Why do some girls let guys walk all over them?

[cindys_castle2011]

Like they're constantly getting hurt over and over again, but no matter how many times they ALWAYS go back to them.

I hate seeing that, ESPECIALLY when its my best friend!

 

[MickeyisBeast]

it's really annoying, and i totally agree with you! Some people just dont know what to do.

 

[DISKATER69]

That's kind of funny because my best friend is a guy and that is what's happening to him. His girlfriend stole like 5 things from him and never gave them back. Then a few months later he went out with her again, and guess what. She stole a movie from him. Now they aren't going out anymore, but he finally hates her. Im sure he'll go out with her again though. That's what happened the first time.

 

[BeyondHorizons]

Why do some girls let guys walk all over them?
Why do some guys let girls walk all over them?

It happens to a lot of people. Sometimes they're too passive, sometimes they tried to see past the bad only to find there's little good..
Does that make sense?

 

[MickeyisBeast]

maybe it's because thats the only way they can 'fit in' or thats the only way they can think of acting. Some people just dont take the right path.

 

[VolleyballQt07]

My ex best friend does that to her boyfriend. They started dating around October and they've have quite an interesting relationship. She's cheated on him 3 times(twice w/ her ex) and he's still gone back to her. I don't get it. What does he see in her?! She's messed with so many guys' hearts in the past two years and it's seriously pathetic. She controls EVERYTHING he does. If he talks to another girl, she flips. If he doesn't text her back right away, she starts a fight..and so on. They broke up a couple weeks ago because her boyfriend was "done" of hearing it all the time on how he "screwed up" or how he should've "done something better". But of course, they're dating. . .again! At first I felt bad for the guy but seriously he keeps going back to her, I don't feel bad anymore.

 

[MickeyisBeast]

^^^
That is seriously messed up.

 

[Tinkerbell424]

I'm in that position now :/

 

[JarethDrakul]

I've let a guy walk over me in a way...and it really hurt me as I didn't know where I stood if he liked me or not...then I realised I was ok before so I can be ok with or without haha.

 

[cindys_castle2011]

Well my best friend has been dating this guy for seven months now. She's not even suppose to be dating him; because he's black. But that doesn't bother me. What bothers me is, he can do something so mean to her and she won't do anything about it!

Everything was fine till about a month ago. He went to Australia for a student ambassador thing. So he was gone for three weeks, about. They didn't talk at all during them weeks because he was unable too.

When he got home; he kept bragging out all the new girls he met, and how he had soo much fun with them! Everytime they get on the phone he's like "hold on *insert girls name here* just texted me". She'll tell me about how mad she gets, and how she tells him to stop texting them while they're on the phone. But I never HEAR her telling him that.

Me and him have been good friends since kindergarten; so I know he's a good kid. He's just changed a lot since he's gotten back. He picks the most pointless fights with her all the time, so now they're always arguing. She finally built up enough courage the other night, and told him they were done.

She came to my house last night, and when she drove up I noticed she was on the phone. I asked with who? And she was like "Bryan, duhh who else" I just looked at her and said "ugh whatever" and then we went inside.

Everytime we go somewhere, she's on the phone with him the ENTIRE time. They really never get off. During them few weeks he was gone, when I stayed with her.. I didn't even get on the phone with my boyfriend once. Because I knew she wasn't able to talk to her's. And she can't even be respectful enough towards me or anyone else to get off that damn phone when she has company.

When she goes out with her family, just about the whole time she's talking to him, or texting him. When she's with her friends.. it's the EXACT same. When she came to my house the other day, my mom walked outside and started talking to us, and she didn't even have the courtesy to at least tell him to hold on and put the phone away from her ear.

Ugh; I just hope it's not like that when we go to Galveston later this month!

 

[Babyjustrun]

My friend let's it because she's very impressionable.
She currently entering a relationship that's not going to be healthy, but because he tells her so many lies she's willing to believe. The guy gets his attention from pity, he goes on and on about how much he sucks so we feel bad for him. And then he tells you how much you make him happy, and all sorts of BS that isn't true.
and I tell her, he said those same things to me. He did. And YOU told me to avoid him. so I did, and look who's not following their own advice? Don't think you can change him, or he's going to change for you.

 

[Axel]

I have a pair of friends who are dating. Almost all my other friends think that the girl is too controlling of the guy, but they've never heard her talk about why.

S (the boy) can be very very idiotic at times. The first time he ever drank at a party was lite beer with B (the girl) and B's cousin. Immediately after graduation, he had told her that he was going to a party with G, R, and Sh who are very heavy drinkers (as in hard liquor-- whiskey and such) and pot smokers. B protested and told him that there was no way he was going and all my other friends were: "geez. let him have a life!". But B is just worried about S. B is gone for six weeks for school stuff and S has already gone out partying beyond his limits twice. He's completely irresponsible without somebody around to point out when he's being stupid. He's missed a day of work because he was hungover and his parents threatened to kick him out of the house.

Sometimes, it just looks like control, when it's just somebody caring for somebody else.

That said, as for the actual relationships where somebody's getting walked on, it's generally because they're afraid.

 

[life of the party]

cause sometimes, you just want them to accept you.
you want to do everything right, so they will FINALY throw you a bone and compliment you.

its like a goal, and you get stuck in those relationships sometimes.

 

[StitchfansJr]

cause sometimes, you just want them to accept you.
you want to do everything right, so they will FINALY throw you a bone and compliment you.

its like a goal, and you get stuck in those relationships sometimes.