Momager
Mouseketeer
- Joined
- Sep 27, 2018
Just to clarify a little... She has 3 daughters and 1 son. The son walked her down the isle, and her daughters (and 1 DIL) stood next to her and were included in everything. They went dress shopping together, planned everything out together. I asked at one point what her main color was for the wedding, and was told "its a surprise..." and wouldn't talk any more about it.
The rehearsal dinner was just for the people in the wedding party. The only reason I was invited was because my husband was in the wedding. My father made sure to tell me that. They handed out 'thank you" gifts to everyone in the party. I received nothing. I will say I forgot that one of her daughters is married, and her husband was also not included in the wedding - I forgot about him. We've only met her family 2-3 times, and always in a rush.
I was close with my father BECAUSE of my mother. She kept everyone together. Talking everything out with my husband lately, we've kinda come to the conclusion that my dad probably never wanted to have me, and that's why he's treating me (us) this way now - So he doesn't have to have us around anymore. My siblings are all from my mothers previous marriage and many years older than me. He only talks to 1 (out of 4) of them.
And just to give you an idea of what I'm dealing with....
I tried to have a sit-down with him a few months back telling him how much being excluded hurt me. He 100% felt he did nothing wrong and honestly couldn't care less when I said I was hurt. So I told him something I had never told anyone else (other than my husband)......
Years ago I went back to my high school and got every piece of paperwork that was ever written about me. I had a tough time growing up (I hated school, did terribly, and was bullied to the point of severe depression ). So I read what my guidance counselor wrote down after a meeting with my mother. She said that (I'm paraphrasing...) my dad was a great father, till I hit about 2 years old. Then he wanted nothing more to do with me.
So I tell my father this, and all he does is shrug. I asked him if he had any thoughts on that, and just continued to shrug. No facial expression, nothing.
The rehearsal dinner was just for the people in the wedding party. The only reason I was invited was because my husband was in the wedding. My father made sure to tell me that. They handed out 'thank you" gifts to everyone in the party. I received nothing. I will say I forgot that one of her daughters is married, and her husband was also not included in the wedding - I forgot about him. We've only met her family 2-3 times, and always in a rush.
I was close with my father BECAUSE of my mother. She kept everyone together. Talking everything out with my husband lately, we've kinda come to the conclusion that my dad probably never wanted to have me, and that's why he's treating me (us) this way now - So he doesn't have to have us around anymore. My siblings are all from my mothers previous marriage and many years older than me. He only talks to 1 (out of 4) of them.
And just to give you an idea of what I'm dealing with....
I tried to have a sit-down with him a few months back telling him how much being excluded hurt me. He 100% felt he did nothing wrong and honestly couldn't care less when I said I was hurt. So I told him something I had never told anyone else (other than my husband)......
Years ago I went back to my high school and got every piece of paperwork that was ever written about me. I had a tough time growing up (I hated school, did terribly, and was bullied to the point of severe depression ). So I read what my guidance counselor wrote down after a meeting with my mother. She said that (I'm paraphrasing...) my dad was a great father, till I hit about 2 years old. Then he wanted nothing more to do with me.
So I tell my father this, and all he does is shrug. I asked him if he had any thoughts on that, and just continued to shrug. No facial expression, nothing.