Why Does DH do this - Need hugs!

[Tigger&Belle]

Did he come home yet?

 

[we3disneygo]

hope everything is ok.....

 

[Disney Doll]

I would also add that all this uncertainty and stress can't be good for your son. Children are very perceptive, and no matter how well you think you are hiding things or how well you think you are holding it together, they know something is wrong.

You may need to consider building a life for you and your son, without DH in it. It sounds as if you have tried, and it sounds as if DH doesn't wnat to really try. I know a therapist isn't a perfect fit every time, but come on...2 therapists he didn't like???

 

[Tiggerlover91]

Stop telling your God how big the storm is. Instead, tell the storm how big your God is.

DISNEY DOLL....

I pulled that quote from your siggie...WONDERFUL! EXCELLENT!!

 

[Lyn5]

 

[chell]

Just wanted to offer you some hugs and support.

 

[minnie56]

You and your son deserve sooooo much better than this!

 

[720L]

Sorry you have to be going through this. Stay strong.

 

[Mimi Q]

 

[Puffy2]

Yes we do have 1 DS.

In a way, this should make it easier for you - your #1 job is to PROTECT your son. I would think that all of your decisions should reflect that.

 

[Kitty 34]

I hope you figure out the right thing to do soon.

 

[TRUFFLES13]

Yes I did finally hear from him this morning - a text message. He said he will call in a little while if I want to talk - Give me a break I have been wanting to talk for days - I feel like all I will hear are more lies or that he isn't coming home.

Thanks for the support -

 

[Stitchfans]

I am dealing with an unmedicated dh with bipolar as well. It is very scary. He's agreed to get help. But now i'm trying to find a good dr. I don't know how to do this. He had a terrible dr. with meds that made the situation much worst. How do you find a good dr. And I can't wait 3 months for an appointment either. If any of you have gotten help can offer a suggestion I'd love to hear it. During an episode dh makes very scary decisions. I truly don't believe he remembers everything he did afterward either.

You shouldn't have to wait 3 months. I ran into that also. I took my DH to the Dupage Crisis Center. Look in your phone book for the nearest Crisis center in your area and take him there. They will get him set up with a proper medication. Then after he is on his meds find a dr to follow up with it. Make sure he get his levels checked (this is in the future later) with blood tests. But for now make sure he gets proper meds.

For all of you who are acting as if he is doing this on purpose and telling her to leave him so on. Not fair! Not true! He can not help himself. This is part of the illness. They feel they no longer need the meds after a while cause they are feeling well. That is were the doctor and you come in. If you truely love him you will help him to make sure he stays healthy. They do need your support.

Like I said I have a wonderful life with my DH. He is a loving, considerate, hardworking man who I wouldn't trade for anything. And yes his is Bi Polar.
It is an illness that can be treated!!!!

 

[LBKB]

 

[snowball22]

 

[Tiggeroo]

It is an illness that can be treated!!!!

That's one of the best things i've heard. One of dh's symptoms is anger. He will be unexplainedly angry over little things. And it is so out of character for him. What happens is I learn to read the signs of an attack coming on and he will be in complete denial about it. I am hoping that thru therapy he will recognize how bad some of these symptoms are.

 

[r3ngels]

 

[macraven]

i understand what you are going through. i live with bipolar people in my 4 walls also. pm me if you wish so we can talk more.

it is very common and natural for a bipolar person to go through 4-5 doctors before they find one the click with. when its the right doctor, they know it.

 

[cheerbop]

Yes I did finally hear from him this morning - a text message. He said he will call in a little while if I want to talk - Give me a break I have been wanting to talk for days - I feel like all I will hear are more lies or that he isn't coming home.

Thanks for the support -

You are not alone in this.

God will never give you anything that you can't handle.
I have a friend who is Bi Polar and she did not want to ruin the life she has built with her family and 2 kids. She wanted the help and got it. It is usually under control.
But, you have an even bigger issue with the drugs and alcohol. THAT is what I would be most concerned about at this point. How can he even be rational if he is doing drugs and alcohol?!

That needs to stop and then treat the Bi Polar. BUT, he also has to Sincerely WANT and ACCEPT the help that you or anyone (docs, etc) has to offer.
YOU have to think of your DS and what is the best situation for him. You need to be HIS protector, Hon!

Please take care of yourself....

 

[mark&sue]

I feel your pain. Hope you can sort things out soon.



Susan