000.

 

[elizke]

When I was younger, I probably would have said yes. But because I have now lived far away from all of my family for most of my adult life, I emphatically say no.

I have missed so much and so have they. There's no way to ever make that up.

 

[AKL_Megs]

I have missed so much and so have they. There's no way to ever make that up.

I hate for this to happen to me. Trying to hide the tears in her eyes, my mother keeps reminding me that he's going to be my husband and I have to go with him if I love him. But I love my family, too.

 

[ElizaB39]

Heck no. But, do a calculation of what that 10,000 equates to for each day of the year. Take out federal, state and local taxes and then divide by 260 days (52 weeks x 5 working days per week). That is how much more each day he would be earning.

Sometime the math makes the decision for you. If he takes home 70% of his paycheck, then he would be making $26.92 more each day of the week, or $134.60 per week for the year.

 

[PrincessKitty1]

No way would $10,000 make that kind of a difference to me. I would rather live in a place I love, near people I love, than make an extra $10,000 per year. In fact, I would willingly take a $10,000/yr pay CUT if I could be guaranteed a job I love instead of a job that's just OK.

You do need to let DF know how you feel--perhaps he thinks you will willingly follow him to Dallas because you haven't said otherwise?? I know I sometimes expect DH to read between the lines, but sometimes you just have to flat out say, "No, honey, I really don't want to go."

 

[Evil Genius]

I'd be packin' my stuff so fast it would make your head spin.

 

[AKL_Megs]

I know I sometimes expect DH to read between the lines, but sometimes you just have to flat out say, "No, honey, I really don't want to go."

I feel so bad about it. I've told him, but I don't think he takes me seriously. I don't know how much more blunt I can be other than to say what I have - "I'm not moving to Dallas." LOL!

 

[lovemygoofy]

I've talked to him, but like I said, all he sees is the $10,000, and he's convinced I would go with him happily! He's in a little bit of denial... blinded by the $10,000.

You have to spell it out what you want. Do you even know what you want? I know you want your family and your man but are you prepared to move with him should he choose? You really need to do some thinking about what will make you happiest. Is there another choice like staying put besides the Flint and the Dallas?

My mother was like yours at first. I'm her only but now she is adjusted. She comes to visit and I go visit there. I love living away from home now and setting up my own little family and then I like to visit and go home away from it all. Have you ever lived far from home? What about your husband? Do you constantly spend time with the families?

I guess it just wasn't that hard for me because as much as I love my family I love and wanted to be with Matt. They will always be my family but my Matt was/is my future and I wanted to be whereever he is. Goodluck, I know for many this is a very hard choice. You hav be to very clear with your boyfriend about everytihng you are thinking.

 

[Fintastic]

$10,000 more a year really isn't that much (unless you're not making a lot to start out with). If you're happy where you are right now I'd stay put. I'd pack up and move in a heartbeat because I hate where we live but if you're happy where you are, why go anywhere for only $10,000 more a year?

 

[Robinrs]

I tripled my salary recently and moved 4 miles closer intown.

No, $10,000 is not enough to make me move further. Broken down monthly that's less than $900 a month or less than $200 a week. NOT a lot of money.

 

[LoraJ]

Personally, I wouldn't want to live in Flint. Based on that alone, I'd move to Dallas if that was the only other offer. Other than that, there's too many other factors that I would have to weigh before figuring out if I would move or not.

I totally agree with this.

In my case I would not move for 10K more. In yours, I would.
Now if DFI was manted to move to Dallas or wherever for a salary increase, if that was what he truly wanted, i would go with him. He makes me happier than the friends I have here. My family is already 500 miles away.

 

[DaisyD]

No way. Maybe for an additional $100,000 we would. That MIGHT make it worth it. I can't imagine moving across the street for $10,000!

 

[All Morganic]

We lived in Michigan and DH got a job offer in Oklahoma making more money, but still less money that both of our salaries combined. The same week he got the job offer I found out I was pregnant with DD#1. So, altho I hated to leave my family, I was going to have an opportunity to be a SAHM. 1 year later we were transfered to Texas (not Dallas, but Houston) and again found out I was pg. with DD#2 (I guess something about moving makes me fertile )

Sometimes I really miss my family and am sad for them to not be close to our girls, but it really has been a good move for us, not only financially but we've had the opportunity to grow together as a family (the 4 of us). As far as being lonely, yup, I was at first. I've joined various groups and have met some people I know will be my best friends forever, no matter where we live. Your mother is right (scary, huh?), your DF will soon be your husband and then HE is your family. If you're not willing to move with him (IMHO), then maybe he isn't "the one." I would have moved to Mars with my DH, and believe me, Oklahoma was pretty close to Mars (sorry Okies )

I would check on the cost-of-living factor. We found Houston housing to be much lower than Michigan. We bought a huge home here for the same price we sold our tiny one for there. Also, Dallas is an awesome city - beautiful, lots to do and see. The weather isn't as extreem (you'll still get season.) It is a million times better than Flint. Airfare is pretty cheap from Dallas to Detroit (less than $200 most of the time). We fly back twice a year, our families fly here usually twice, sometimes 3 times a year. We really don't have a chance to miss them much!


How 'bout taking a weekend and flying there and checking it out? You may be pleasantly surprised!

Good luck and let us know what you decide!

 

[Skatermom23]

My BIL and his wife just did this! He got about $10K more per year with a
$10K signing bonus plus they paid for the move. For them it was about opportunity. The job market and advancement is a better deal in the new area. Plus schools are better and the area is a safer place for kids. Plus I think they were looking for some excitement and adventure to mix things up some.

 

[disney junky]

Not for 10 grand. Not worth the expense of moving into the unknown.

exactly my feelings.... unless of course the money $12,000 to $22,000....then I might.

 

[Disney-Kim]

10,000 take home isn't a HUGE amt of money...so it really matters what the cost of living is and whether the raise will cover that. it works out to $4.81 per hour.

thats a hard choice...for the money, I wouldn't move.

but...if its a great career choice that may mean a lot more money in the future...maybe.

and Flint, MI has one of the highest unemployment levels and crime levels in the Nation. I personally would not move there.

good luck.

 

[pearlieq]

What kind of potential does the new job have? If it's a better job with more possibilty of advancement, I would jump on the opportunity.

Just based on the two towns, Dallas seems to have a lot more potential than Flint.

 

[MUFFYCAT]

Not for $10,000. after taxes it's even less.

 

[JunieJay]

If you have a built in infrastructure in Michigan, especially if you are considering having kids, I'd stay put. Thats a luxury you'll wish you had never given up if you move to Dallas that no amount of increase in salary can compensate for.