Would this bother you? School Thread

[Alice's Mom]

My daughter just started back into school in the 2nd grade. This school has a dress code of "Dress for Success" this includes a list of no's such as: no tank tops, no oversized shirts, no open toe or open back shoes.

Since Kindergarten I have followed these rules, she dresses appropriately and I really have a lot of fun dressing her for school.

Now what bothers me is there are teachers, including my daughters, that wear tank tops and slides (open toe and back) and dress overall very casually. Why are there two different dress codes and would you say something? I am mighty tempted to.

I am also miffed because now we are buying lunch everyday until it cools down because the teacher says lunches have to stay outside. Even with an ice pack her lunch still melted.

 

[MAKmom]

My daughter just started back into school in the 2nd grade. This school has a dress code of "Dress for Success" this includes a list of no's such as: no tank tops, no oversized shirts, no open toe or open back shoes.

Since Kindergarten I have followed these rules, she dresses appropriately and I really have a lot of fun dressing her for school.

Now what bothers me is there are teachers, including my daughters, that wear tank tops and slides (open toe and back) and dress overall very casually. Why are there two different dress codes and would you say something? I am mighty tempted to.

I am also miffed because now we are buying lunch everyday until it cools down because the teacher says lunches have to stay outside. Even with an ice pack her lunch still melted.

The dress code is for the children not the teachers. The open back shoes are for safety, they slide off the kids feet. They don't want the boys wearing wife beaters.

 

[SwedishMeatball]

Why do lunches have to stay outside??

 

[Alice's Mom]

Why do lunches have to stay outside??

Backpacks and lunches have to stay outside, they take up too much space inside the classroom.

They have always done this, but I was hoping they would make an exception for the weather. When I asked about it I was told to use an icepack, I didn't want to press the issue anymore after that.

 

[Liberty Belle]

Is your daughter's name Alice? That's so pretty!

It's that way at our school, too. I usually try not to wear open backed shoes, just to encourage the kids to keep dress code, but many teachers wear them.

I don't understand the outside lunches and backpack thing at all. Can't people take them?

 

[lulugirl]

I agree the lunches should be kept in the classroom if the weather is very warm.
Regarding the way the teachers dress, I think it would appear extremely petty if you said something.

 

[Pop Daddy]

I dont like any type of dress code anywear, they often are just a way to keep people out who rip off there sleeves

 

[Cantw8]

I dont like any type of dress code anywear, they often are just a way to keep people out who rip off there sleeves

You just keep ripping off those sleeves you sexy armed thing

 

[phorsenuf]

As my DH would say "do as I say, not as I do".

 

[LaraK]

Please don't flame me too badly....but adults lead by example. If you are telling the students that the reason you have the dress code is to teach them to "dress for success" but the teachers are not following the code you have set forth as successful...does that mean that the role of teacher means that you are not a success? Seems a little bit like a mixed message to me.

I was somewhat shocked by the casual dress of the teachers when my daughter started school. I am a little bit of a conservative when it comes to dress...I think that you will be treated in the manner you dress...the first second of an interaction is the most important. If I want people to see me as a successful professional...I need to dress that way. I know it's a very unpopular position to take, but if you dress casually...you will be treated in a casual manner...may not be fair, but it's human nature.

 

[linda0706]

Actually, yes, I would have a problem with portions of that. If my DD is going to be forced to wear closed shoes when it is 100 degrees outside then I would expect those who made up the stupid rule to do the same. Both teachers and administrators.

As for the backpacks, don't they worry about things getting stolen? I would not like that little rule at all.

Yep, I'd be saying something.

JMHO

 

[Daxx]

The no open toe or open back shoe is for their own safety.

As for the dress code, students in my school wear uniforms. Teachers (female) may wear sleeveless tops but not wife-beater type tanks. We are told that we are not allowed to dress like we're going to the beach. I guess my idea to wear my swimsuit on the first day is going right out the window!

 

[Sinderelli]

Please don't flame me too badly....but adults lead by example. If you are telling the students that the reason you have the dress code is to teach them to "dress for success" but the teachers are not following the code you have set forth as successful...does that mean that the role of teacher means that you are not a success? Seems a little bit like a mixed message to me.

I was somewhat shocked by the casual dress of the teachers when my daughter started school. I am a little bit of a conservative when it comes to dress...I think that you will be treated in the manner you dress...the first second of an interaction is the most important. If I want people to see me as a successful professional...I need to dress that way. I know it's a very unpopular position to take, but if you dress casually...you will be treated in a casual manner...may not be fair, but it's human nature.

I see this from a different perspective- I am a teacher. I am much more inclined to get down on the floor, sit with the kids, paint, dance, play outside, etc. if I am comfortable. Trust me, I would not be sitting on the floor in skirts or heels.

As a parent, I would much rather a teacher who dressed comfortably but really got involved in her teaching than one who dressed "professionally" but stood at the front of the classroom and lectured all day.

FWIW, we do have a "dress code" at my school. No long shirt tails out (shirts must be squared off at the bottom to wear untucked); no mules, slides, or tennis; pants must be neat and pressed.

 

[LaraK]

I see this from a different perspective- I am a teacher. I am much more inclined to get down on the floor, sit with the kids, paint, dance, play outside, etc. if I am comfortable. Trust me, I would not be sitting on the floor in skirts or heels.

As a parent, I would much rather a teacher who dressed comfortably but really got involved in her teaching than one who dressed "professionally" but stood at the front of the classroom and lectured all day.

FWIW, we do have a "dress code" at my school. No long shirt tails out (shirts must be squared off at the bottom to wear untucked); no mules, slides, or tennis; pants must be neat and pressed.

I guess that's why I have a different perspective...about a million years ago, when I still taught, I taught at the High School level...no crawling on the floor for me. I understand wanting to be comfortable...trust me, I cringe every morning when I pull on the hose. Capris and mules just kind of surprised me...another teacher was wearing flip flop sandles...I don't like bare toes under most circumstances if you're not at the beach or the pool...but my foot phobia is another issue.

 

[MOMTOMOOTOO]

You just keep ripping off those sleeves you sexy armed thing

No there's a quote you don't hear enough of.


To the OP I wouldn't say anything about the teachers but I would about the lunch.

 

[linda0706]

The no open toe or open back shoe is for their own safety.

This is not a rule at our school. However if it was, you're darn tooting that I would expect EVERYONE to abide by it, teachers included.

 

[Pop Daddy]

No there's a quote you don't hear enough of.


To the OP I wouldn't say anything about the teachers but I would about the lunch.

now your both posting that must mean only one thing

 

[maelstrom]

Yes, it would bother me. I think teachers most definitely should have to follow the same rules the children do, as far as closed-in shoes, no tank tops, skirts and shorts of a certain length, etc.

I had a *lovely* teacher in junior high who wore tight skirts so short her butt cheeks were nearly showing. Somehow, that was allowed for her, but not for students.

I think teachers should be setting an example and wearing proper attire if they expect the students to. That doesn't have to mean a skirt and heels and pantyhose. It could mean a nice blouse or polo, khakis or dress pants, and a shoe that isn't a sandal or sneaker.

 

[Talking Hands]

If the students have a dress code then the teachers should try to dress as close to it as possible. The only thing I don't follow is the shoes as I have severe arthritis and wear shoes that cushion my feet (Crocs) I do wear closed toe and with the backstrap. This was ok'd by the principal because I cannot stand and walk in most shoes without a cane for support but I can in the Crocs.

 

[My2Cinderellas]

I think the teachers should also follow the dress code, lead by example.

As to the lunches outside, my first visual was a pile of lunch totes stacked in the corner of the playground, and then I noticed you are in southern California. I'm guessing your school is several smaller buildings with the lockers on the outside. I can see how that could get really warm, especially if the sun is shining on your child's locker, turning it into an oven. In this case, lunches should be able to be brought inside.

Our schools are one large building iwth lockers in the hallways. Some teachers have the kids store lunch from home in their lockers, others have a bin in the classroom, all the kids put their lunch sacks in the bin and grab it as they are lining up to go to lunch. works great, better than keeping them in the lockers.