Women: Do you want male coworkers commenting on your appearance?

[KariC]

Maybe for a "generation" person that has been living under a rock! I like to joke about it but I think that particular comment is inappropriate, especially to a young male. If someone would have said that to anyone I was with, I would simply asked him what he meant. He might not know that it is a mild sexual innuendo, and could be embarrassed beyond belief!!

He simply might have meant that the boy was a tall, bright, well spoken person of a good wit!

I have also noted, as some other posters in this thread have said, that many people do not know how to give a compliment, Ya Hot babe ya KariC

why thank you...

j/j on the generational thing.

 

[Buckalew11]

I wouldn't mind someone commenting on my hair. I had this creepy guy a few years ago tell me I was a "long cool drink of water" and it skeeved me out beyond belief. First and foremost I wasn't sure wth he meant by that, and secondly, I didn't even know the guy. I felt like we were in a bar instead of a business meeting. He was a vendor, not a fellow employee, but needless to say we ended up NOT doing business with his company. Gee I wonder why? I also had a guy ask me out in a thank you letter, back when I was interviewing people. He was another one who didn't understand why he didn't get the job.

I also think it can be a generational thing. The man who called me a "long cool drink of water" was older, perhaps in his generation that was acceptable. I was mortified and made to feel humiliated, but I don't think he really meant for me to feel that way. KWIM? For that reason, I let it go during the meeting and kinda laughed it off, even though I was dying of embarrassment inside.

I feel old. I remember both of those posts!! I definitely remember the first because I remember telling you that my Grandfather used to say "long, tall drink of water".

Junie, I found an etymology discussion website that defines it but it has a bad word on it in another place so I'm not going to link it....but these are a couple of the things I found:
"after a long, hot and humid day in the South, there's nothing like a tall cold glass of water. I think that's the long and the short of it: when a woman is so outstandingly good-looking that she evokes that same feeling. It's a matter of contrast: hot day, thirst, then a tall glass of water. Normal looking people, working with sweaty men all day, then you see a beautiful woman."

"I've heard it in reference to men and women: someone tall, slender, and attractive in a cool, laid-back way"

I think that phrase can mean two different things depending on the context and, don't worry, neither of them is creepy. 1. It means a person is tall and their height is seen as attractive. 2. The person is refreshing, like a drink of cold water on a hot summer's day.

I remember Pop-pop would call every man over 6' tall who was thin a "long, tall drink of water" and I remember wondering what did that mean and why did he always say it.
It was inappropriate for that man to say it but I think it was definitely a compliment (esp. since I have seen you )

I do not have any co-workers but I have male clients. Often, they make a comment but never in an appropriate tone or wording. Back when I was young and 18, and not working at home, I had a lot of really rude comments. Now they know DH will beat them up.
(Or maybe it is because I am not 18 anymore! )

 

[Hercules10]

My fasion sense is pretty easy. Unless it's lacey and see-thru I don't give a crap what a woman wears.

 

[JunieJay]

I feel old. I remember both of those posts!! I definitely remember the first because I remember telling you that my Grandfather used to say "long, tall drink of water".

Gah. You know its bad when people on the Internet start hearing your stories a second time around. I'm still scarred from it, I guess. (not by the guy who asked me out via the thank you letter - HIM I'm proud of because he was born in 1978 or some other insane date and he's practically young enough to be my son. I milked my young boyfriend waiting in the wings with DH for quite a few months after that happened. Nevermind the guy was like a deranged stalker type, he was a YOUNG deranged stalker type. )

 

[weregoingtodw]

I guess I'm one of those people that you could say just about anything and I wouldn't take offense (unless you called me a fat cow ). So no, it wouldn't bother me in the least bit and would be happy to receive the compliment.

What she said (including the fat cow comment! )

 

[Cantw8]

No....I'd prefer they keep their comments to themselves, it seems they just can't do it without making me feel like a steak on the grill

 

[Micca]

As a guy I am very careful about what I say to female co-workers. I might say something like "you look nice today" or "that's a nice color" but that's where I'd leave it. I hope that's ok.

 

[daisyduck123]

I honestly don't have even one male co-worker.

I'm an elem. school teacher
We don't have one male in the building. (Even our custodians are female).

If we did though, I'm not sure how I'd feel about it...probably a little uncomfortable.

 

[Cantw8]

As a guy I am very careful about what I say to female co-workers. I might say something like "you look nice today" or "that's a nice color" but that's where I'd leave it. I hope that's ok.

depends..where are you looking when you say it?

 

[Pop Daddy]

I only say real kind things, like there butt looks sexy today

 

[Stacerita]

Ill take a compliment any way, from any one, that I can get it.

 

[Cantw8]

I only say real kind things, like there butt looks sexy today

you never tell me my butt looks sexy

 

[Pop Daddy]

you never tell me my butt looks sexy

I only see that sexy hair of yours

 

[GRUMPY PIRATE]

you never tell me my butt looks sexy

Did you just get a new tag in blue?

 

[amyhughes]

OMG the TF was here!

 

[LiLIrishChick63]

Did you just get a new tag in blue?

 

[binny]

If it's a sincere compliment and not a harrassing, pervy, or creepy comment I have no problem with it.

ita a simple, you look nice today or that is a nice outfit is fine but if someone makes pervy comments that is going too far.

 

[BabyPiglet]

I'm fine with it. As long as it's not something real pervy.

 

[yearbook50]

At my internship, I am the only female in the department. I don't mind them commenting. Generally its only one that would make any comments but he's a wicked metrosexual which we do tease him about. I wouldn't appreciate comments from management though.

 

[MAKmom]

If I get a major haircut & dye job I want every guy that works with me to notice. I am the only female in a very macho business & I am starved for female companionship

My DH works with me & I know he will never notice. I had the Christmas tree up for 3 days one year before he noticed....lights,balls everything.