Enjoy your trip - do what is right for you! 
DH knows I've been haunting the DIS, and checking out all things Disney online. I mentioned I had found a touring plan site, that can give you a schedule/order of sorts to hit the parks.
His idea? NO plan - he's excited to just be there, be in the park, to hell with it if we wait in lines, grab a fastpass when we see them and can, but to just go with the flow through the parks.
Like a few other recent posters, I fear I will become that screeching commando Mom, and suck the fun out of it for everybody, if I have a tour plan in my hand.
Those of you who just go with the flow and wing it - does this work well for you?
The only things that are planned are what park on what day and our ADRs. Everything thing else is done totally on the fly. We've always had a blast!
So if you google my user name you'll find my sorid tale of being a commando mom on my families first trip. LOL. So we are professional wingers.
That being said here are a few tips.
1) summer time is ridiculously packed in the parks. If you are going when the parks are going to be 10, I would say rope drop is a must.
2) Walk ups inside the parks are kinda hit or miss. If you are staying on site when you wake up in themorning, phone disney dining and see what's available in the park or a resort near the park you are going to be in. Now yo have a place to eat if you want to without the stress over trying to pick a restaurant 180 days out.
Other than that. ENJOY!! I did get a birnbaums guide book, my family and I read it and we picked the rides we really wanted to do.
We always stroll, we sit on benches, we meander through out the stores. we love it. we sleep in, we spend hours at the pool. love
Being addicted to planning does not mean you have to be a commando in the parks.
I scour the threads here to have all the up-to-date information I will need when I get there...... so we can make informed decisions on the fly.
Here's how our park plans go:
Day 1 - MK. Try to hit the headliners. Catch Castle Lighting Ceremony. Maybe lunch at Pecos Bills
Day 2 - AK. 8 AM lunch at Tusker House. Do Safari then EE. Walk some trails. Leave by 12. MVMCP that night.
Day 3 - Epcot. Late-ish start after party. Get Soarin FP as soon as we get there. Eat lunch at Coral Reef.
Day 4 - DHS. TSMM first. Then BATB and RnR. Stay through for Osborne lights.
Day 5 - MK. Merida meet & greet first.
I'm a commando researcher, but not really a commando at park plans. I subscribe to touringplans but only for the crowd calendar and Lines app. If you can put yourself in the right park on the right day, you won't NEED to be a commando.
There's a happy medium for everyone. Your challenge is to figure out a plan that works for you AND your husband. You can have a plan in your head without being fully committed to it and drive everyone crazy with it.
What I woudn't do is just walk in the park without having done my homework in advance.
. For the past 2 years we decided just to wing it, and its wonderful!!! I do make dinner reservations for every night at our hotel for just in case, but we never feel like we have to change what we are doing just to keep it, sometimes we just cancel it. It is so much easier to decide where you want to go based on how you feel , and what the weather is each day than to have it all pre planned. Over the years we have dined at every restaurant, been on every ride so there is no more pressure. Everyone picks their favorites each day and we try to do it, if we don't it's not a big deal. Maybe we would feel different it it was our first trip, or if we did not go every year. For now we say JUST WING IT!!
My plan consists of:
Decide which park for which day
Make ADRs in advance
Never be without a FP in hand.
That's pretty much it! Never failed to work yet!
The only things that are planned are what park on what day and our ADRs. Everything thing else is done totally on the fly. We've always had a blast!