Would you be annoyed?

[crashbb]

and taking an obvious figure of speech so literally isn't illogical and annoying?

But that wasn't the argument you used with the PP, was it?

 

[wdwfan16]

Why can't they pay for what they want. You offered only what you were willing to pay for. They wanted something else and paid for it. No big deal.

 

[LiLIrishChick63]

But that wasn't the argument you used with the PP, was it?

i'm done with this conversation. obviously i'm not going to change your mind, and you're not going to change mine. so let's just agree to disagree and be adults about this. most of the other people in this thread have.

 

[design_mom]

Assuming there isn't more to this story (like maybe the beer he ordered was some special micro-brew that you can only get a few places so he had to have it), then I think it would have been more polite for him to choose something that was offered. But since it was in a restaurant and since he paid for it himself, I'd let it slide.

However -- I can see why you're upset. My BIL did something similar to me once at a party we hosted in our home. I set out a cooler of beer and soft drinks. I thought I had something that everyone liked (in fact, I know I had *something* that everyone would drink.) Although there were other things he would drink, BIL had a hankering for Dr. Pepper that day. Sometimes we have it at our house, but we didn't that day.

He was GRILLING me about Dr. Pepper in front of everyone. He kept asking for it and I kept saying "I'm sorry. I don't have any Dr. Pepper. I have ___, ____, ______, etc." He finally said, "Don't you have any in the basement, or warm in the garage?" and I replied "If I had any in the basement. I would have said 'I have some in the basement, but it's not cold.' I don't have any!" I couldn't believe he was so rude!

It isn't about what your BIL drank/didn't drink I bet. When my BIL did it, it made me feel like a terrible hostess for not having what he wanted, and I was embarrassed. I was furious at the time, but in retrospect it's not that big of a deal. Now it's become a joke between me and BIL. If he asks me for something I don't have, I reply "I don't have any -- not even in the basement."

Plus, I know my BIL better now and that's just the kind of guy he is. He came to our last party and said "What? You didn't make guacamole?" I think, in his world, that was meant to be a compliment (he likes my guac) and not intended to point out a problem with my current snack offerings.

 

[Cornhusk]

Stacy,

So What.....

Your BIL may be a huge PITA, BLOWHARD, JERK, SON-OF-GUN....
If he is, I suspect everyone around knows this.

SO WHAT!
BIG DEAL!


The issues here clearly lie with you.

Some of the issues that were presented here about the BIL's habit of being ornery really is not based on the OP, ie he wanted to wear a kilt at his OWN wedding, he paid for his beer on his own, it seems that his decisions don't really affect her as much as she is letting it.

 

[Disney Doll]

So the OP has BIL who annoys her. Everything he does annoys her. Things that, when done by someone else, wouldn't annoy her, annoy her when BIL does them.

OP, I understand.

I have a SisIL like this. She annoys me. Her existence annoys me. She is mean, nasty, conniving and condescending. If you call her and tell her you just had double bypass heart surgery, she will immediately go out and have triple bypass heart surgery just to one up you. If you are at what you think is the best spaghetti restaurant in the world, she will tell you that it stinks compared to the restaurant near her house that serves spaghetti made by Mario Batallo himself. She would do what your BIL did at a party I threw at a restaurant and it would annoy me, where if anyone else did the same thing, I probably wouldn't give it a 2nd thought.

So, some of the previous posters are right...your BIL annoys you. Nothing he does will please you. And you were here venting...so vent away!!!!!!!

 

[kaytieeldr]

It's different because you WERE in a bar that provided other beverages. It's not rude for someone to ASK if there were other drinks available if they didn't like what you had as provided, as long as they were willing to pay for the drink themselves. It's really not a personal attack on you. You had lots of nice choices, yes, but some folks prefer to drink other things.

It would have been one thing if he ordered something different and expected you to PAY for it...that would be totally wrong...but for him to pay for his own different drink, still no big deal, IMHO.

It wouldn't have bothered me in the least because I don't think of it as a personal attack on my taste if people have their own preferences.

A personal attack might have been if, on hearing the choices, he'd responded, "Yuck! Who picked those disgusting beers?? Don't you have any [good brand] beer?"