Working moms - do you feel guilty because you work???

[Hillbeans]

Originally posted by Dopey Sharon
Wait, I'm confused. Didn't you just post, yesterday, to the now locked thread about C sections, that you didn't want to have kids because of....ummmm....how do I put this (don't want to get deleted like yours did)....small...ummmm....you know.

Man, how did I miss that post yesterday.....no fair, I miss all the good ones!

 

[katerkat]

I don't get the education comment. I've worked for three years now, since I graduated college. I'll continue working until we have kids. Then, when the youngest goes to school, I plan on re-entering the work force. So I'll be out for about 7 or so years if everything goes according to plan. So 7 years out makes my education a waste?

 

[meandtheguys]

Its locked up about 5 pages back, if you are interested.

 

[meandtheguys]

Originally posted by katerkat
I don't get the education comment. I've worked for three years now, since I graduated college. I'll continue working until we have kids. Then, when the youngest goes to school, I plan on re-entering the work force. So I'll be out for about 7 or so years if everything goes according to plan. So 7 years out makes my education a waste?

sadly ...yes.

 

[katerkat]

Originally posted by Hillbeans
Man, how did I miss that post yesterday.....no fair, I miss all the good ones!

It was deleted, but quoted by several people.

 

[powellrj]

feel guilty about being a working mom....nah.... I have way too many other things I need to feel guilty about today, lets see, my 3 c-sections, will my kids become obese, blowing bubbles at Disney and these are just the things from yesterday.

 

[katerkat]

Originally posted by Hillbeans
Man, how did I miss that post yesterday.....no fair, I miss all the good ones!

And, just in case anyone is too lazy to search - http://disboards.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=580795

 

[mum4jenn]

If I had a "normal"job I would def. feel guilty but since I am an assistant lunchroom manager and work basically the same hours that my dd is in school it does not bother me. There are times when I wish I could be available to be the room mother or to do volunteer work at her school but I can't. The pay is awful awful awful but it is more important to be home when my dd is than more money and having to keep her in afterschool daycare and the summer programs.

 

[meandtheguys]

Originally posted by katerkat
And, just in case anyone is too lazy to search - http://disboards.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=580795

It's all that education that allows you to do that, I am sure! Certainly it will soon disappear, however! the thread, not your ed. By the way has anyone else noticed how she no longer is taking child psychology? I am so thrilled!

edt: This statement re. child psyc. is in NO way directed toward onecoolmama (who has the cutest name!)

 

[katerkat]

Originally posted by meandtheguys
sadly ...yes.

Oh, darn. Well, I guess it's already gone down the drain, since I have a degree in journalism and religion and....I work in RETAIL!

 

[Cruise04]

No katerkat - it's those that went to college just to party and waste their parents money just to spite them - well that was my comment anyway.

I do not want to be stuck with a low paying job I hate if something happens to my marriage and God forbid, I would be a single mom with no skills.

Excuse me - that WAS and IS me because my parents wouldn't let me go to college and when I did go I had to pay for it myself while working a full-time, 40 hour a week job and a part-time 20 hour a week job and taking 3 night classes. That was before I had my daughter. Once I had my daughter (which was into my second year of community college) my, then, husband wouldn't hold a job long enough to pay the bills, buy diapers, pay rent, AND pay for classes. So I took low paying jobs just to keep afloat and even then we got evicted and couldn't keep up. Fortunately one of those jobs did pay for two classes for me to get enough college credits to be legally employed as a daycare teacher. That led me to another job which led me to the place I work now (not in daycare) which is still low paying but also led me to my now husband who takes very good care of me and has allowed me to have a life WITH my child.

So I do have to say I resent the comment about being a single parent with no skills. That was me and I feel so very much for people that are in that same boat because I've been there. And I'm the type of person that has been willing to watch their kids so they can better themselves with education which in turns betters their lives with their kids. Wish someone would have offer me that.

Okay - just cracked up about this.....Blowing bubbles at Disney???? I'm not even going to ask.

 

[Boo]

Too many times I hear about SAHMs who went through college and got a degree. All I can think is...what a waste! They're enjoying being home (I suppose) when they could be out making a really good salary!

Let's not turn the community board into the debate board!
I always knew I wanted to be home with my kids- even when I was a teenager growing up, taking my honors college credit classes in high-school, and searching universities.
The fact that I do have higher education allows me to be a SAHM mom and ALSO work from home for a marketing company in their public relations department. I simply telecommute. Once in a blue moon I have to pop into the office. So I can say I truly have the best of both worlds. However, none of this would have even been possible if I didn't have my Bachelor's Degree as this particular company won't even consider a resume without one.

But education as a whole has a greater intrinsic value than just the salary it can command. Because of my education I can be a better mom exposing them to different aspects of culture, entertainment, There is a perception that children of college educated parents tend to be more well-adjusted, better prepared for school, and more socially inactive exists for a reason.

Education is never a waste. It only opens doors.

Okay, off my soapbox now.

 

[katerkat]

Originally posted by Cruise04
No katerkat - it's those that went to college just to party and waste their parents money just to spite them - well that was my comment anyway.

I wasn't refering to your comment - more the "Too many times I hear about SAHMs who went through college and got a degree. All I can think is...what a waste! They're enjoying being home (I suppose) when they could be out making a really good salary!"

 

[Bumbles]

Originally posted by Boo
Education is never a waste. It only opens doors.

Nicely said

 

[meandtheguys]

Originally posted by katerkat
I wasn't refering to your comment - more the "Too many times I hear about SAHMs who went through college and got a degree. All I can think is...what a waste! They're enjoying being home (I suppose) when they could be out making a really good salary!"

Ditto

Per the remarks by southernclass, don't take them to heart. There are issues there.

edited for freudian slip

 

[Cruise04]

That's okay. I just wanted to make sure you knew where I stood since I was contributing to that part of the conversation.

 

[onecoolmama]

Originally posted by meandtheguys
edt: This statement re. child psyc. is in NO way directed toward onecoolmama (who has the cutest name!)

LOL!!! I gotcha now. I studied at UD..are you near there?

 

[onecoolmama]

Originally posted by Pin Wizard
Too many times I hear about SAHMs who went through college and got a degree. All I can think is...what a waste! They're enjoying being home (I suppose) when they could be out making a really good salary!

You know..I am sooo glad you posted this! DH and I were just talking about me going back to finish and get my Masters...but now thanks to you...I realize that improving myself and my education is just a waste! I never plan on going back to work, so why in the world shoudl I be edibicated! I knew at 7 that I wanted to be a SAHM..heck, why didnt I just stop at high school! They wasted a schoalrship on me!

Thank you soo much..you saved me from WASTING a lot of time, money, and brain space!

 

[southernclass]

Originally posted by meandtheguys
Its locked up about 5 pages back, if you are interested.

Yes, since so many people are so interested in my personal buisness. Do I have to share every little detail or get insulted because everyone jumps to conclusions!!!! Me and my first husband have two children. NO I never HAD my own children but I love them like I did!!! If you must know all the heartbreaking details we adopted two children and I was declared unfit at the time because of my illness which I will not share, and he got custody when we got divorced.

Why don't some of you just post a quiz for me to take. I don't know who you think I am but you are some of the rudest people I have ever met in my life!!!

Like I said no wonder boards are shutting down here. You don't even give people a chance before you start insulting them and accusing them of things.

 

[gymnasticsmom68]

Originally posted by southernclass
Yes, since so many people are so interested in my personal buisness. Do I have to share every little detail or get insulted because everyone jumps to conclusions!!!! Me and my first husband have two children. NO I never HAD my own children but I love them like I did!!! If you must know all the heartbreaking details we adopted two children and I was declared unfit at the time because of my illness which I will not share, and he got custody when we got divorced.

Why don't some of you just post a quiz for me to take. I don't know who you think I am but you are some of the rudest people I have ever met in my life!!!

Like I said no wonder boards are shutting down here. You don't even give people a chance before you start insulting them and accusing them of things.

****throwing things over my shoulders, grumbling, where the heck, oh here they are, just need to get these boots on before I read anymore***