Would This Weird You Out...?

[MrsJackSparrow4Life]

It would depend on who it was. We have an open door policy when it comes to our close friends and family so it wouldn't bother me at all if it was one of them.

If it was just some person I barely knew, then it would freak me out.

 

[dislaney]

It would weird me out.

 

[Magic Mom]

Would this weird you out, or not?

We are having our basement finished. Our drywall guy was over (he's a guy we know personally), and both DH and I had to leave to go to Target to pick up his prescription (he can't drive, he broke a hand at work yesterday and tore a ligament in the other, and is in a temporary cast), so we told our contractor we'd be gone for a few.

He was in and out all morning back and forth from his truck grabbing drywall, so I know our back door was open.

Somewhere during the time we were at Target, one of our new friends (married couple) down the street ( I would describe as a REALLY GOOD acquaintances, borderline "good friend") came over, let herself in the back door, went through our kitchen drawers for a pen and paper (they aren't in a typical location, I know she would have had to rummage), and left a note that she was there.

Our contractor said he never saw her, never heard her, and she didn't say anything to him. I texted her, and sure enough she was here. She told me, cryptically, "I am sneaky."

I'm a little weirded out that she not only let herself in, but rummaged through our drawers looking for writing materials.

Am I just weird, or is this a little insane?

Is it just an "A" or "B" choice, or can we choose "All of the above." JK

If it were a very good friend, I wouldn't care, but if it's just a neighbor that we are pretty friendly with, then yes it would bother me.

 

[AKL_Megs]

Is it just an "A" or "B" choice, or can we choose "All of the above." JK

If it were a very good friend, I wouldn't care, but if it's just a neighbor that we are pretty friendly with, then yes it would bother me.

 

[MIGrandma]

If a really GOOD FRIEND did this it wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

If a really GOOD ACQUAINTANCE did? It would DEFINITELY bother me.

 

[quasar4legs]

My sister and I go in and out of each other's places but I would not be happy with anybody else coming into my home. I vote creepy!!!!

 

[PatsGirl]

Nope, wouldn't bother me at all, but it would seem she is thinking your relationship is a bit more intimate than "acquaintance" ~ I think she's already moved on to "good friends"

I have an open door policy for friends and family and since she was only writing you a note to let you know she was there, I think it's all good. Now, had she borrowed something (movie, blouse, laundry detergent, whatever), I'd think that was going too far.

A funny story ~ a few years back I went to FL for two weeks and when I got back I was met with a thank-you note, a fridge stocked with beer and food, and a spotless house. A friend's wife had thrown him out (they are back together again) and he used my house as his "bachelor pad" instead of checking into a hotel. Not sure who cleaned, never asked

 

[emma'smom]

Why did your neighbor come in? That's what I would want to know? Just to prove she can? That's weird.

On the other hand, if she popped in to pick up a pair of sunglasses she left or even to pick up an extra key, borrow a snow shovel, or grab an egg for a recipe (or something along the lines of "borrow a cup a sugar") and you weren't there, that would be ok with me. If there was a purpose to her coming in and she thought you wouldn't mind....then fine.

However, if you are texting with her...I think I might text that request first and say "Do you mind if I just run in a grab "whatever it is".....?"

 

[peanut1967]

yes thats weird - boundaries have to be made.

 

[MissElizabeth]

I tried. Since it was a Workman's Comp script, and a narcotic, they wouldn't let me? I think the tech was confused.

People ARE overly friendly in Livonia, I've noticed this as well. Which, as I have found out, may or may not be a good thing!

And unless she works at my parents company, I don't know how she would have the same notepad. Maybe she broke into there, too

I think this is funny b/c I live in the L town and I can barely get my neighbors to be friendly enough to say hello. After 8 years on the same street, I don't know my next door neighbor's name. Livonia really is a big small town, though.

I do think its weird, but not malicious. I'd start locking doors.

After my mom died one of her neighbors knew we were getting her house ready for sale and were slowly cleaning it out. She went into the house on a day when the contractor was working there and had stepped out for a moment. She took several of my grandmother's romance novels, left me a list of the ones she wanted and had taken home and told me in the note to come get them from her if I wanted them back. I could have SHOT her! And she wasn't someone either I or my mom knew well at all, just an acquaintance. I was livid, and of course got the books back. People are crazy.

 

[dreamin_disney]

if the contractor didnt even realize your friend creeped in and the friend said she's sneaky-----now thats creepy!!!!!!!!!!!!! First thought was I hope she doesnt watch you sleep at night-lol! But then again you wouldnt know cuz she's sneaky!

 

[johnsontrio]

I think this is funny b/c I live in the L town and I can barely get my neighbors to be friendly enough to say hello. After 8 years on the same street, I don't know my next door neighbor's name. Livonia really is a big small town, though.

I do think its weird, but not malicious. I'd start locking doors.

After my mom died one of her neighbors knew we were getting her house ready for sale and were slowly cleaning it out. She went into the house on a day when the contractor was working there and had stepped out for a moment. She took several of my grandmother's romance novels, left me a list of the ones she wanted and had taken home and told me in the note to come get them from her if I wanted them back. I could have SHOT her! And she wasn't someone either I or my mom knew well at all, just an acquaintance. I was livid, and of course got the books back. People are crazy.

That makes a total of 4 from Livonia just on the Community Board. Wonder how many more there are? As far as your neighbor, we are much more careful here after I woke up at 6am with a half dressed male psych patient in my bedroom this past May. We now keep all the doors locked and have an alarm system. I knew teenagers could put you in your grave but I thought this was extreme. DD and the neighbor next door left the garage door up and the door to the house unlocked.

 

[LuvCuteBoys]

Welll... my initial reaction is "creepy" because I'm not friends with my neighbors. But if it was one of the few people I consider to be my good friends, I wouldn't be creeped out at all.

Honestly, it's hard to say. See how helpful I am??

 

[smb6]

I think it's wierd and not normal/appropriate behavior..... I generally would not even go in my good friends house if I went over and they were not home, let alone a friendly neighbor....

This did remind me of something: A while back one of the neighbors had a 3 or 4 yr old that would constantly "sneak" over and he got to where he wondered in through the back door/doggy door (crawled through). I think he thought it was a club house or something. The first time he did it, we just looked up and there was a kid standing there. We said, hi- he said hi and he left- lol. After that he came through the dog door on a semi regular basis, but never stayed long. I am assuming his parents didnt know, but I guess either they figured it out or he got too old to do it because it stopped......

 

[Dee77]

Did she ever explain why she was over at your house or did you just leave it with her with the text message that "she's sneaky?"

The fact that you have her number and only texted her with your question may have come across to her that you were OK with it, if it were me, I would have called to hear her explain why she was in my house and to add that it is not acceptable going forward!

 

[ols386]

No, I would not have liked it if my neighbor did that. That's very presumptuous to walk into your house and think it's ok to go rummaging through your drawers for any reason at all.

 

[malibuconlee]

Hmm, thinking back I let myself into a neighbor's house once. Their dog had gotten out of theback yard. Front door was unlocked, so I opened (after no one answered my rings or knocks) the door called out and found something to write a note on that I had put the dog in his kennel after finding him wandering the neighborhood. Not the same thing and I don't think I would just let myself into anyone's house just because.

What did the note say?

 

[LuvOrlando]

Yes & no. If it was out of the blue yes. But, you are newly home all day & newly pregnant so it could be that this neighbor saw your worker, a strange man, coming & going and stopped to check in on you. If she were worried for your well being then actually walking into a house with an open door once you didn't answer to make sure you were ok is reasonable. The fact she left you a note tells me she meant no harm by it, if she was being sneaky why would she write a note

Years ago my brother & I were hurrying on our way to college classes and didn't stop to check on our neighbors house even though my Spidey senses were tingling over the guy dressed as a workman standing on her stoop. When I got home that night I learned that the guy wasn't workman, he was a thief who broke in through my elderly neighbors front bay window in broad daylight. Thank goodness this neighbor was a snowbird in Florida at the time but to this day I am ticked at myself for allowing my brother to bully me away from making a phone-call to the police.

 

[2binak]

I find it disrespectful (and a little creepy). If you're not home, what business does she have walking into your home? If she stopped by and you weren't home, why not just leave and call you later? Why rummage through your kitchen to find paper & pen to leave you a note?

Then of course I can't help but wonder if she stopped at just rummaging through the kitchen. For all anyone knows, she could have rummaged through other rooms of the house too I'd be distancing myself from this friend for a bit.

 

[pixiefairy]

I think I'd be creeped out by it. If you guys text each other, what was so important that she stop by (alone..if she was worried about the strange man in and out of your house, why not bring the husband?) that she couldn't text you about FIRST, ask if she could drop in if you weren't home, then leave a note to let you know that she was indeed there, and got whatever it was she needed? Sounds really bizarre. I think my back door would be locked after the work is done in your basement. Or maybe that's my paranoia talking.