Work Vent

[disneyfav4ever]

Okay, this probably isn't a huge deal, I've just had my feelings hurt. My boss, actually one of the assistant managers, way above me, but three or four people down from the top, (I work for a really big corp,) in our actual store, (not in the whole corp overall,) said something to me.

Long story short. She thought I'd done something wrong, I hadn't. She asked me if I was sure, and I said yes. So she went back to her office. I thought that was the end of it, and it should have been.

A little while later she came back over, and said she hadn't believed me when I said I had done this thing right, and she had thought I had lied to her face.

WTH? I've worked at this place now for over five years, and have never lied to anyone there! It was such a stupid little thing that she was worried about to, (though that's beside the point.)

Of course, when she checked, she saw I had done it right. So I don't know what the point was of telling me she thought I was lying after she knew I wasn't.

I hate being accused of lying, since I make a point of never lying.

It's not that she double-checked that I'd done something, I'm fine with that. It's that her thinking I lied part that bothers me. I try so hard to do my job well, and I think I do a pretty good job, (especially since we just had a yearly evaluation about a month ago, and I did very well with it.)

I'm just upset that my manager thought I would lie.

 

[Nala2007]

sorry

I've had problems at work before too, I get my feelings hurt easily, so I would just go in the bathroom and have a decent cry...don't forget to flush your eyes after though so no one knows lol!

 

[Hedy]

 

[kaw1218]

I don't blame you for being upset.... I would too. Same as you, I wouldn't mind that they double check....that's what I would expect a boss to do. But accuse you of lying? that was wrong.

 

[Minnie]

Did you happen to tell your boss that her words concerned you?

If not then a talk with your boss is in order. I would definitley use the word "concerned" and not "upset" though as it keeps the conversation at at work level where it should stay.

Don't tell you co-workers what your boss did or that it upset you. That is recipe for problems!

I'd ask for a meeting with her and bring up your "concern." I'd say the double checking doesn't concern you but the wording does and what can "you" do to correct this?

Good luck!

 

[maddiemouse]

My boss is a pathological liar. (Fortunately, she won't be my boss for long, as I start a new job next week ) She lies all the time, even when the truth would serve her better. And it's been my observation that she thinks everybody else lies the way she does. She just seems to think lying is an acceptable way to solve a problem. Maybe that's the kind of thing that's going on here.
Try not to take it personally, it probably says a lot more about her than it does about you.

 

[disneyfav4ever]

I've had problems at work before too, I get my feelings hurt easily, so I would just go in the bathroom and have a decent cry...don't forget to flush your eyes after though so no one knows lol!

I do get upset easily. Probably too easily.

Just what I don't get is that she double checked me, knew I was right, and then said she thought I was lying. She didn't have to come over and tell me she thought I was lying. I had obviously not been. I knew that all along, and she knew that then.

 

[theycallmered]

Personally, I think that your manager has inadequate people skills and simply did not know how to let you know that she was happy that you had done what you had said and had not lied to her. In todays corporate world sometimes it is easy to assume that you are being lied to. For your manager it could have been a welcome surprise that she was not being lied to.

Does that all make sense?

HTH.

 

[Wish I lived in Fl]

Personally, I think that your manager has inadequate people skills and simply did not know how to let you know that she was happy that you had done what you had said and had not lied to her. In todays corporate world sometimes it is easy to assume that you are being lied to. For your manager it could have been a welcome surprise that she was not being lied to.

Does that all make sense?

HTH.

Ditto