Why does the unexpected have to hurt so much???

[joolz1910]

I agree with other posters about the other Mum - what she said was totally unnecessary. I bring my children up to be kind to others and to make sure other children are never excluded.

I'm not that clued up about SEN, but Cam should be on the school SEN register for his medical condition at the very least. I taught a boy who had had Hodgkinsons and we were all aware of his condition and the treatment he had had.

Sending you

 

[natalielongstaff]

I am questioning though if its worth keeping cam in mainstream or if he would better off moved to a school that can really understand his needs ???

i do think that in some cases "inclusion" does more harm than good and doesnt suit every childs needs

 

[florida sun]

 

[irongirlof12]

bless you, there you where having a good time out and wham

 

[bronny]

Oh how awful of someone to say that to you. Children are cruel but you would think an adult would have a little more understanding. Big to you.x

 

[catherine]

 

[wideeyes]

, I am puzzled though as I had a statement and didn't have no educational needs.

 

[Booknut]

I'm sorry you had to go through that, I think you should tell your friend but its easier said than done I know. I was telling a good friend of mine on the phone about how my daughter was improving a bit but that she couldn't do a few things yet and 2 days later when she came round she seemed to make a point of getting her son to show us (even when he wasn't that interested) and do every single one of those things that I told her Matilda couldn't do even though he's 5 months younger than her. It hurt like hell and I have no idea if she had any clue because I couldn't tell her.

My little princess is language delayed and has sensory issues and it does break my heart when I see children even younger than her talking and building things with bricks and pretend playing as sadly she cannot do any of this yet. But like you say, you love everything about them and this is a part of them.

Am sending you a big hug Your son is lucky to have such a great mum

 

[Latte Lover]

Sending you a hug
What a horrible mother, saying such a nasty thing to you! Honestly, sometimes the mothers are worse than the children. At least her child, at 7, probably hasn't yet learnt how to be tactful, but she has no excuse.

Maybe you could ask your son's teacher to organise some playground games so that he would naturally be included.

 

[Lizzy Lemon]

Didn't want to read and run. Know where you are coming from, our DS is statemented after many tears, phone calls and meetings got it sorted, its blooming hard work doing all this without having support from others. If your DS is coping with the work is it his social skills that need addressing? We are lucky, Ashley is now back in main stream and they go out of their way to come up with ideas to help him, they set up a 'Simpsons' lunchtime social group as he likes the TV series and they invited any pupils to go along and watch episodes and discuss them. The school work he finds extremely hard and homework takes 3 times as long as it should even with my help. Some of the kids are cruel as well he has no network of friends, just a couple of SN needs he visits at their homes. I'm really cross tonight, I asked Ashley to walk home and these other kids didn't wait for him yet when I pick Ashley up in the car they wait for him then for a lift home. Ash is like Cam, he will sit and sulk for something for a long time, he will remember the day and date of things that have happened a long time ago. It sounds cruel but if those children who tormented SN children could just have a day of being like that they may understand the hurt that our children feel. Sending you my best wishes.

 

[buzz for boys]

Thanks again for all the replies and and to all you other moms and dads with SN kids. He has gone into school really happy today and has a visual timetable all too himself which seems for the moment to have put him back on an aeven keel.
The school were disgusted with the comments that were made and pointed out thatcam does have friends - she even went and got the class introduction book where the kids all write a paragraph and introduce themselves to the new teacher at the end of every term and i was happy to see that several of the boys had put " we have a friend called cam and he is very poorly but he will be back soon!!"
I was pleased that IF the child in question did say he didnt want to play then there are others in the class that actually like Cam for who he is and are prepared to make the allowances !!
So until the next drama -THANKS ALL FOR THE SUPPORT !!!

 

[Lizzy Lemon]

Ah brilliant - don't you feel top of the world when your child has a good day.

 

[buzz for boys]

Ah brilliant - don't you feel top of the world when your child has a good day.

Definatly when he comes round the corner with 2 thumbs up and smiling i know we may even get some sleep tonight
He is chatting on about making a wrestling video to show his class so i think ill be busy tonight

 

[Lizzy Lemon]

Definatly when he comes round the corner with 2 thumbs up and smiling i know we may even get some sleep tonight
He is chatting on about making a wrestling video to show his class so i think ill be busy tonight

Have fun, I've got to persuade Ash to get his homework done - learning goodness knows how many French words for next Tuesday, think I'd rather be making a wrestling video!!!!

 

[natalielongstaff]

So until the next drama -THANKS ALL FOR THE SUPPORT !!!

Thats what we are here for hun xx

 

[bronny]

I'm so glad Cam had a great day. Sometimes its harder for us mums to deal with than the kids. My son was ostracized by the majority of his class throughout Primary school due to his ADHD and it broke my heart! He'd come home most days saying 'Mum I made a new friend today' then be hurt when that child was nasty the next day. Sometimes kids move on better than us parents! Now he's in secondary and luckily we moved out of the area in his final year so he goes to a school where the stigma of primary didn't follow him. So much you've written about Cam makes me think he is a very special little boy.

 

[wideeyes]

That is great that he had a good day

 

[joolz1910]

Glad to hear that you are feeling positive and that Cam had a good day.

 

[jockey]

 

[Booknut]

That's great news