Would this be totally weird-Dating Q?

[monkey68]

I know this probably sounds a bit nuts, but I can't help it. I met this guy online recently, and we went out for the first time today. I can't say anything bad about him, he was perfectly nice, very polite. I just wasn't feeling a spark with him. I don't think he did either. But I couldn't shake this feeling that he would be perfect for my sister. We started talking, and that thought just jumped into my head that he would be great for my sister. I didn't feel any kind of click or spark, but I really thought he would be perfect for my sister.

So I told my sister that I think they would make a good couple, and she thinks I'm crazy. I said if she doesn't want me to tell him that I don't want to date him, but he should date my sister, she should just send him a message on the site where I met him. I don't see what's so weird about that, she can just pretend that she had no clue we went out or something. Or just mention it later if they hit it off. So am I as crazy as everyone around me seems to think I am?

 

[redlight]

I don't think that's strange. Can you articulate why you think he and your sister would hit it off better than you and he?

 

[figment52]

Can you show her his on line listing and try and spark her interest?

It can happen.

 

[monkey68]

I don't think that's strange. Can you articulate why you think he and your sister would hit it off better than you and he?

It's really more in the personality. He's more grounded, more down to earth, not really very adventurous, more serious. I tend to be more adventurous, I like doing things like bungee jumping, rock climbing, etc. I tend to be more "pie in the sky" ideas. My friend and I always go off on these crazy fantasies, one of our current ones has us buying McMansions next door ot each other and our kids end up getting married. And you would think that sometimes opposites would balance out, but I don't think we do. I want somebody that would be willing to go mountain biking with me, or some other crazy idea.

My sister is not like me at all in that sense. She's the more realistic of us, she wants a more quiet life. She doesn't have that same thirst for excitement that I have, I guess you could say. She thought I was completely crazy when I went on a date to this rock wall place, but I loved it, I had a blast. I just think they would get on really well, they want the same things from life, they're at similar points in their lives. They're both well established in their fields, whereas I'm still in school.

It's almost hard to exactly explain why I feel like it. It's the same sort of feeling I got when I met one of my friends. I met this girl, and as soon as I met her, I thought she would be perfect for another one of my friends. I had no idea why I thought that, I hadn't known either one of them for very long, but I just really thought they would hit it off. Those 2 just got married in June, so my intuition was pretty dead on, I'd say. And it's kind of the same now.

 

[kirbsam]

dont think its weird. but i would tell him the truth. and see what he thinks. if it is a underhanded set up, he may not like it.

 

[chloelovesdisney]

You know your sister very well, I am sure. I don't think it's crazy at all. If you think they would hit it off, she should give it a shot.

 

[redlight]

It's really more in the personality. He's more grounded, more down to earth, not really very adventurous, more serious. I tend to be more adventurous, I like doing things like bungee jumping, rock climbing, etc. I tend to be more "pie in the sky" ideas. My friend and I always go off on these crazy fantasies, one of our current ones has us buying McMansions next door ot each other and our kids end up getting married. And you would think that sometimes opposites would balance out, but I don't think we do. I want somebody that would be willing to go mountain biking with me, or some other crazy idea.

My sister is not like me at all in that sense. She's the more realistic of us, she wants a more quiet life. She doesn't have that same thirst for excitement that I have, I guess you could say. She thought I was completely crazy when I went on a date to this rock wall place, but I loved it, I had a blast. I just think they would get on really well, they want the same things from life, they're at similar points in their lives. They're both well established in their fields, whereas I'm still in school.

It's almost hard to exactly explain why I feel like it. It's the same sort of feeling I got when I met one of my friends. I met this girl, and as soon as I met her, I thought she would be perfect for another one of my friends. I had no idea why I thought that, I hadn't known either one of them for very long, but I just really thought they would hit it off. Those 2 just got married in June, so my intuition was pretty dead on, I'd say. And it's kind of the same now.

Those are good reasons. You should tell your sister and the guy what you just wrote.

 

[Mickeyistheman]

I would be honest and upfront with this man. I think he would appreciate it, especially if you think neither of you had the spark. I have learned that recently that if you are honest upfront and you don't feel that "chemistry" or whatever you want to call it be honest.

More guys have respected me for it. Think about it, don't you hate it when you go out with a guy and he never calls you back and you wonder why?

Its been a 2 way street for me recently and I feel better about dating again.

Wish you luck!

 

[NHdisneylover]

dont think its weird. but i would tell him the truth. and see what he thinks. if it is a underhanded set up, he may not like it.

ditto