Would you be annoyed?

[Lisa loves Pooh]

I don't see the issue.

If they wanted beer and you only offered certain kinds they don't like and they can buy their own--what's the problem?

As a hostess, you shouldn't get peeved. It hasn't anything to do with whether or not something is good enough.

Some people like cheap beer and perhaps you would have encountered the same problem if their preferred cheap beer was not on your list.

I'm cheap--so I would have stuck with the list...as long as the Pinot Grigio or Margeuritas were good.

My dad and step-mom annoy me to no end...and as long as they didn't make a snooty production out of it, even I wouldn't care if they ordered off the provided menu. (and yes--they have been known to "scoff" at things like the one time I went to a restaurant and all they sold was wine by the "jug".)

 

[mrsklamc]

Honestly I think what would have been rude would be to waste YOUR money on beer he didn't want. As is, he paid for what he wanted. Welcome to America.

 

[SiAmCrAzY]

As a former bartender, I know that many people can be very "loyal" when it comes to their brand. I personally prefer Stella, and will gladly pay extra for it when it is offered wether at a freinds party or not. I am sure they meant no disrespect to you. I agree with the pp that maybe your opinion of him in general is makeing this a bigger issue than it should be. I know when I am around someone I don't particularly care for, for extended periods of time their actions tend to annoy me to. But you need to put it in perspective, no need to get yourself upset over nothing, save it for when he does something really offensive

 

[Tiggernut_jadie]

I don't drink any of the stuff on that list either so I would have ordered a drink I liked and paid for it....which is exactly what he did! If this had been a party in someone's home then I would have asked for tap water or put up with a soda (although I'm not keen on carbonated drinks). At this party I would probably have asked for a vodka and orange juice or just the juice if I was driving!

Don't see a problem with what your BIL did at all I'm afraid!

 

[Missy1961]

Wouldn't bother me, as long as I'm not paying for it.

 

[Magic Mom]

The only thing Dh likes on that list is Corona, so if he wasn't in the mood for that he would have ordered (and paid for) something else as well. OP, do you really want your guests drinking something they don't like just so you won't get upset? Considering what a nice party you planned, that doesn't seem like your style.

 

[sPaRkLeSpAz]

I don't think it would have offended me, but it was a little on the rude side.

 

[Mom21]

Wouldn't bother me at all. Also if I am having a party at my house, I usually give people a quick run down of drinks I am providing so if they want to bring their own I don't have a problem. We beer drinkers are very loyal and get bent out of shape when we can't get our choice. Other stuff taste skanky to me. I can't have every beer and liquor or mixer at my house. Feel free to come on over and bring your own. No offense to me.

 

[Allison]

I don't see anything to be upset about at all. Why in the world should someone be limited to what someone else preselected if they are willing to pay for their own beverage? I don't get it.

 

[Mrs.Toad]

I wouldn't have been offended, either. I prefer darker beers myself, and don't like wine at all, so I can see why he might prefer something else. Though I'm also a cheapskate, so I would've drank margaritas or maybe Heinekens for free.

Oh, and it's also common in my group of friends to bring a bottle of wine or a 6- or 12-pack of your favorite beer to parties in people's homes. That way, the pickier guests are sure to have their favorite, and of course, they share it so there is more variety for all to choose from.

 

[dislaney]

I am a brand loyal drinker as well so no I wouldn't be offended. I've been known to bring my own at friend's houses and in no way mean this as what they are providing isn't good enough - I just enjoy what I enjoy! I have friends that do the same.

 

[Wishing on a star]

Yep, it wasn't at your home. There were other options available.

Am I getting just a slight whiff of narcissism/control issues?????

I might roll my eyes a little (just to myself) at somebody being 'high maintenance'... but miffed, upset, offended, etc.... NOPE... not at all.

I would just be glad to have saved on the cost of my tab!!!!

 

[scottishduffy]

I would have ordered my own favorite drink and paid for it myself. I do not think this to be rude at all! As long as the person picks up their own tab, they may drink whatever they please. OP, it wasn't a personal attack.... it was just a preference. I think you are WAY overreacting on this.

I have a preference for a particular cocktail and my hubby likes couple specific beers. We usually have a drink with dinner several nights a week and are very set in our preferences.

If I am at someones home I will drink what they offer, or more likely, not drink at all. If I am at a restuarant I will start my own tab and order my preference. No Biggie, it is not a subtle jab against the host.... it is just my personal preference and I do not expect any host to carry or pay for my weird cocktail.

 

[kieras nana]

i personally wouldn't drink anything,on that list,as i don't like them,so i would rather order & pay for a drink,that i am gonna enjoy,than try to drink something,that i never drink.
i really don't see the problem,
tracy

 

[Wishing on a star]

Me again...

PS: I don't do beer or Margarita's (hate beer, and unfortunately Margaritas don't agree with my tummy) If I wanted a drink, I would have ordered what I wished.

If that would have offended the hosts, then I would not consider that to be my problem, but theirs.

There is an old description of those who are so mortally wounded when others do not seem to meet their expectations... It's called 'falling on knives'.

Sorry, but really, just let it go.

 

[klacey1]

I wouldn't be offended by it, as long as he was picking up the tab himself.

I agree. I think you're overreacting a bit, personally. I know what you mean, though-- when I don't like someone, EVERYTHING they do annoys me-- even when it's nothing bad. However, all that does is cause me stress, so I try to take note of when I do that and stop myself from caring so much. Seems like you should try to do that, too.

 

[handinpocket]

Oh yeah, big overreaction. I like certain things. While Heinekein and Amstel are "good" beers, it isn't what I like. I would be willing to pay for what I wanted and tell family members to pound sand if that offended them.

Who gets offended at someone wanting their own type of beer?!!

 

[Minnesota!]

you are overreacting - by a mile.

 

[Tinker'n'Fun]

Maybe its just me and I don't like my sisters hubby but he just irks the heck out of me. Tell me if I am over reacting.

I just had a big 40th birthday party for hubby in a private room at a local pub. We had tons of food and drinks. Here are the drink selections we offered our guests:

soda
Maragaritas
Coors
Coronas
Amstel/Light
Heineken/light
Merlot
Pino Grigio

When the waitress came around to take his and my sisters drink order she read him the selections and he says in front of everyone " do you have such and such beer? The waitres says "yes, but you will have to run your own tab", he says "fine thats what I'll do" and my sister and him order that special beer.
I think its beyond rude. Like our selections don't measure up to his "tastes".
Meanwhile this guy had 2 buck chuck wine and coors beer for his wedding and no one said boo.
I was embarrassed that they did that especially in front of other guests.

Yes

 

[MushyMushy]

Totally overreacting.

I probably would have done the same thing if I were him. I don't drink beer and can't stand tequila, so I would have been ordering an alcoholic drink that I do like and would have no problems running my own tab. Why is that offensive?