WISH Away the Pounds July Challenge - Everyone Welcome!!

Jill, have fun! :beach:

Last night's WW meeting went well, although we were definitely down in numbers. We were talking about PRODUCE.... and easy subject and something I love to talk about.... all the different ways to get more fruits and veggies into our days.... but I have a VERY quiet group and it was like pulling teeth to get anything out of them!! I was pretty frustrated. I love my group and they are fantastic ladies and gents.... but would it KILL THEM to talk a little????

Not sure if I told you all or not that DH got me a VITAMIX for my birthday! I was hesitant to open it, since it was pretty expensive, but I decided it would be rude to return a gift and I opened it and used it today! I had quite the smoothie! I think that including all of the fiber (unlike juicing) will definitely keep me fuller (than juicing) and help things keep "moving along" in my system. And I still get all of the benefits of lots of fruits and veggies. In the future I may make some smoothies with a combination of homemade juices and whole produce in the Vitamix.

Today's smoothie definitely could have been sweeter, but it was good and I am FULL! Two organic carrots, one organic cucumber, 1 c watermelon cubes, 1 champagne mango, two huge handfuls of organic baby spinach, 1 C unsweetened vanilla almond milk, 1 tb. hemp protein, a spinkle of cinnamon, a cube of fresh ginger, about 1/2 C homemade unsweetened green tea and half a frozen banana. It made a huge portion (of course). I gave DH a small amount (too much sugar for him) but drank the rest myself.

I did buy some avocados to use, but they aren't ripe enough yet....and I forgot to throw in the lime.... oh well, next time.

Well.... I've been negligent in responding to the QOTD, so off to rectify that situation!! BB in a bit!...................P

Sounds like you are enjoying your Vitamix, Pamela! Can't wait to hear all about the delicious recipes you use wit it it. :cool2:

All of the above!!! Daily!! Then the cycle continues with the self loathing and negative talk. Then the pep talk with the above added in, I can start over tomorrow! ETC.

I hate that hamster wheel!!

Things have been crazy here. DH's job is thankfully coming to an end. He will start a new job within the next week or two. Thank goodness!!! So he will not be driving over 100 miles each way every day, which means no more 2 1/2 drives and no more 9 pm dinners! He will either be home or away, no in between.
He will however be using the RV as an office which is about 30 minutes from here. So there will be days that we go to him. I need to come up with meal ideas that are are easier to prep at home during the day so we can eat at the RV when we get there.
We had a really good new recipe yesterday but it was a pain to make there. Harder than I thought it would be, so we ended up eating dinner at 9:30. I was not happy!!
We use the crock pot a lot but that gets old.
I think I will head off to the WISH recipes thread.

Sorry for the rambling. This is my brain lately!!! LOL
I need routine!!

I hope things calm down a bit for you now, Buffy, with DH's work being closer. :flower3: I'm sure he is glad to see you when you all go to the RV but I can help but wonder how easy it is to work with the clan in the RV. ;)
 
DS18's injury. He had a stress reaction in his foot during indoor track. Ran maybe 2 races at the end of the season. Then he got a major IT band issue in his knee that sidelined him for his whole outdoor season. Sadly it has not gone away so we are back to the chiro for some stretches and I'm probably going to call the orthopedist and get an MRI done. It stinks because he wants to run on college but he is seriously behind in training now.

Have fun at the Cape! The weather should be good. It sounds like we are going to get hit tonight and tomorrow but it should start clearing out Friday afternoon. Just watch the surf, it's probably going to be rough all weekend.

Oh, and we ended up having little caesar's pizza for dinner. Not the best but I still had 12 calories left over after I ate it.

Prays for DS's healing! Sorry he got sidelined like that... especially at this point with college looming on the horizon!

Cape was a rainy windy mess on Friday, but beautiful on Saturday.... but there was definitely a current! We stay on the bay side and we had real waves at high tide!

I am grumpy - had a really horrible weigh in this morning! I have no idea what happened, but I am up 7 pounds from last Saturday. :eek::confused3

I do know that this can't be a gain in body fat. But it is still depressing... I can feel that I am retaining water and the weather is getting warmer which usually causes that. But the number is still a very scary one!

So, this morning I had a very on point breakfast and I do have a plan for dinner that should work well. So, if I don't go crazy with lunch, this should be a good day. I will try to have very little salt today, hopefully that will help to get rid of the water...

YIKES! I can't imagine the MENTAL IMPACT of seeing an unexpected 7 pound gain! Good for you for just moving on and staying OP!!

Good morning all! :goodvibes

pixiedust:Happy 4th of July pixiedust:

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Sam Eagle says "Declare your independence from body bashing!" with a little help from sparkpeople.com.

Which brings me to the QOTD for Friday, July 4, 2014: Do you think you are a body basher? Do you think that you could use one of these tips to be kinder to yourself? Do you have other tips to be kind to yourself?

I am a TERRIBLE body basher!! And it kills me to realize that I've lead my DD to do the same! If I had it to do over again I would definitely think twice about the negative self-talk.... at least out loud! I do try now to just say NOTHING if I don't like what I see....but unfortunately that doesn't always stop the track running in my head. I try to pick out something GOOD every day so I can think about that during the day (for example, rather than thinking about my muffin top that I assume everyone is seeing, I try to remember that I have great slim legs/ankles and that my skirt really shows them off!)

Not much time today to check in but I just wanted to say Happy 4th of July.

2.6 lbs down since the 1st....woohoo!!!

DH just finished preparing all the bbq to cook. He made chicken kabobs with only pineapple and chicken marinated in italian dressing. Its a somewhat healthier choice instead of burgers and hotdogs on buns. It's been a huge craving of mine lately and my mouth is watering just thinking about it.

Hope everyone has a safe day. Will check back in later when things settle down.

Those pineapple chicken kabobs sound delicious!

Hi Guys, I'm back too

Sorry for disappearing in March.......life got very complicated and some stuff had to give. Some of it is now sorted, the rest I am still working on. Getting back on here was always at the back of my mind, but other stuff was keeping it there until yesterday.....

I had a random email from someone I didn't know to my private email address. I thought it was probably a virus or something but I read on....sooo glad I did. Turns out one of my best DIS friends has died...diagnosed with cancer on 2nd June, died on 6th June. I cannot begin to tell you how upset I am. The email was from her mom who is methodically going through her address book and contacting everyone. I'm so glad she contacted me. This lovely lady was my first DIS friend.

It made me decide it was time to reconnect with you guys. I think I am about 7lb up since I last joined in, and there will be more going on as I am going on vacation next week, camping in my lovely tent.

Once back, I will get back on the weight loss trail and will be joining you guys again.

I am still running, and am in a 5K race on 13th July for Cancer Research UK....I have decided to put my DIS friend's photo on the back of my running shirt and am going to send her mom some pictures.

Stay safe and healthy everyone. See you soon.

Oh my! SO sorry about your friend! I've often wondered how you all would be notified if something happened to me. But I KNOW my DD would remember to keep my DIS friends in the loop.

Enjoy your camping trip!!

Good morning all! :goodvibes

It is quiet this holiday week-end so I thought I would switch gears and do a fun QOTD for the week-end.

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QOTD Saturday, July 5, 2014 and Sunday July 6, 2014:

1. Math or English? ENGLISH, without a doubt!!!!!

2. Summer or Winter? SUMMER!!

3. Morning or Night? Morning!!

4. Abominable Snowman or Yeti? Abominable... not so scary!

5. Tea or Coffee? Both, but if I had to choose one, coffee wins!

6. Avengers or Star Wars? Star Wars.

7. Black or White? Black

8. Dogs or Cats? Cats, of course!;) Cats rule, dogs drool!

9. Drizella or Anastasia? Either/or.... no preference.

10. Cake or Pie? Neither...not a fan.

11. Chocolate or Vanilla? Chocolate!

12. Bella Nolte or La Vie en Rose? Bella Nolte.... so sweet and romantic.

13. Thor or Ironman? Umm...THOR, of course. Have you SEEN HIM???:thumbsup2

14. Mickey Pancake or Mickey Waffles? Not a big fan, but I'd go with waffles!

15. Pen or Pencil? Sharpie....which counts for pen I suppose.

16. Hamburgers or Hotdogs? Neither unless you count veggie burgers.

17. Salt or Pepper? Salt....I probably use too much :rolleyes:.

18. Wishes or Illuminations? OMG....WISHES all day long!!

19. Tinker Bell or Fairy Godmother? Fairy Godmother...she is loving, giving, supportive. Tink is a bit of a DIVA for my taste.

20. France or Italy? IRL or at Epcot? I'll assume real life and say....EITHER!! Can't WAIT to go to Europe someday! But if I had to choose just one....guess I'd say France.

21. Mayo or Miracle Whip? Neither.

22. Pickles or Olives? Pickles....most of them are ZERO PPV!!

23. Dr. Pepper or Mountain Dew? YUCK...neither ever!!

24. Briar Rose or Brer Fox? Briar Rose.... lovely, smart, respectful of her guardians, loving and of course, BLONDE! Reminds me of DD!

25. America Sings or Carousel of Progress? COP!! It has become a tradition for DD and myself!! "It's a Great Big Beautiful Tomorrow...."

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I had a tiny loss but in 4 days I guess that's good. Whooo I'm paying for eating "holiday" food!! I've been eating fairly clean and doing my green smoothies so eating a hotdog and some bbq and a few desserts over 2 parties may have been too much for my tummy!! I'm paying for it this morning. Oh well I guess that motivates me to getting back to better eating.

I feel the same way! My body just does NOT LIKE those foods any more! It just isn't worth it any more to have big splurges.

I need to get back to my workouts. I joined a boot camp a couple months ago and loved it!!! BUt they work out in a parking lot and it's just too hot for me to workout in this TX heat. I'm postponing going back until the fall so I started the Jillian Michaels DVD ripped in 30 I think it is. Not bad but there's several ex I cant do due to a foot injury. I just do another move to modify it and keep moving. I had not moved up to week 2 yet and now have missed a week due to work stuff and now I'm afraid I'll be starting over to get my endurance back. I guess be happy I'm doing something right.

Not sure I'll be doing anything today w/ the stomach issue. Hopefully tonight it will be better. I feel guilty for all the eating yesterday and not working out!

Hope your tummy has recovered. I think that mine finally has.... but that is one reason I chose to do some smoothies this week. I think it will help my system get past the holiday eating.

1. Math or English? recess
2. Summer or Winter? summer
3. Morning or Night? night
4. Abominable Snowman or Yeti? yeti
5. Tea or Coffee? tea
6. Avengers or Star Wars? Avengers
7. Black or White? black
8. Dogs or Cats? dogs
9. Drizella or Anastasia? Anastasia
10. Cake or Pie? cake
11. Chocolate or Vanilla? chocolate
12. Bella Nolte or La Vie en Rose? Who??
13. Thor or Ironman? Thor
14. Mickey Pancake or Mickey Waffles? Mickey Waffle
15. Pen or Pencil? Pen
16. Hamburgers or Hotdogs? Hamburgers
17. Salt or Pepper? neither
18. Wishes or Illuminations? Illuminations
19. Tinker Bell or Fairy Godmother? tinkerbell
20. France or Italy? France
21. Mayo or Miracle Whip? Miracle Whip
22. Pickles or Olives? Olives
23. Dr. Pepper or Mountain Dew? neither
24. Briar Rose or Brer Fox? Briar Rose
25. America Sings or Carousel of Progress? Carousel of Progress

HEY..... I don't think RECESS was an option!!!:lmao:

QOTD Saturday, July 5, 2014 and Sunday July 6, 2014:

1. Math or English? English
2. Summer or Winter? Summer
3. Morning or Night? Night
4. Abominable Snowman or Yeti? Abominable Snowman
5. Tea or Coffee? Neither
6. Avengers or Star Wars? Avengers
7. Black or White? Black
8. Dogs or Cats? Dogs
9. Drizella or Anastasia? Drizella
10. Cake or Pie? Pie
11. Chocolate or Vanilla? Vanilla
12. Bella Nolte or La Vie en Rose? ???
13. Thor or Ironman? Thor
14. Mickey Pancake or Mickey Waffles? Haven't had them yet
15. Pen or Pencil? Pencil
16. Hamburgers or Hotdogs? Hamburger
17. Salt or Pepper? Salt
18. Wishes or Illuminations? Haven't been yet
19. Tinker Bell or Fairy Godmother? Tinker Bell
20. France or Italy? France
21. Mayo or Miracle Whip? Miracle whip
22. Pickles or Olives? Pickles
23. Dr. Pepper or Mountain Dew? Neither
24. Briar Rose or Brer Fox? ????
25. America Sings or Carousel of Progress? Haven't been yet

You will love both WISHES and Illuminations! But most folks are in one camp or the other. I think it depends a LOT on what was going on the first time you experienced each.

So I checked in with my lap band surgeon on Friday, and my weight has dropped about 1-2kgs in two weeks. It's not an amazing amount, but is about what I should have expected considering how lax I had been foodwise. And then I kinda blew it a bit both Friday and Saturday. On the days that I have to see the surgeon, I give myself a bit of a pass, because I always end up feeling a bit vulnerable - the emphasis on the weigh in and the lack of understanding of what it's like to live with a band. This second point definitely came out on Friday when I tried to explain something that is going on with me, and the doc basically shot me down as in 'no that's not happening'. Errmmmm...it's my body and my experience, I'm pretty sure I know what I'm talking about. :rolleyes2 anyway...

And then yesterday (Saturday) was a pretty good day. I had a gym reassessment, which usually just means they put together a new set of exercises to do (I don't like classes, so just use the weights and machines on my own), but yesterday was a bit different. The trainer was someone I had never met before, and he started going through what I already had been doing and found that at this point I needed to work more on my technique than increasing weight or reps. And I'm so glad he did that! My shoulders have always been a bit temperamental, but they have been getting really bad over the last few months, and he found that I was overusing them and holding tension through most of my exercises. So he adjusted my technique and gave me a few new stretches to improve strength through the middle core, and stop holding tension in the shoulders. Yay!

So today, I'm looking at my messy, messy house and know that I need to do something about it (see paragraph one), but my body is just so sore...! It wasn't a hard workout yesterday, but I had to do a few moves over and over to get the technique right, so my arms and chest are really feeling it today.

I didn't bother checking in for the weigh in this week. I only got my scales up and running on Thursday, so it would be a bit pointless, but I'll definitely drop in for the next one ::yes::

So frustrating when a doctor just DOESN'T LISTEN!! If your doctor continues to poo-poo your concerns, find a new one! And glad you got a trainer to give some extra help!

Good morning!
I am your coach for the next 5 days.

The theme for the next 5 days is positive thoughts! I know I am too hard on myself and let myself make too many excuses at times, so I thought we'd work on positive thinking and how we relate to food. (Kind of piggy backing off of one of Lisa's questions this week).

You are not the only one who definitely needs to remember to have some positive thoughts!!! Thanks for helping us all with this!!

QOTD 7/6/14--7/7/14

Name three things that you like about yourself.
One rule: they cannot be I am a good Mom, wife, husband, sister, friend, listener, etc. :)


Bonus for the day--spend 5 minutes (just 5 minutes) today sitting in a quiet room doing nothing. No thinking, no moving, no cleaning. Just sitting quietly. If a thought pops in your head just let it float away. If you complete this exercise how did it make you feel?

I did a google search and found articles that said being overweight does and does not impact self esteem. I am not sure which is true. I do know from being on these boards for many years, that a bunch of us often have trouble being kind to ourselves and put ourselves last. So lets see if we can work on that and think about that for a couple of days. :)

I KNOW that I will struggle with the 5 minutes.... but I will definitely give it a try.

Three things about myself???? Hmmm...

1. I continually work hard a becoming a better cook and providing better healthier meals for my family.

2. I have nice hair..... naturally blonde fairly long and straight and soft and while it is getting more grey, the blonde camouflages it pretty well.

3. I have a strong desire/will to help other achieve what I have as far as weight loss is concerned and I work at being a positive role model in that regard.

How was the Cape and the food? I hope you didn't get too wet!

Food was good but too much of it! I only got wet on Friday when we THOUGHT it had cleared enough for a walk on the beach.... but we were wrong and never even made to the shore line!


I do tend to be hard on myself. I look at my body problems areas and gripe. But, I often think of how it would make me feel if I heard DSs talk like that, so I have tried to not focus on the things I don't like anymore.

GOOD FOR YOU!!


1. I think I have nice eyes and eyelashes.
2. I like that my body is strong enough to let me do everything I want to do without any limitations.
3. I would like to think that I have a special teaching ability that I love teaching middle and high school disruptive youth in an alternative education placement.

YOU definitely have a special ability!!!! Your job is unimaginably difficult and I give you credit EVERY DAY!!

Bonus~I did sit quietly for more than 5 minutes. It made me feel very relaxed. I actually noticed my face muscles relaxing and it felt wonderful!

Good for you!! I have so much trouble relaxing! When I visit the chiropractor he has to say over and over...."relax your shoulders, relax your neck" and I have to make a HUGE EFFORT.... but it feels nice when I get there!

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I am all caught up from the weekend and am heading off to bed. I'm getting up early for a 30 minute run and need some decent sleep.

Jill

1. I am really crafty and good at putting a room together on a budget.
2. I am a great problem solver at work and a very logical thinker.
3. I really like my hair. :)


Lucky you on the logical thinking! I am SO BAD at that! I can NEVER think two steps ahead..... I would be terrible on Survivor!

I might not make it on this evening, but I will be back on eventually. We have a contractor meeting us at the house we want to buy this evening. The house is in great shape inside (just needs updating) but it's like they deferred all the exterior maintenance. We want to get an idea of how much it's going to all cost. We asked for it in repairs and our agent thinks they are going to offer money, but I have a feeling it's not going to be even close to enough money. It is too much of a financial liability to have to update the interior and fix the exterior. And we paid too much to do both. Mike told me if it falls through we can take a last minute weekend away and get out of here for a few days, because I am going a little crazy. (OK, a lot.)

Have a great Monday!

Hey.... how did it go with the house???

1. I like that I am tall.
2. I like that I get along with all kinds of people (even those most people can't stand to be around). Probably explains why I love working in special ed--those kids are so dang cute!
3. I like that my nails are healthy and always grow. One of these years I'll actually have to paint them!

How NICE to have the ability to get along with lots of people! I definitely struggle with that!

Haven't done the meditation yet. I was telling my mom this weekend that my "monkey mind" always gets so much done when it's supposed to be meditating! :rotfl2: I will try later today and report back! ;)

OOohh.... I like calling it a MONKEY MIND!!:lmao:

DS#2 has been at a camp (Oregon Bach Festival) for a week and tonight we get to hear the kids sing! Can't wait. Got a text from him this morning and was told to bring a water bottle (his accidentally got recycled) and some lotion. Apparently his face is dry. Which probably means its peeling. Which probably means he's been out in the sun without sunscreen! But at least I know he's taking his anti acne medicine! :upsidedow

Need to get some things done around the house. Would like to do laundry, but DS#1 (who is home from college and doesn't have a job. grr) is still asleep and the washing machine is only separated from his head by a wall. I'll be nice and do it later. Dishes, on the other hand...clank clank clank

Have fun with your DS's this summer!

My DS is home for about 6 weeks too. He is supposed to be working--he has a job--but the background check is stalled. Every day that he isn't working is costing him about $150.00 So frustrating. You are a nice Mom to try to be quiet. Our apartment is just too small. I have given up. :)

I am frustrated that there has been a hold-up with DS working as well. The stupid State fingerprinting office never called back. But I finally got a hold of them and have an appointment for Friday. Hopefully he will be able to work a little in July. I don't know how long the background check actually takes. How long has your DS been waiting??

My brain often goes crazy when I meditate--which is very normal. The key is to release the thoughts. It is really hard to do. I have had a couple of moments where I have hit the zone--but they are few and far between.

I have a feeling I will NEVER really hit the "zone"..... but I could try!

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I hope everyone is just busy today and not scared off by my questions. I will not be at all offended if you just want to skip the questions and just chat.

I think we learn best by being asked the HARD questions!! I say THANK YOU!!

UGH, not having a goos week so far. I don't feel well. Not sure how, just off and foggy. My head hurts, I'm not hungry but I'm grazing like crazy, can't focus. It's so frustrating.
Summer runs started tonight but I didn't go. I hope to make it to Thursday's run. I also hope to at least hit the treadmill tomorrow.

I think I'm going to go to bed early tonight, kids are on their own for dinner.

Oohh... the brain fog is an annoying symptom! If it continues it could be a food sensitivity.

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QOTD July8, 2014--Do you see yourself in this blog post? If we are talking about positive thinking and being kind to ourselves, is it better to regard our challenges as starting over or to tackle them head on and work on the 'stick to it tiveness' it takes to make a commitment to take care of ourselves? Thoughts?

It has taken me a long time on this journey to just keep remembering that it isn't an ALL OR NOTHING lifestyle. It isn't ON or OFF or GOOD or BAD. It is an ongoing process of learning..... learning what to eat, when to eat, how to eat..... how to deal with parties, slip-ups, binges, vacations, splurges (both planned and unplanned), buffets, restaurants, cravings, YOU NAME IT!! When I have a weekend like I just did, I need to constantly tell myself that one chicken wing, one glass of sangria.... whatever, isn't an excuse to slide down that slippery slope to "binge-land". It was just a splurge or slip-up (depending on how I think about it) and it was enjoyed.... but time to move on!!

I KNOW that DH isn't there yet. If he has a carb meal (intentionally or because there aren't any options) he uses it as an excuse to have a carb binge day (or weekend) and it is making me sad because his binge days are turning into binge weekends and binge weeks. He knows he is struggling....he knows his pants are getting tighter and he doesn't need me to point it out. But he needs to learn how to have a carb meal, enjoy it, and move on!! But he gets this mentality of "I must eat EVERY CARB I AM CRAVING in one day" mentality. I don't mean to throw him under the bus, but as an example the other day it was kind of crazy and he had some carbs with breakfast (while we were away).... since pizza is his favorite food, he figured since it was a carb day we'd have pizza for dinner.... but he didn't stop at the pizza.... or even at the pizza AND ice cream. He topped the day off with a second helping of ice cream AND a cinnamon roll!! He took the carb binge to an extreme... and since the cinnamon rolls weren't gone (I didn't buy them....he did:sad2: ) he had them the next day as well.... so now it was day #2 of the binge. And when I noticed something on his car mat (I had just shampooed them so I wondered what was on them) he confessed that since it was a carb splurge day, he had stopped and bought a box of Junior Mints (his favorite candy) and dropped on on the floor of the car. And who know what else he ate while he was out that day???

So anyhow.... how many of can relate to that mentality?? I know I definitely can! It has taken me 6 years of learning be able to resist this type of mentality in myself!! And no matter what I've eaten or splurged, I've NEVER considered myself "OFF" WW in the last 6.5 years. I have never QUIT. I try to learn and keep going!

I want to join in. I'm down around a pound to a pound and a half already this month. Is it too late to join the July Challenge?

I'll read through the instructions and try to get the best fit for the weigh ins if I can join you all. :)

WOOHOO !! Welcome back!!

I am definitely a body basher. I HATED (still somewhat do) the way my body looks. I've lost 12.6 lbs since June 1st and I am just now starting to be ok with myself. Told DH this morning that I notice my stomach going down and my pants are definitely starting to float on me. He said he has started noticing a difference in my attitude. Who knows if that's the meds working or me just being happy that my weight is going down. It's a work in progress....

Yup.... always a work in progress!!:thumbsup2 But glad you are feeling a bit more positive, no matter what the reason!

HI Ladies just a quick pop in fly by Hello!!

I hope you all had great 4ths.. we did.. were super busy - family reunions baby showers and weddings!!

I will not be joining this month but will pop on and say hello every now and again.. we are getting ready for a camping vacation next week..

take care and see you all soon.. Michelle

Feel free to pop in and chat if you have time! You will be missed!

We are planning to go eat out for my birthday on Thursday.

I want to eat somewhat healthy but still want to eat the things I enjoy. Which would you pick out of these choices when thinking healthy but enjoyable?


Outback or Texas Roadhouse: Steak, salad, sweet potato. Never been to Texas Roadhouse since it just opened up here in town. Outback is my favorite restaurant.

Samurai Dragon: Sushi, fried rice, egg drop soup.

La Casa: Chips and Salsa, taco salad with ground beef and xochil soup.

I also plan on having 1 bloody mary.....it's mostly veggies right?....lol

Well... if you are trying to stick with healthy, I guess steak, salad, and potato is the best choice. But ask them to watch the fats.... many steakhouses put a big pat of butter on the steak and the potato! And dressing on the side!

Taco salad would be delicious, but that can be a calorie bomb if you don't know what is is in it....and I would have a hard time resisting the chips!

Sushi and egg drop soup are a good choice but the fried rice...not so much.

I am not a huge fan of Huffington Post, but a friend posted this on fb. The link is included if you want to read the whole article. (It is a pretty short read.)

9 Little-Known Habits of Confident People
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/susie-moore/habits-confident-people_b_4876364.html
"With confidence, you have won before you have started." -- Marcus Garvey

Confidence is often the single differentiator between people who get what they want and people who don't. Those who think and believe they can do something -- run a marathon, start an entrepreneurial venture, ask someone out (and have them say yes), win a competitive promotion, fit into their pre-pregnancy jeans, build a fun social circle, well... they do it.

Our mind is a very powerful tool, and the impact of our thoughts and words cannot be underestimated. Our thoughts create our emotions. Our emotions create our actions. Our actions create our life. Confident people have greater control over their minds and have tuned their mental station to one of "I can."

Here are nine things that confident people do that you can apply to your life:

1. Do not overcomplicate.

2. Focus on what you want.

3. Act as if it's already yours.

4. Use words with intention.

5. Listen but don't pay heed to others' opinions.

6. Dedicate time to what matters.

7. Act humble.

8. Know failure is sometimes inevitable and don't fear it. \

9. Repeat all of the above! Confidence building takes a lifetime. The more we practice confidence as an attitude, the easier it becomes.

The most successful and happy people are not born the most rich, beautiful or talented. They just believe in themselves and go for what they want. Confidence is also a highly attractive quality in others as we all secretly aspire to have more self-assurance. "I can" and "I can't" thoughts create very different emotional spirals, as the mind is very obedient and follows whichever path we direct it. Which do you choose?


Continuing with our positive thinking theme:

QOTD July 9, 2014
I think sometimes on this journey many of us expect to fail. It is the nature of the beast--weight loss is hard and many of us have been down this path way too many times to count.

Do you share any of the habits of confident people? Is there anything that stood out that you need to work on?

Being honest with yourself--
Do you have the confidence to succeed?

What does 'success' look like when it comes to weight loss?


LOVE THE LIST!! Printing it for my fridge and forwarding it to my kiddos!!

I guess the one that stood out for me is the "dedicate time to what matters." I FIND THE TIME to make healthy meals! I used to FIND THE TIME to exercise, but sadly that has fallen away.... but I am trying to recover it!

Also I try to FOCUS on what I want! I want to stay at my goal weight.... and if I focus on THAT instead of the chocolate cake or the nachos, it definitely helps! If confronted with a temptation, I often try to think ahead to the next dress-up event I might have on the calendar and I think about how I want to look and how I want my dress/outfit to fit for that event. And I think about how much I could gain eating _________________ and how long it would take to lose that amount. Then I ask myself if it is worth it. Usually it is not.

As silly as it sounds, I sometimes think really long term.... like how I want to look as the Mother of the Bride or the Mother of the Groom. Do I want to hate how I look? Do I want to be picking a dress from the plus size rack and disliking every choice? Or do I want to pick from any dress I want and look beautiful and stylish and YOUNG and FIT???

One of my close cousin's daughter got engaged last month (I consider her a niece). I LOVE my cousin, she was my MOH when I got married... but she and her husband both struggle with their weight and I KNOW she is dreading that moment of being in the spotlight as the MOTB. I hope that this special event can spur them BOTH on to get to a healthy weight and if she has struggles I pray that she talks to me. I want to be able to help, but it certainly isn't my place to start the conversation.

Anyhoooo..... losing weight definitely increased my self-confidence immensely, but building my self-confidence also helps me STAY at my goal weight....the two things seem to go hand in hand.

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Phew! I'm caught up!! Time to get on with the cleaning here! TTYL...........P
 
Well... if you are trying to stick with healthy, I guess steak, salad, and potato is the best choice. But ask them to watch the fats.... many steakhouses put a big pat of butter on the steak and the potato! And dressing on the side!

Taco salad would be delicious, but that can be a calorie bomb if you don't know what is is in it....and I would have a hard time resisting the chips!

Sushi and egg drop soup are a good choice but the fried rice...not so much.

I think I have decided on the steak and salad. Instead of a baked potato/potato of any kind, I am going to get a larger salad to go with my steak. The steak I get tends to be really small so a larger salad would be better than a baked potato.

Rice is definitely my weakness so I don't know if I could stop myself from having some if I were to go to the Sushi route. I think Steak and salad are the safest bet for me.
 
Time to wake up. I was up too late but the dust blower comes through about 3 days week blowing mostly dust around(meant to clean up the grounds around the community club house) but I get up to go to the bathroom and never get back to sleep. It wasn't that early at 8 I guess but it goes on for an hour. REALLY does it take that long to blow leaves and trash up. They take forever. I wonder how much they pay these guys. Its ridiculous amount of time.

But I'm having a decent morning despite lack of good sleep and all that racket. I weighed myself again this morning. I'm not really one of those slave to the scale every day type people but sometimes I do and I've felt pretty decent and just lighter. Even notice slight changes. Anyway I was down each of the 3 weight checks I've done this week. I'm happy because usually I fluctuate up and down so badly. And today I was 2-3 lbs less than Monday, amazing because I'm bloated with TOM coming. :woohoo: I'm hoping for a really good weigh in on the actual day. But its good to see the steady decline on the scale. :) My small yet inconsistant logging of food has helped. So its motivation to keep it up.

Now the reason I was up late was I went to bed but then put a movie on so of course was up about 2 hours longer than wanted. My dd and I had snacks in bed. :duck: Not good but taking the consequences. I put some on yesterdays and some on todays. Kinda a split since it was practically middle of the night. I'll miss these late night movie watching in the coolness of the night with my dd when she goes back to school. Well unless she gets her way and we do online school next year.

Guess I'll read some more of the thread while I finish my brunch of fruit and dark chocolate almond milk. And wait for lazy bones(aka dd) to rise for the sleepyland. This is what happens when we stay up too late. :rolleyes1


ohh guess I'll do QOTD real quick:

QOTD July 9, 2014
I think sometimes on this journey many of us expect to fail. It is the nature of the beast--weight loss is hard and many of us have been down this path way too many times to count.

Do you share any of the habits of confident people? Is there anything that stood out that you need to work on?
I'd say I'm quite humble, the rest need more work for sure. 1, 2 and 6 are big goals. And I could definitely act like its mine already. :) I get the whole act fit and you get fit.

Being honest with yourself--
Do you have the confidence to succeed?
confidence is something I struggle with in all aspects of life. Always have. Sometimes I'm good others its low.

What does 'success' look like when it comes to weight loss?
Health, no more meds, being able to do things without worry of my weight being a contributing factor to not being able to do it(such as horseback riding and amusement park rides). I don't care much what the scale reads and I've felt comfortable in my skin and confident even up at 230 and felt healthy enough even up to 250s. When I could climb stairs with more ease and not feel like I was dying. An eye opener was when a friend won tickets to a baseball game and climbing the way up so far made my heart feel like it was gonna leap out. beating so fast. I just couldn't climb stairs like I could even at 250.
 

QOTD: I think I need to do more dedicate time to what matters. I am a huge procrastinator (because I work better under pressure, of course ;)) and that can derail me a lot!

Got a swim in this morning :cloud9: and rode my bike while my girlfriend walked so I can check exercise off today's list. Now I just need to shop so there's some healthy food in the house! Made a fruit salad with yogurt yesterday. If my fellas didn't eat it all, that'll be lunch! Tonight is another concert so another chance to see DS2. I have leftover shredded pork we can eat before we go. Last concert we ate McDonald's afterwards. I just had a chicken bacon burger which I'm sure had a million calories and my tummy didn't like it too well later!

That soccer game was amazing. I felt very sorry for Brazil. Today I see that the Tour de France is getting poured on. I don't see how those guys do it! Three weeks on a bike! :eek: Yes, it's obvious I live in a house with too much testosterone and TV that only knows ESPN!
 
Evening all!! I spent an obscene amount of time sitting on my a** today getting some paperwork done, but PHEW..... it is DONE! I have to admit, I am terrible about some aspect of personal paperwork even though I tend to be a pretty organized person. I hadn't submitted a time sheet for my second job since...... DECEMBER!!!!!!!!:eek: Yup.... haven't been paid for anything other than my meetings since 12/5/13... and I have no one to blame but myself. Hopefully my manager will give this huge time sheet submission the green light and I will have a nice tidy sum in my hand in a few weeks. I'm sure there will be some mistakes found, but hopefully nothing big. I HATE that I have to jump through hoops with all kinds of codes and rates etc, just to get paid for my work. But at least I have a job.:rolleyes:

Off to the Brimfield Flea Market with my Mom tomorrow..... looking for vintage Fiesta Ware and of course, Disney stuff. Hope that it is not unbearably hot because we aren't going until nearly lunch time. So if you don't hear from me in the a.m, fear not.... I'm off shopping!...................P
 
Forgive me if I don't do replies tonight. Very long day.
I will be back in the morning with a QOTD. :)
 
I hope things calm down a bit for you now, Buffy, with DH's work being closer. :flower3: I'm sure he is glad to see you when you all go to the RV but I can help but wonder how easy it is to work with the clan in the RV. ;)

It actually works out well, for some reason they don't fight there. And the kids spend most of the time outside.
And we aren't overwhelmed with crap, they each have 1 backpack they can take with them. Makes my life easier.

Off to the Brimfield Flea Market with my Mom tomorrow..... looking for vintage Fiesta Ware and of course, Disney stuff. Hope that it is not unbearably hot because we aren't going until nearly lunch time. So if you don't hear from me in the a.m, fear not.... I'm off shopping!...................P

Green with envy here!!! Brimfield is on my bucket list.

Forgive me if I don't do replies tonight. Very long day.
I will be back in the morning with a QOTD. :)

:hug:
 
Forgive me if I don't do replies tonight. Very long day.
I will be back in the morning with a QOTD. :)

Don't worry!!! Take care of yoursefl first!! :hug:

That soccer game was amazing. I felt very sorry for Brazil. Today I see that the Tour de France is getting poured on. I don't see how those guys do it! Three weeks on a bike! :eek: Yes, it's obvious I live in a house with too much testosterone and TV that only knows ESPN!

:lmao:

Everyone here in Germany is already full of tension about Sunday! We really don't have a good track record against Argentina...

I used to watch quite a bit of Tour de France in the past. But with all the scandals in recent years I kind of lost a bit of interest. Still, it is really impressive to see what people can acchieve if they set their mind to it (and unfortunately use all kind of drugs...). And to me even the one who finishes last is a winner! Just seeing them biking up those hills - amazing!

Off to the Brimfield Flea Market with my Mom tomorrow..... looking for vintage Fiesta Ware and of course, Disney stuff. Hope that it is not unbearably hot because we aren't going until nearly lunch time. So if you don't hear from me in the a.m, fear not.... I'm off shopping!...................P

Hope you find some nice stuff!!

It actually works out well, for some reason they don't fight there. And the kids spend most of the time outside.
And we aren't overwhelmed with crap, they each have 1 backpack they can take with them. Makes my life easier.

Kind of reminds me of that book that used to be so popular a few years ago called Simplify your life. Sometimes it really helps to have less things as you can focus on what is important.
 
Hi friends! :)

I fell onto a box of Pim's raspberry cookies yesterday afternoon while working - ack. My rationale was that they'd just go stale while we were away otherwise. Riiiight. But I've run Monday, yesterday, and today - and tomorrow I have an 11-mile training run scheduled for bright & early! So hopefully that will offset the cookies.

We are in full vacation prep mode here - I'm working on getting my work inboxes cleared, and I've started packing! So excited...especially because we'll also see some DIS friends while we're at Aulani. There's just SO MUCH to do before we go! Saturday morning, though, is reserved for me time - a long pedicure at our local Red Door. Aaaaahhhhh.

Happy Thursday, everyone!

XO
Liz
 
Things have been crazy here. DH's job is thankfully coming to an end. He will start a new job within the next week or two. Thank goodness!!! So he will not be driving over 100 miles each way every day, which means no more 2 1/2 drives and no more 9 pm dinners! He will either be home or away, no in between.
He will however be using the RV as an office which is about 30 minutes from here. So there will be days that we go to him. I need to come up with meal ideas that are are easier to prep at home during the day so we can eat at the RV when we get there.
We had a really good new recipe yesterday but it was a pain to make there. Harder than I thought it would be, so we ended up eating dinner at 9:30. I was not happy!!
We use the crock pot a lot but that gets old.
I think I will head off to the WISH recipes thread.

Sorry for the rambling. This is my brain lately!!! LOL
I need routine!!

Wowza.... life might finally settle down a bit now! I'm sure DH will NOT MISS that horrible commute!

Easier meals at the RV??? Hmmmm... I'll give it some thought. Do you have a grill there??

I think I am reasonably confident with pretty much everything in my life. My overall health and well being improves all the time so I call that a success in my weight loss efforts. A number on the scale has nothing to do with whether I am successful or not. Slow progress is still progress. :hippie:

And for my :woohoo: for the week -- I signed up for 10k training with my running group! :yay:

Progress is ALWAYS progress!! And you NEVER GIVE UP!! :thumbsup2 Wohoo on the 10K training!

Forgive me if I don't do replies tonight. Very long day.
I will be back in the morning with a QOTD. :)

NBD.... we survived without you! But you were missed of course. Hope you relaxed a bit last night.

It actually works out well, for some reason they don't fight there. And the kids spend most of the time outside.
And we aren't overwhelmed with crap, they each have 1 backpack they can take with them. Makes my life easier.

I think that is one thing I like about vacation (well, other than the fact that it is VACATION).... we have every meal pretty much planned out, we have limited "stuff" so the kids manage to entertain themselves with cousins and board games.

Green with envy here!!! Brimfield is on my bucket list.
You should plan to go in the fall. Honestly, I think it is only a little more than an hour from you!! I haven't been in a few years (okay.... maybe like 17 years!.... I think DD was in a stroller last time I went!), but since I've gotten into Fiesta Ware I'm anxious to take a look around for some vintage pieces.... and my Mom totally scored and got me a few neat "nearly vintage" Disney things last time she was there. One I plan to keep, one I plan to sell.

Wish me luck!

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Morning all! I'm up and moving and consuming caffeinated beverages! Time to get DS rising and shining. He is coming along with me today! :hug: Not because he is interested in the antiques, but he is being a good grandson and wants to help my Mom pick out a new cell phone and get it set up for her.

I plan to start the day with another smoothie, thanks to my Vitamix. That thing pulverized everything I put in there! Carrots, cucumber.... totally crushed! I forgot to mention that I even threw in a date for a little extra sweetness.... my Cuisinart blender could not handle a date at all.... no matter how long I ran it, the date didn't get blended. But it vanished in the Vitamix!

Today I think will be.... mango, banana, baby spinach, ginger, almond milk, cucumber, lime. Avocado still isn't ripe enough.:( Of course, DS will have his usual chocolate peanut butter banana (with a few secret ingredients, of course...;) ).

I'll hopefully be back to chat late tonight and share my treasure hunt finds!..............P
 
I thought we'd end my coaching gig with positive thinking.
Here's a like to the full article:
http://tinybuddha.com/blog/10-tips-to-overcome-negative-thoughts-positive-thinking-made-easy/

10 Tips to Overcome Negative Thoughts: Positive Thinking Made Easy

Negative thoughts drain you of energy and keep you from being in the present moment. The more you give in to your negative thoughts, the stronger they become. I like the imagery of a small ball rolling along the ground, and as it rolls, it becomes bigger and faster.

That’s what one small negative thought can turn into: a huge, speeding ball of ugliness. On the contrary, a small positive thought can have the same effect blossoming into a beautiful outcome.

1. Meditate or do yoga.

2. Smile.

3. Surround yourself with positive people.

4. Change the tone of your thoughts from negative to positive.

5. Don’t play the victim. You create your life—take responsibility.

6. Help someone.

7. Remember that no one is perfect and let yourself move forward.

8. Sing.

9. List five things that you are grateful for right now.

10. Read positive quotes.


QOTD July 10, 2014
Do you think negative thinking impacts your weight loss or keeps you from reaching your goals? Example? Do you think any of the above tips will be useful?
 
I hope everyone has liked the questions this week and even if you didn't answer, that they gave you something to think about. :goodvibes

Focusing on positive thinking, confidence, and stick-to-it-tiveness helped get me out of my head and away from the stuff that was going on here that I had little control over and helped me focus on things I can control.:goodvibes

We ended up letting the house contract go. It was a great floor plan, a great neighborhood and a great view. It needed interior updates which we were ok with. But the inspection found significant issues with the exterior that needed addressed (a lot of wood rot, leaking gutters, rusted chimney cap, basement windows that needed replaced, and an improperly installed roof that had significant nail pops). The seller wanted to give us money to fix it, but we don't want to fix it. Too much work and who knows what else we will find once we get started. The contractor we consulted with thought it was a good decision to let it go. He stressed over and over that repairs would just be band aids and basically the house needed new gutters, new fascia, a new roof, new siding, etc. The owner had literally been painting over the problems for quite a while rather than fixing them.

So we are back to square one.

I don't know if I will have a loss this week, but I did not go too crazy and I am proud of that. I went over on my calories a bit, but no chip and coke binges and that is a victory!!

My plan is to come on after work with replies, but I might just take a nap. :) I know you will understand.:goodvibes
 
I think I have decided on the steak and salad. Instead of a baked potato/potato of any kind, I am going to get a larger salad to go with my steak. The steak I get tends to be really small so a larger salad would be better than a baked potato.

Rice is definitely my weakness so I don't know if I could stop myself from having some if I were to go to the Sushi route. I think Steak and salad are the safest bet for me.

Happy birthday Desiree!:bday: party: party:

Hope you have a great day! I think your dinner plan sounds great! :thumbsup2

But I'm having a decent morning despite lack of good sleep and all that racket. I weighed myself again this morning. I'm not really one of those slave to the scale every day type people but sometimes I do and I've felt pretty decent and just lighter. Even notice slight changes. Anyway I was down each of the 3 weight checks I've done this week. I'm happy because usually I fluctuate up and down so badly. And today I was 2-3 lbs less than Monday, amazing because I'm bloated with TOM coming. :woohoo: I'm hoping for a really good weigh in on the actual day. But its good to see the steady decline on the scale. :) My small yet inconsistant logging of food has helped. So its motivation to keep it up.

Sounds like you are making good consistent progress! :yay:

QOTD: I think I need to do more dedicate time to what matters. I am a huge procrastinator (because I work better under pressure, of course ;)) and that can derail me a lot!

Got a swim in this morning :cloud9: and rode my bike while my girlfriend walked so I can check exercise off today's list. Now I just need to shop so there's some healthy food in the house! Made a fruit salad with yogurt yesterday. If my fellas didn't eat it all, that'll be lunch! Tonight is another concert so another chance to see DS2. I have leftover shredded pork we can eat before we go. Last concert we ate McDonald's afterwards. I just had a chicken bacon burger which I'm sure had a million calories and my tummy didn't like it too well later!

Great job with the exercise and healthy eating, Linda! :cool2:

Procrastination is something I seem to work on constantly, too. Then when I do something and it is so easy I ask myself why I put if off. :confused3

Off to the Brimfield Flea Market with my Mom tomorrow..... looking for vintage Fiesta Ware and of course, Disney stuff. Hope that it is not unbearably hot because we aren't going until nearly lunch time. So if you don't hear from me in the a.m, fear not.... I'm off shopping!...................P

pixiedust: for some great bargain hunting today, Pamela! :cool2:

Forgive me if I don't do replies tonight. Very long day.
I will be back in the morning with a QOTD. :)

I think you needed a break after all the stress this week! :flower3:

It actually works out well, for some reason they don't fight there. And the kids spend most of the time outside.
And we aren't overwhelmed with crap, they each have 1 backpack they can take with them. Makes my life easier.

That is wonderful! :cool2: Sounds like a nice break for everyone. :cool1:

Kind of reminds me of that book that used to be so popular a few years ago called Simplify your life. Sometimes it really helps to have less things as you can focus on what is important.

I've definitely been on a less is more kick since cleaning out my mom's house. :thumbsup2 "Stuff" can just drag you down.

Hi friends! :)

I fell onto a box of Pim's raspberry cookies yesterday afternoon while working - ack. My rationale was that they'd just go stale while we were away otherwise. Riiiight. But I've run Monday, yesterday, and today - and tomorrow I have an 11-mile training run scheduled for bright & early! So hopefully that will offset the cookies.

We are in full vacation prep mode here - I'm working on getting my work inboxes cleared, and I've started packing! So excited...especially because we'll also see some DIS friends while we're at Aulani. There's just SO MUCH to do before we go! Saturday morning, though, is reserved for me time - a long pedicure at our local Red Door. Aaaaahhhhh.

Happy Thursday, everyone!

XO
Liz

Sorry for the cookie encounter, Liz! :flower3: I can't wait to hear all about your adventures at Aulani! :cool2: And how was The Lion King?

BB in a few with the answer to the QOTD. DS is driving this morning and it's like a regular school day here . . . it is hard to get used to. :rotfl2:
 
QOTD July 10, 2014 Do you think negative thinking impacts your weight loss or keeps you from reaching your goals? Example? Do you think any of the above tips will be useful?

I think negative thinking can affect your whole life but sometimes it is an easy trap to fall into -- especially if you are tired or sick. I like all the suggestions and would add take five deep breaths and take a little pause. Did you know that emotions last for just 90 seconds?

When a person has a reaction to something in their environment, there’s a 90 second chemical process that happens in the body; after that, any remaining emotional response is just the person choosing to stay in that emotional loop. Something happens in the external world and chemicals are flushed through your body which puts it on full alert. For those chemicals to totally flush out of the body it takes less than 90 seconds.

This means that for 90 seconds you can watch the process happening, you can feel it happening, and then you can watch it go away. After that, if you continue to feel fear, anger, and so on, you need to look at the thoughts that you’re thinking – that are re-stimulating the circuitry – that is resulting in you having this physiological response over and over again.


This excerpt came from this article if you want to read more http://www.lifecoachingcourses.ie/2013/12/90-seconds-rule/

I think any of those suggestions would help you to break the cycle and change your world in just 90 short seconds. :cool2:

Thanks for coaching this week, Rose! :flower3: Lots of good, thought provoking questions. :thumbsup2

Sorry about the house situation. If it is a nightmare before you even close imagine how bad it would have been with months of endless and expensive construction. :faint:

Would a rental house work for you until things settle down a bit and you figure out what you want to do? I know it is hard to get to the part where you say "this all worked out for the best." :hippie:
 
Kind of reminds me of that book that used to be so popular a few years ago called Simplify your life. Sometimes it really helps to have less things as you can focus on what is important.

Yep, I have that book.
We now have a plan. DH and I talked about it this morning, and hopefully if things line up right, he will be able to retire when DD graduates from HS, so we are making sure we take the right steps now to prep. Then we move into the RV full time.
It's not huge, but it fits our lifestyle now and as the kids move out. Eventually we may go down to a small tow behind, but we will see.

Wowza.... life might finally settle down a bit now! I'm sure DH will NOT MISS that horrible commute!

Easier meals at the RV??? Hmmmm... I'll give it some thought. Do you have a grill there??

Yes we have a grill, a 3 burner stove top and a small oven. Another good thing about the RV, is DH does the grilling! LOL Mom gets a break. :cool1:

Since making the decision DH has had 2 really good nights sleep, and is not in as much pain. The stress was really taking it's toll on his back.

1. Meditate or do yoga.

2. Smile.

3. Surround yourself with positive people.

4. Change the tone of your thoughts from negative to positive.

5. Don’t play the victim. You create your life—take responsibility.

6. Help someone.

7. Remember that no one is perfect and let yourself move forward.

8. Sing.

9. List five things that you are grateful for right now.

10. Read positive quotes.

QOTD July 10, 2014
Do you think negative thinking impacts your weight loss or keeps you from reaching your goals? Example? Do you think any of the above tips will be useful?

negative thoughts always impact my weight loss and feelings. I start to question myself about deserving to succeed, because that has been ingrained in my head since day 1.

I really really didn't think I would succeed in finishing the PHM this year, and I wanted to quit. And did quit for a while, I slacked off on my training big time at the end. I would be in the middle of a run and I would see more fit athletes like DS18 and his friends and coaches, and I would be thinking to myself, who am I kidding, I'm not a runner, I'm not an athlete. And it didn't have anything to do with them, because if they did make comments, I didn't hear them (thank the lord for earbuds!). And DS and his teammates were nothing but supportive.

But what got me through last year was talking to someone else on the DIS about wether or not they should sign up because they were scared. I was scared too, but I also said that you would never regret trying and failing but you would, some day, regret not signing up. Well, I signed up and I knew I would regret quitting. If I ran and got swept, I would be sad but I knew I had at least tried. But I was sure as hell, not quitting. That got me through miles 8-10.
And now I must be a glutton for punishment because I'm going to sign up again!

Bolded are my go to tips.

We ended up letting the house contract go. It was a great floor plan, a great neighborhood and a great view. It needed interior updates which we were ok with. But the inspection found significant issues with the exterior that needed addressed (a lot of wood rot, leaking gutters, rusted chimney cap, basement windows that needed replaced, and an improperly installed roof that had significant nail pops). The seller wanted to give us money to fix it, but we don't want to fix it. Too much work and who knows what else we will find once we get started. The contractor we consulted with thought it was a good decision to let it go. He stressed over and over that repairs would just be band aids and basically the house needed new gutters, new fascia, a new roof, new siding, etc. The owner had literally been painting over the problems for quite a while rather than fixing them.

I'm sorry the house fell through, but I think you made the right decision. The stress of knowing all of that must be fixed would not be good for you mentally or physically. And the house would have ended up costing a lot more in the long run, than you had intended.
I hope the right house comes along soon!!
 
I think negative thinking can affect your whole life but sometimes it is an easy trap to fall into -- especially if you are tired or sick. I like all the suggestions and would add take five deep breaths and take a little pause. Did you know that emotions last for just 90 seconds?

When a person has a reaction to something in their environment, there’s a 90 second chemical process that happens in the body; after that, any remaining emotional response is just the person choosing to stay in that emotional loop. Something happens in the external world and chemicals are flushed through your body which puts it on full alert. For those chemicals to totally flush out of the body it takes less than 90 seconds.

This means that for 90 seconds you can watch the process happening, you can feel it happening, and then you can watch it go away. After that, if you continue to feel fear, anger, and so on, you need to look at the thoughts that you’re thinking – that are re-stimulating the circuitry – that is resulting in you having this physiological response over and over again.


This excerpt came from this article if you want to read more http://www.lifecoachingcourses.ie/2013/12/90-seconds-rule/

I think any of those suggestions would help you to break the cycle and change your world in just 90 short seconds. :cool2:

Huh, I did not know that. But in looking back, I can see it. I have been getting better at choosing to get off the hamster wheel in terms of reacting to things. I tell myself (and my BFF) all the time that you can not change how people act towards you, however you can change how you react to them.
It has helped tremendously.
When DS18 was little when he was upset we always made him take a deep breath, blow it out, count slowly to 10, the do another deep breath and it really helped him. He still does it.
 














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