Would you give your child the Master Bedroom?

[hereyago]

I am an only. I didn't have the master bedroom until this house. We only 3 houses after my dad retired from the military.
The first was a rental and I didn't have the master bedroom, but the bathroom off of it because it was small and the shower was and small and no tub.

The next house, my mom had the master and we only had 1 bathroom.
Finally this house: I got the master bedroom just because the bathroom is small and the view isn't great. It isn't massively bigger, but I do have a nice closet, lol.

But heck no, a kid isn't getting my room.

 

[jrmasm]

Highly unlikely.

 

[DisneyHardin]

When I was a kid I had the master bedroom at my dad's house. It was a very small house, but had a pretty good sized master. I had that room because there would not have been room for my bed and my toys in the small bedroom.

 

[Hikergirl]

I had the master when I was a teen. I grew up in a small house and spent alot of time in my room so it made sense to my single parent. I'm sure if my parents remained married that would not have happened.
In the OP's example, I'd just get rid of alot those toys instead of giving up my master for them.

 

[tinkerbellandeeyor]

Nope not even in my early years of marriage dh and I were still sharing my old bedroom at my dads house that was fun for him my walls all purple

ETA we moved 3 years ago and now we have the master

 

[ronandannette]

No; never. It wouldn't even cross my mind. We'd never choose a house that necessitated doing something like that. I'm thinking specifically here of the hypothetical example of a special needs child - we'd make sure there was an appropriate space for him/her that wasn't the master.

 

[fly girl]

No, not for precious snowflakes toys! I can feel the self entitlement oozing from the child already.

Disabled child or room for 3+ kids to share, I can understand that.

 

[sk!mom]

I have these friends that just bought a new condo downtown so we were getting the grand tour yesterday. It's a beautiful place! They have one child, a girl who is 6-years-old and...she has the master bedroom. And it is a NICE room, huge with ensuite bathroom, beautiful lake views...my friends have taken the bedroom down the hall and it is about 1/4 the size no adjoining bathroom and only a view of the condo tower next door.

Now, this child is quite indulged and a bit on the spoiled side anyway but this shocks me. Anyone here give up the master bedroom for their child? Would you? Surprisingly this is the 2nd family I know to have done this.

(For the record when I asked her why, she said because "Precious has so many toys it made sense to give her the big room").

I don't know if I can still respect them. (lol) Thoughts?

I said, "no" because I've raised two kids and never gave either the master. However, I can think of instances where I would have considered it. When I think of a "downtown condo" I'm thinking that it is likely a compact space. In that instance, I might prefer that all the kid stuff were confined to a bedroom and that might necessitate the larger room. I often thought that if I ever built my own house, I would have put a walk in closet in every bedroom so that more of the kid's "stuff" could be tucked away out of sight.

 

[MamaBelle4]

I said it depends.

If I felt it was safer (closer to a fire exit, separate floor, etc) or if more than 2 of my girls had to share rooms, then yes, I would.

Otherwise, no.

 

[Kitty 34]

Only if they paid me for the extra space!!

 

[DaisyJ]

Hell no, under any circumstance.

 

[ols386]

I would only give the master bedroom to a child if it was one of the situations already mentioned.

 

[RedAngie]

I've heard of parents putting two or more kids in the master bedroom, but not one child.

We moved from a cramped row house in the city to a large house in the suburbs when I was 12. While I didn't have the master bedroom, mine was actually larger than the master. The builder's floor plan called for two bedrooms in the allotted space, but my parents chose to make it into a single large bedroom. No en suite bath, however.

 

[Aliceacc]

For extra toy storage, no.

But if it were the single bedroom on the first floor or something, yes. Our daughters' bedroom is larger than ours, but it's upstairs. In that case, we felt that location outweighed size.

To be honest, though, we make the decisions that are best for us, not the ones our friends are most likely to approve.

Your friends' decision works best for them. Who are we to say it's wrong?

 

[tvguy]

I guess this maybe why some homebuilders are building homes with two master suites.

 

[tinkerbellandeeyor]

For extra toy storage, no.

But if it were the single bedroom on the first floor or something, yes. Our daughters' bedroom is larger than ours, but it's upstairs. In that case, we felt that location outweighed size.

To be honest, though, we make the decisions that are best for us, not the ones our friends are most likely to approve.

Your friends' decision works best for them. Who are we to say it's wrong?

That I am behind friends don't have enough information about you to approve every choice you make

 

[RedAngie]

I guess this maybe why some homebuilders are building homes with two master suites.

I thought that was so both the wife and husband could have their own separate suites.

 

[MommyinHonduras]

I had the master and my sisters had each of the other bedrooms on the main floor. We all shared one bathroom. I was the oldest. Parents took the basement bedroom because it had a door and they did not trust us to not sneak out. It was the biggest and had its own bathroom.

 

[tinkerbellandeeyor]

I thought that was so both the wife and husband could have their own separate suites.

I can't imagine not sharing a bed with dh

 

[tvguy]

I thought that was so both the wife and husband could have their own separate suites.

We looked at a house that had a huge master bathroom, vanity, toilet, bath tub, stand alone shower. Then we realized their was an identical bathroom on the other side of the wall, both with doors off the master bedroom. Yup, his and her's master suite bathrooms.

 

[maxaroni]

No. If extenuating circumstances happened, I would do what needed to be done for our family. However, I agree with @ronandannette that I would do my best to choose a home that worked for our family. When I say extenuating circumstances, an example would be that my SIL & BIL divorced with 2 young kids. They had bought a tiny 1 bedroom home when first married. They had very little money and she couldn't move. She put the 2 kids in the only bedroom and she took the sofa. Not really master as it was a 1 bedroom but it would need to be something like that for me to give up the master