Would this bother you- Facebook related Update post 69

[MICKEY88]

If he had just a shred of decency left, I think he'd just let it go. After all, he was the one who breached the marriage agreement.

what marriage agreement says one can't have friends,,,not saying what appears to have been done is right,,,,but how does it justify commiting a crime...confused3

 

[DisneyBlonde]

what marriage agreement says one can't have friends,,,not saying what appears to have been done is right,,,,but how does it justify commiting a crime...confused3

Different account + ex-girlfriend = sneeky.

If OP found an account in her husband's name with some random woman, I agree that it could be construed as making something out of nothing. It could be a completely different guy. Since OP found an account in husband's name with a known ex-girlfriend as a friend, I think she'd be naive and ignorant not to have a concern. And now he has denied it, so if it is him, he has now lied.

As far as what's considered invasion of privacy...if he is up to no good, he's likely going to be protecting his own interests, stashing money and such is not unheard of if it comes to that. OP would be smart to protect herself while she has the opportunity. Hiring a PI, for example, is certainly an invasion of privacy, but it is not illegal and it is done all the time. (ETA: I'm not saying OP should hire a PI, I'm just giving an example of where an invasion of privacy is not considered illegal).

You can set FB so no one can see your friends...so OP's husband is not that bright, or wanted to get caught imo.

 

[MICKEY88]

Different account + ex-girlfriend = sneeky.

If OP found an account in her husband's name with some random woman, I agree that it could be construed as making something out of nothing. It could be a completely different guy. Since OP found an account in husband's name with a known ex-girlfriend as a friend, I think she'd be naive and ignorant not to have a concern. And now he has denied it, so if it is him, he has now lied.

As far as what's considered invasion of privacy...if he is up to no good, he's likely going to be protecting his own interests, stashing money and such is not unheard of if it comes to that. OP would be smart to protect herself while she has the opportunity. Hiring a PI, for example, is certainly an invasion of privacy, but it is not illegal and it is done all the time. (ETA: I'm not saying OP should hire a PI, I'm just giving an example of where an invasion of privacy is not considered illegal).


You can set FB so no one can see your friends...so OP's husband is not that bright, or wanted to get caught imo.

I already said, if he did it it's wrong, but it doesn't break any ,marriage agreement[vows} that I've ever heard of..

and it certainly doesn't justify committing a crime, 2 wrongs do not make a right..

also as someone else mentioned, he would have had to use a different email account for the second facebook account, so how would one get the password....facebook would mail it to the new email account..

 

[teacups]

I already said, if he did it it's wrong, but it doesn't break any ,marriage agreement[vows} that I've ever heard of..

and it certainly doesn't justify committing a crime, 2 wrongs do not make a right..

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Well I for one can say flat out... we read between the lines aroudn here. "Faithful" also means you can not go behind my back with an ex girlfriend and then lie to me about and then deny it, unless you want serious BLEEP to fall down upon you.

 

[DisneyBlonde]

Well I for one can say flat out... we read between the lines aroudn here. "Faithful" also means you can not go behind my back with an ex girlfriend and then lie to me about and then deny it, unless you want serious BLEEP to fall down upon you.

damn straight

 

[threecrazykids]

what marriage agreement says one can't have friends,,,not saying what appears to have been done is right,,,,but how does it justify commiting a crime...confused3

Sorry to make a snarky comment, but a cheater would LOVE to be married to someone like you. You're damn near turning a blind eye at something obvious in the name of his "rights".

STS...but screw his rights, I'd be all over this like stink on s**t. I'm not dumb, and this has way too many "what ifs" involved for it to not be something NO GOOD.

I'd rather look crazy in the end for jumping the gun than to look like a FOOL when it all comes crashing down and I never said anything about it.

 

[DebIreland]

The Michael isn't your husband, but the old girlfriend went looking up your husband and tried to friend everyone with the name Michael B or Mike B (I don't remember the fake last name you are using), and this Michael accepted her as a friend.

That is definitely a possibility. I have an almost unused Facebook account and I got a friend request from a guy who was looking for a woman with my name who he was in college with. I replied that I wasn't her but he asked me to be his friend anyway. I didn't - I never use the flippin' thing. But it happens and you're right to point it out.

 

[MICKEY88]

Sorry to make a snarky comment, but a cheater would LOVE to be married to someone like you. You're damn near turning a blind eye at something obvious in the name of his "rights".

STS...but screw his rights, I'd be all over this like stink on s**t. I'm not dumb, and this has way too many "what ifs" involved for it to not be something NO GOOD.

I'd rather look crazy in the end for jumping the gun than to look like a FOOL when it all comes crashing down and I never said anything about it.

Actually a cheater would not love being married to me, I'm smart enough to bust them without committing a crime and getting myself into trouble..

and I stand by my original comment, trying to get the password to his account is Illegal, no matter what he did..

I NEVER said the OP shouldn't investigate, I just said it would be wrong to break the law to do so..

 

[threecrazykids]

Actually a cheater would not love being married to me, I'm smart enough to bust them without committing a crime and getting myself into trouble..

and I stand by my original comment, trying to get the password to his account is Illegal, no matter what he did..

I NEVER said the OP shouldn't investigate, I just said it would be wrong to break the law to do so..

I understand you're point but let's be honest here...how many men (or women for that matter) are gonna press charges against something like this? It would take some serious kahunas to even THINK down that road.

I'd like to see the police report on that one. I can just see the husband telling the cops his side.

"Yesssireee I'd like to press charges against this crazy woman! She had the audacity to sneak behind MY back, and can you believe this...PRETEND she didn't know the passcode so she could get into my Facebook account".

Police: "Just out of curiosity...why would she not already have you as a friend on Facebook...or what would motivate her to believe you had deceitfully(sp?) created another Facebook account behind her back?"

Husband: "You mind your own business sir...that has NOTHING to do with why I'd like to press charges...that is completely irrelevant".

COME ON

 

[MICKEY88]

I understand you're point but let's be honest here...how many men (or women for that matter) are gonna press charges against something like this? It would take some serious kahunas to even THINK down that road.

I'd like to see the police report on that one. I can just see the husband telling the cops his side.

"Yesssireee I'd like to press charges against this crazy woman! She had the audacity to sneak behind MY back, and can you believe this...PRETEND she didn't know the passcode so she could get into my Facebook account".

Police: "Just out of curiosity...why would she not already have you as a friend on Facebook...or what would motivate her to believe you had deceitfully(sp?) created another Facebook account behind her back?"

Husband: "You mind your own business sir...that has NOTHING to do with why I'd like to press charges...that is completely irrelevant".

COME ON

so if you don't think someone will press charges, then it's Ok to commit a crime..??


I just don't get the logic that it's wrong or immoral for the hubby to have the account and have an ex as a friend, but it's not immoral or wrong to illegally try to access that account...

what if the husband doesn't know she did it, but notices someone accessed his facebook account, and reports the activity to facebook, they then check their records see the IP address of the person and they report it to the authorities as an unauthorized access...

and your police investigation scenario is far from reality based.., the police would not interrogate the husband, they get computer records from facbook and the wife's IP

 

[ginna74]

hmmmm I for one don't think ANY cop on this earth would look into/arrest any wife of trying to get a password. Never will happen lol. It just doesn't. Heck you can't even get arrests for people that are out of the house and mess with the internet unless they caused millions of dollars worth of damage. Just like Adultery is illegal in some states today and it is never prosicuted unless you are in the military. I was going to ask why this is being focused one but

BACK to topic, OP, I hope you find your answers...

 

[MICKEY88]

hmmmm I for one don't think ANY cop on this earth would look into/arrest any wife of trying to get a password. Never will happen lol. It just doesn't. Just like Adultry is illegal in some states today and it is never prosicuted unless you are in the military.

BACK to topic, OP, I hope you find your answers...

in order to protect their business facebook would have to take the same action whether it's a stranger or spouse, otherwise they set a precedent of inaction that would hurt them in future cases...

that aside, it amazes me that so many people think it's Ok to break the law, just because a spouse is suspected of doing something..

 

[MICKEY88]

I was going to ask why this is being focused one but

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I simply stated earlier that it was illegal so the OP wouldn't rush off and do it without thinking about the possible consequences, I'm not defentding the husband in any way, just trying to protect the OP, whereas others are encouraging her to break the law, I personally don't see that as good advice..

 

[Darsa]

In a second, yep. I'd definitely want to know if someone was illegally accessing my husband.

 

[teacups]

in order to protect their business facebook would have to take the same action whether it's a stranger or spouse, otherwise they set a precedent of inaction that would hurt them in future cases...

that aside, it amazes me that so many people think it's Ok to break the law, just because a spouse is suspected of doing something..

Ok fess up... are YOU the husband?

 

[MICKEY88]

Ok fess up... are YOU the husband?

LOL


nope, I just wouldn't want to see an innocent person break the law, because they were given bad advice and followed it based on emotions..

 

[DisneyBlonde]

Ok fess up... are YOU the husband?

Mike - Mickey - Michael...you might be onto something.

 

[ginna74]

Mike - Mickey - Michael...you might be onto something.

 

[sunnyday123]

LOL


nope, I just wouldn't want to see an innocent person break the law, because they were given bad advice and followed it based on emotions..

I seriously think the law breaking will be the last thing on her DH's mind when she checks into it. You ever go over the speed limit?

 

[MICKEY88]

I seriously think the law breaking will be the last thing on her DH's mind when she checks into it. You ever go over the speed limit?

speeding doesn't give you a criminal record.. again.... facebook could be the ones to prosecute, not the husband