Would This Weird You Out...?

[AKL_Megs]

Would this weird you out, or not?

We are having our basement finished. Our drywall guy was over (he's a guy we know personally), and both DH and I had to leave to go to Target to pick up his prescription (he can't drive, he broke a hand at work yesterday and tore a ligament in the other, and is in a temporary cast), so we told our contractor we'd be gone for a few.

He was in and out all morning back and forth from his truck grabbing drywall, so I know our back door was open.

Somewhere during the time we were at Target, one of our new friends (married couple) down the street ( I would describe as a REALLY GOOD acquaintances, borderline "good friend") came over, let herself in the back door, went through our kitchen drawers for a pen and paper (they aren't in a typical location, I know she would have had to rummage), and left a note that she was there.

Our contractor said he never saw her, never heard her, and she didn't say anything to him. I texted her, and sure enough she was here. She told me, cryptically, "I am sneaky."

I'm a little weirded out that she not only let herself in, but rummaged through our drawers looking for writing materials.

Am I just weird, or is this a little insane?

 

[Mrs. Darcy]

I wouldn't like that at all.

 

[Danemom]

Yes, the neighbor's behavior would weird me out but I'm not sure why you would be irked at the contractor. I'm assuming he was working so he couldn't really be monitoring the house at the same time.

 

[N&B'smom]

Creepy!

 

[nmmom95]

I would not be irked at the contractor. If he was busy, he could easily have missed it.

I would, however, be annoyed at my neighbor.

 

[Tink888]

That would bug me but I'm not really "good friends" with my neighbors. We get along, but we don't hang out or anything.

 

[OceanAnnie]

Why would she do that? I think it's strange. She didn't call out or anything? Looks like she would have to see if you were home. I guess she didn't since the contractor didn't hear her.

I wouldn't like it. The neighbor doing that I mean.

 

[AKL_Megs]

Yes, the neighbor's behavior would weird me out but I'm not sure why you would be irked at the contractor. I'm assuming he was working so he couldn't really be monitoring the house at the same time.

You know what? I'm not at all. I'm going to edit my thread. I don't even know why I mentioned that... To cover all bases, I guess? Someone is bound to blame the contractor!

 

[dlhvac]

if you trust this neigh bor its ok if not tell her not to do that again.
also unless you trust the contractor do not leave him alone in your home either

 

[Swalphin]

Maybe she has the same stationary as you and it was in her purse.
I wouldn't be bothered if she is a neighbor I am friendly with. I would think she had good intentions. I have nothing really earth shattering in my kitchen to find.

 

[NHdisneylover]

Generally yes, the neighbor's behaviour is weird. However, we had 2 neighbors in Livonia who seemed to think ti was fine to just wander in the back door without knocking (people we were really just acquaintances with)--we started locking the doors all the time. Maybe it is a weird Livonia thing--I have seriously never encountered this anywhere else

I am confused as to why you both had to go to Target. With a contractor there working I would have left my husband and just picked up his prescription. (not that that in any way makes your neighbor's visit any less odd).

 

[SookieStackhouse]

Creepy for sure.

 

[AKL_Megs]

Generally yes, the neighbor's behaviour is weird. However, we had 2 neighbors in Livonia who seemed to think ti was fine to just wander in the back door without knocking (people we were really just acquaintances with)--we started locking the doors all the time. Maybe it is a weird Livonia thing--I have seriously never encountered this anywhere else

I am confused as to why you both had to go to Target. With a contractor there working I would have left my husband and just picked up his prescription. (not that that in any way makes your neighbor's visit any less odd).

I tried. Since it was a Workman's Comp script, and a narcotic, they wouldn't let me? I think the tech was confused.

People ARE overly friendly in Livonia, I've noticed this as well. Which, as I have found out, may or may not be a good thing!

And unless she works at my parents company, I don't know how she would have the same notepad. Maybe she broke into there, too

 

[Hannathy]

I would not like my neighbor to have done that at all. I won't even walk into very good friends house un invited. If I knock and the door is open and they don't hear me and I know they are home I'll call hello you guys home and then if the say come in I will but if they don't I won't walk in!! If I want to leave a note I go back to mey car and get paper and leave it on the door.

Very pushy of your neighbor and I wouldn't like it and especially with a contractor in the house that is setting the scene for a lot of problems and one that could have ended very badly if either had surprised the other one and they reacted.

 

[arminnie]

Your neighbor obviously thinks you are on a different relationship level than you are. Or you two have different comfort levels with someone being in your home. There's nothing wrong with how you feel. You need to let her know that it bothers you. It might surprise her. I would never assume it was okay unless I was sure, but she obviously made a mistake.

I had a neighbor who truly was a best friend. I thought nothing (and neither did she) of my going in thru what was always an unlocked door even if she was asleep upstairs. Especially if I was leaving her a homemade pie! She could do the same to me - but I never got a pie. It was a mutual understanding as we were so close.

My upstairs neighbor in my condo now has a key to my place. We are not close friends although she is a very, very nice trustworthy person (why she has a key). But I would be horrified if she just came in to get something while I was gone. We do not have that level of friendship.

I have two very, very close friends in my other home town. I have a key to their place in case of an emergency. But no matter how close we are I know that their personal comfort level is to have no one go into their home. I could call them at 3 am to help me knowing that they would in a second. But I know that they would never want me in their home uninvited.

Now they have a key to my place, and I don't mind if they come in while I am gone. I can come in town after being gone a couple of months and find a little "treat" in my china cabinet. I'm okay with that - they would not be if it was reversed. I'm okay with giving tacit permission to some people to come in my home when I am not there. Others do not want anyone ever to be in their home alone. It's okay. Your home, your rules.

 

[VAfamily1998]

I tried. Since it was a Workman's Comp script, and a narcotic, they wouldn't let me? I think the tech was confused.

NM I misread your post and thought you were picking up your contractor's prescription...

 

[FlyingDumbo]

This neighbor is one of those "no boundary" people. I would be glad you know now, and can keep your door locked at all times.

I wouldn't like it at all. I would also be weirded out. What did she want anyway? She sounds like one of those people that would peek in the bathroom cabinet. You know, the nosey people.

 

[FlyingDumbo]

Why would they let your husband then? I still wouldn't have both gone--couldn't your husband have gone by himself...or better yet, drive the contractor to Target AFTER or BEFORE he worked on your house and have him pick up the prescription himself.

I think your missing the whole weird neighbor thing here....

Ok just read your update! Haha it would have been odd to get the contractors script.

 

[VAfamily1998]

I think your missing the whole weird neighbor thing here....

yeah...I mis-read it and thought she meant that her contractor couldn't drive and so she and her husband were picking up her contractor's prescription...I couldn't get over the strageness of that enough to even think about the neighbor!

 

[NHdisneylover]

I tried. Since it was a Workman's Comp script, and a narcotic, they wouldn't let me? I think the tech was confused.

People ARE overly friendly in Livonia, I've noticed this as well. Which, as I have found out, may or may not be a good thing!

And unless she works at my parents company, I don't know how she would have the same notepad. Maybe she broke into there, too

Oh Narcotics--that is different.

We started lockign all doors all the time when one of those "freindly" neighbors' 6 year old daughter came over. DH had gotten home from work and gotten in the shower. He heard the girl in the house (she let herself in the backdoor just like her mom would do) singing and was initially annoyed with me for not making sure I warned him not to leave the bathroom in just a towel. He eventually realized he could not hear anyone else and put two and two together (both mom and daughter has just wandered in before--but we had always been home and in the living room or kitchen). He panicked because he had no clothing in the bathroom with him and knew he could not go out in just a towel and be alone in the house with a 6 year old girl. It was a situation just waiting for false accusations. Luckily the kids and I got home within about 10 minutes (which DH says were the longest ten minutes of his life) and as soon as he heard us come in he was yelling for me.

BTW--I called her mom to let her know she had wandered in when we weren't there and mom was not worried--said she knew she had to be at one of the neighbors as she is not allowed to go more than 5 houses in either direction.