Would you let a principal know if one of her teachers told the kids...

[castleview]

that Santa wasn't real? DD10 told me the other day that the music teacher was explaining that Santa wasn't real and we stole an idea from Europe and put our own twist on it. Now DD has been on the edge of the Santa belief so I'm not upset she knows - even though she's bummed. However, I've know this teacher for a while and he is a dense man in his own world. I could totally see him saying this without thinking some kids might still believe. Either way, it's not his job to let anyone know. Of course, this is DD's version of the story only. I'm friends with the principal and I'm not looking for the teacher's head but I'm wondering if I should let her know. I just worry about the teacher saying this to younger kids and think it was irresponsible of him. What would you do?

 

[mom2boys77]

My son is 8 and totally still believes..I would be very upset if someone ruined that for him. I'd mention it to the principal since you are friends.

that Santa wasn't real? DD10 told me the other day that the music teacher was explaining that Santa wasn't real and we stole an idea from Europe and put our own twist on it. Now DD has been on the edge of the Santa belief so I'm not upset she knows - even though she's bummed. However, I've know this teacher for a while and he is a dense man in his own world. I could totally see him saying this without thinking some kids might still believe. Either way, it's not his job to let anyone know. Of course, this is DD's version of the story only. I'm friends with the principal and I'm not looking for the teacher's head but I'm wondering if I should let her know. I just worry about the teacher saying this to younger kids and think it was irresponsible of him. What would you do?

 

[Jennasis]

No. I wouldn't. The man didn't lie to the kids. There IS no such thing as Santa. I can't imagine getting a teacher in trouble over the this.

 

[mom2boys77]

Kids only get to be innocent for a little while so for an adult to ruin this for them is just not nice. Not saying the teacher should be in trouble but definitely should be more aware of what he is saying. It's really not a teacher's job to tell my kids things like that.

 

[jrmasm]

No I wouldn't.

 

[LuvLDM]

I can't imagine getting a teacher in trouble over the this.

I can't either.
I would let it go. At that age he probably assumed the kids already knew Santa wasn't real.

 

[Mrs. Charming]

No. I wouldn't. The man didn't lie to the kids. There IS no such thing as Santa. I can't imagine getting a teacher in trouble over the this.

I agree. I think it would be different if the teacher told a kindergarten class this... but 10 year olds? (5th grade I assume?) That's not worth a phone call. Nope.

 

[PrincessTiffany]

OMG, there is no way I would let that go. If it was a jr. high or high school teacher, then no, of course, there would not be a problem. With an elementary school teacher it is a big deal. That teacher had no right to tell you kid or anybody else's kid that Santa isn't real. I would most definitely having a talk with that teacher. That teacher had to be aware that some children of that age still believe. What a jerk.

 

[ccgirl]

I'm of the belief that if you have a problem with the teacher, you go to the teacher not the principal. Just like if someone has a problem with me at work I would expect them to come to me first and not my manager. Common courtesy IMHO.

 

[curious3069]

No, I would not bother a principal with this. They have much much bigger fish to fry.

 

[mom2boys77]

I believe the op said she worried if he was saying it to 10 year olds she worried that he might say the same to younger kids which is when I would be upset..older kids not so much.

I agree. I think it would be different if the teacher told a kindergarten class this... but 10 year olds? (5th grade I assume?) That's not worth a phone call. Nope.

 

[castleview]

I agree. I think it would be different if the teacher told a kindergarten class this... but 10 year olds? (5th grade I assume?) That's not worth a phone call. Nope.

Fourth grade. I'm not looking for the teacher to get in trouble, but was thinking a reminder because he is a rather clueless man. This a guy who grades his elementary school kids on a curve - off topic point but one of the many interesting things about him.

 

[luvmy3]

no. I wouldn't. The man didn't lie to the kids. There is no such thing as santa. I can't imagine getting a teacher in trouble over the this.

mte

 

[mjkacmom]

I'm of the belief that if you have a problem with the teacher, you go to the teacher not the principal. Just like if someone has a problem with me at work I would expect them to come to me first and not my manager. Common courtesy IMHO.

 

[WeLoveLilo05]

lol, I would tell DD he must have been bad and gotten coal for Christmas thats why he said there was no Santa
I would be upset too, I still believed in Santa when I was 10, its not HIS job to tell your child that there is no Santa. And what if your DD got in your car after school hysterical crying there was no Santa and you has a 5 yr old in your car as well? KWIM.
Not sure what I would do about the situation though, I would probably be on the boards asking people's advice like you are. Maybe take it up with the teacher first.

 

[Jennasis]

Fourth grade. I'm not looking for the teacher to get in trouble, but was thinking a reminder because he is a rather clueless man. This a guy who grades his elementary school kids on a curve - off topic point but one of the many interesting things about him.

You say you aren't looking for him to get in trouble but he WILL if you have to go to the principal about it. Even a "reminder" from the principal will be a reprimand and a mark against this guy. Frankly, if you must say something, say it to the teach himself and leave the principal out of it.

 

[castleview]

I'm of the belief that if you have a problem with the teacher, you go to the teacher not the principal. Just like if someone has a problem with me at work I would expect them to come to me first and not my manager. Common courtesy IMHO.

I'm normally like that - I used to teach and know how these things can be misconstrued. However, this guy is so disconnected that I feel it would be useless. As I've mentioned, he's not the most dynamic teacher or personality.

 

[Katieinwonderland]

I had a teacher at my primary school in England say this to a class of 5 year old kids! I remember her getting into big trouble, and my dad saying he didn't see the big deal since Santa wasn't real, and she was telling them the truth. My mom said the problem was that it wasn't her place to say this.

Maybe you could just talk to the teacher? Just let him know it didn't bother you with your DD since she was older, but you wanted to make sure younger kids didn't hear the same story. Maybe he doesn't have kids and doesn't think about things like that.

 

[Mrs. Charming]

I think by this point in the year, he probbaly has actually gotten to know the kids, and assessed from that, that the kids might already know and therefore it would be safe to say what he said.

Secondly, of course the older kids would say something to younger kids-- that's a part of life. That's how it goes, regardless of whom they heard it from!

 

[castleview]

I think by this point in the year, he probbaly has actually gotten to know the kids, and assessed from that, that the kids might already know and therefore it would be safe to say what he said.

Secondly, of course the older kids would say something to younger kids-- that's a part of life. That's how it goes, regardless of whom they heard it from!

I'm talking about the teacher possibly saying it to younger kids. Even though my daughter is ok, this was the final give away about Santa. Believe me, I'm kind of relieved she knows now. Still, it's not his job to do this.