Would you be annoyed?

[Pakey]

I have no idea what my husband does at his business but for me, I keep my personal and my professional lives very separate. I do not ever take my husband to any company functions. I do not wear a wedding ring. I am not friends with any of my staff and I wouldn't think to share that information with them.

 

[Evil Genius]

No it wouldn't bother me. He is there to get work done. Not chitchat about his personal life.

 

[Sugardimples]

Some people just like to keep their personal and work lives separate. I work with a man who never mentioned his wife was pregnant with their first child until the day he called in to say he wouldn't be in because his wife had a baby. Did it again with the second child.

Now that I know him better I know that he adores his wife and children, just doesn't like it "when worlds collide".

 

[hambirg]

I think in this situation, it wouldn't bother me that the people he was working with didn't know. It WOULD bother me that he doesn't wear his wedding ring, however.

 

[Becky2005]

From your description of the situation no, I wouldn't be annoyed but then again I have been at work since May and I don't have a clue if 1/2 the people are married or single or have kids.

Plus as someone else said, these were the VIPs, basically you aren't going to be sitting around chit-chatting with them when there is work to be done. It doesn't sound like he went out after work in a relaxed atmosphere and talked to them. It doesn't sound like they are ones he will be working with on a daily basis after this either. Sounds like it was a short-term 2 week intense we have to get this done event.

 

[MrsJackSparrow4Life]

Two weeks wouldn't bother me at all, especially two weeks in which everyone is working hard to get something back up and running. Now if he had been working with them for two years I would probably be .

 

[Nancyg56]

This would not bother me at all. I was working foir over a year before I shared any of my personal life with any of my coworkers and I was choosey about those I spoke with. I hate drama and felt that the less that my coworkers knew about me personally the better.

 

[jsmith]

wouldnt bother me a bit-we keep our home and professional lives very seperate-there are people who i have worked with-not closely but regularly for five years who were quiet astonished to be introduced to my husband.

 

[NHdisneylover]

It wouldn't matter at all to me. I would figure he was busy WORKING at work.

 

[cm8]

It would bother me, honestly.

EDIT: it certainly doesn't mean that your DH is doing anything he shouldn't be doing and he could've just been super swamped with the work he needed to get done.. but it would make me upset to know he didn't talk about me and his kids. I should also add that I tend to get upset about these types of things easily.. just to put it in perspective.

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[Ceila]

I've worked at a school for over a year, and there are still a few people that I don't know that info about. It just never comes up when we're working.

Your situation wouldn't bother me in the least.

 

[prncess674]

As someone who is in a position of power in my company, I don't push on personal questions simply because I don't want to enter into uncomfortable situations. I try to steer topics away from home life. Work is work and I frankly don't really care what you do or who you do it with. I don't ask about outside relationships because some may live an alternative lifestyle that they don't wish to discuss.

 

[bumbershoot]

With my particular husband, it would bother me quite a bit, it would weird me out, freak me out, and make me tremendously concerned about what was happening. Because my husband talks about us at the drop of a hat. He talks about us while the hat is still dropping. Heck, he practically says "I'm Robert, I am married and have a 6 year old son" when he meets people.

He met the CEO of his company, and talked about us in the hour he was at the man's office! And when he went back a week or so later, the CEO asked about us (by name, which is impressive) and they talked about us again!

He recently got a replacement wedding ring (a drug he's taking causes puffiness, along with his extra weight right now, and we didn't want to make his real ring bigger, so bought a cheapie ring for now), and he feels safer...while he was ringless he brought us up even FASTER. (he doesn't think he's a hottie, but he knows that it doesn't always matter when it comes to workplace relationship confusion, and just wants everyone to know up front that he's got us and is blissful)

So yes, with my husband, I'd be concerned.

You know I think that the fact that he has been working 15-16 hours a day with no complaints probably makes them think that he has no family to get home to each night.

Definitely possible, especially if that's not the norm. At hubby's job those sort of hours are needed sometimes (and right now he travels for work, so he'll be gone for days, sometimes a couple weeks), and some are always surprised that he can do it, with us at home. But that's the point, he doesn't have to worry about the homefront because of us. If he were single, he'd have to worry about the house, etc etc...

Maybe he KNEW she would react the way she is and he really didn't want to get into it. Maybe he knew it would be full blown thing going on for who knows how long and he wanted to watch the football game or was TIRED from working under stress and long hours for 2 weeks and thought in his maleness "if I just don't respond I won't have to deal with the ongoing commotion"

And if that is so, that's just pathetic, b/c that sort of reaction always makes things SO MUCH WORSE.... But some people just never learn and keep doing that and digging themselves far deeper than they would have been, and destroying their relationship and the mutual respect often found in marriages in the process...

 

[horseshowmom]

Thanks for all of the responses everyone, it's nice to get an objective point of view. I think that I have been out of the work force for so long that I forget that not everyone lives revolve around their spouse and kids. Most people who I interact with on a daily basis know me as Christian, Ben, Sam and Emily's mom not Lisa. I guess the problem is maybe I never realized he may want to keep his home life private, all of his employees know me and the kids so I never thought about it. I may just be a little out of sorts because I haven't seen much of my Dh lately, he's been so busy with the reopening of the restaurant that I feel like the kids and I have been put aside. I know it's only temporary, soon everything will be back to normal. Sorry to vent

Let me add to this. I keep reading about "men" this and that. In my case, I'm a woman, and I can promise that my family is the center of my world, BUT I'm one of those who isn't overly chatty at work. I tend to be very much of a private person - that's just me.

There are many people that I have worked with for years that I could tell you very little about (and that's a LOT longer than 2 weeks! ). Some people are just more outgoing than others (my DH is definitely my opposite!).

 

[chloelovesdisney]

No, it wouldn't bother me. He was busy at work and there was no reason to discuss personal business.

 

[*Meagan*]

It would definitely bother me.

Sorry OP.

 

[Planogirl]

I work around several people and I have no idea if some of them are married and have kids or not. It has just never come up.

I wouldn't let it bother me after such a short time. It could be that those people never really paid attention either.

 

[hambirg]

I am just curious, because lots of people have expressed that they wouldn't be concerned because he is at work. . .and honestly I can understand that during a stressful transition at work, like seems to be the issue, that this would be normal. I can get that.

My issue with all of this is that he doesn't wear his wedding ring. Why on earth would somebody not wear their ring? My ex was a painting contractor. . .he didn't always wear his when he was doing work. . but it went right back on as soon as he was done spraying. .it was on when he was driving, when he stopped at the store for bread, when he stopped to get coffee. Now that I am divorced I run into lots of married men that slip their rings off. I'm sorry, but honestly, that is not a good sign. If I had a dime for every married guy out without his ring on that tried to hit on me. . .I would be at WDW right now, because I would be a wealthy woman! Not wearing your ring is NOT an option for me. It would be one thing if you didn't have rings because you couldn't afford them. . .but just choosing not to wear yours. . .is NOT an option to me. It's dishonesty at it's very core.

 

[chloelovesdisney]

Some people don't like wearing a ring, me included. It's not comfortable, I don't know how anyone wears one all the time. If someone is committed they don't need a ring. If someone isn't committed, wearing the ring won't stop them one little bit.

You don't discuss your personal life in a professional environment, especially during a busy time. No one cares and frankly it's a bore to hear about it. At a work party is different because there's smoozing going on and you're making small talk.

 

[allison443]

My issue with all of this is that he doesn't wear his wedding ring. Why on earth would somebody not wear their ring? My ex was a painting contractor. . .he didn't always wear his when he was doing work. . but it went right back on as soon as he was done spraying. .it was on when he was driving, when he stopped at the store for bread, when he stopped to get coffee. Now that I am divorced I run into lots of married men that slip their rings off. I'm sorry, but honestly, that is not a good sign. If I had a dime for every married guy out without his ring on that tried to hit on me. . .I would be at WDW right now, because I would be a wealthy woman! Not wearing your ring is NOT an option for me. It would be one thing if you didn't have rings because you couldn't afford them. . .but just choosing not to wear yours. . .is NOT an option to me. It's dishonesty at it's very core.

Really not trying to be rude, but your ex always wore his wedding ring and you still got divorced.
I currently don't wear a wedding ring and have been happily married for 26 years.

edited to add, I am not being snarky but my point is simply wearing a wedding ring isn't any guarantee of a successful, happy marriage.