Why is it that My college-age daughter has so many forms of communication

[JanetRose]

(iPod Touch, cell phone, laptop with internet) and I could never get her to call me back??!!!

 

[golfgal]

Teens don't call but I bet if you sent her a text you would get a reply in no time.

 

[dzneelvr]

It's not as convenient as you may think for college students to return cell phone calls or texts. My college DS or DD say there are too many times during the day when they don't have access: either in class, extracurriculars, exercising, driving, studying, or socializing. Mine like me to use emails for "conversations" that don't expect a reply. Calls are ONLY if it is an emergency and then only during designated times when they can pick up. My mom (their grandmother) still sends them mail the old fashioned way and they love that too (of course she always sticks in some clippings from the local papers and a $ or 2).
Ask your DD what she'd prefer and prepare to loosen the communication ties--they just don't need as much

 

[MushyMushy]

Aw, I'm sorry! That does have to be a little difficult.

I only had a phone in my dorm room -- no answering machine or anything like that. My parents would get frustrated and would come early early on a Saturday morning to drag me home for the weekend. I laugh, but I do feel bad now.

 

[disneyfav4ever]

I know that was a big thing for my dad too when I was in school, but I didn't have a cell, and for awhile I didn't even have a house phone. E-mail was the only way to get me a message most of the time, but when I replied I usually just wanted to know how my pets were.

 

[ZephyrHawk]

Pat yourself on the back. You raised a healthy, intelligent, independent child to the age where she no longer needs you. You succeeded in the goal you began with at her conception. Now, redecorate her room as a guest suite and start planning for how you will spend her inheritance.

 

[disney1990]

I feel your pain. Teens and young adults these days are "so" connected, yet you can't reach them. I watch them look at the telephone to see who is calling and then put it back in their pocket. Like somebody said, sending them a text message is probably the best way to go. I know I can call my daughter at college and she won't answer the telephone. But, I can send her a text message that says "call me" and I get a call back when she has a chance to call. It's just a different generation -- I don't know what else to say.

 

[java]

I was going to say be proud of yourself too! You raised a self sufficient woman! And she's having so much fun that's she's just busy right now. She still loves you.

 

[Magic Mom]

LOL I'm going through that with DS right now. I just keep telling myself that it means he's independent.
He did call yesterday and we talked for about 10 minutes (that's 4 hours in teen boy time).

 

[alizesmom]

I may be in a minority here but I say stop calling her for awhile and see what happens. Karen

 

[powellrj]

Mine is leaving in the morning, but I have found the only time this summer I hear from him is when HE wants or needs something. I figure it will be the same way when he's at school.

 

[bballmom56]

(iPod Touch, cell phone, laptop with internet) and I could never get her to call me back??!!!

Because she is so busy communicating with everyone else!

Not to worry - my DS (and most college students) are the same way. I did learn to text 2 years ago when DS went off to college. It was his preferred method of communication and I would usually get a response within a minute. It's not cool for their friends to know he is talking to mom, but with texting, no one knows!

Sometimes I catch him on IM, but he is not always able to chat. I prefer IM because it's faster for me than texting.