Why do some Disboards member post an appology if their kids have a fit while at WDW?

[CR Resort Fan 4 Life]

A few times I have read posts where someone has appologized because their kids had a temper tanturm there for they start to cry, where everyone else can see this. The thing I am wondering is this. What's the point of saying I am sorry for this happening? It's a part of life & I am sure it happens a lot while at WDW & if you are ever upset if you saw this, then don't go to WDW for your vacation. I keep thinking the people who say their sorry must think maybe someone from Disboards might be seeing the kid having a fit, which is the only reason I can think of why someone would post this. However to that theory I say is this. Yes I am sure there are Disboards members everyday at WDW. However the 4 parks, 2 water parks & Downtown Disney get so many visitors per day, the chances of someone from Disboards seeing a kid having a fit & posting about it is very low. So basically the people who post it think everyone at WDW is from Disboards because they felt it had to be posted, well not everyone who visits WDW posts on Disboards or any WDW message board site. Anyway I am wondering why do some parents post that their sorry when their kids have a fit in public? In my opinion I think your embarrassing kids even more by leting the whole world read about it.

 

[cybrkitn]

I haven't seen anything about tantrums, but then again, I haven't been on really since last week. We are already in Disney so I haven't had a chance to post that much.

My DS4 did have 2 tantrums (both at Epcot during the two days we were there). But the only reason why he had it was because he was very, very tired. He's not used to being on the go constantly. Getting up at 7 am, going to a park and not getting back to the resort until 10 or 11 then starting it up all over again puts a bit of a strain on him.

Yesterday, we went to Sea World and he was tuckered out after 5 minutes of leaving. Today he got to sleep a little later and just got up. But he has been having a "magical" time and is loving this vacation! We do MK today, MGM tomorrow and Tuesday, we do AK during the day and MNSSHP in the evening. Then, unfortunately, we leave on Wednesday to go home

 

[thirtycats]

A few times I have read posts where someone has appologized because their kids had a temper tanturm there for they start to cry, where everyone else can see this. The thing I am wondering is this. What's the point of saying I am sorry for this happening? It's a part of life & I am sure it happens a lot while at WDW & if you are ever upset if you saw this, then don't go to WDW for your vacation. .

I haven't seen these apologies yet! But I agree with you. There is nothing to apologize for. It IS a part of life. I think it is a little embarrassing, but nothing to be ashamed of.

Every family has their difficult moments.

 

[GSDRescuer]

When I witness a tantrum, I just smile......been there, done that.....a sympathetic smile. It's life...that's what kids do (sometimes).

 

[AJKMOM]

I just say a little prayer for the parent to have patience. Then I move on.

 

[CR Resort Fan 4 Life]

I still think they post an appology here because they must think everyone who say their kids having a fit must post on Disboards. Why else would they say to anyone who has at so & so on whatever date? No one ever replied saying I was there & your kid totally ruined whatever I happen to be doing. Once again I say the chances of a Disboards member seeing another Disboards member kid having a fit anyone where in WDW is very very slim. If I had to guess the chances of them seeing this is 0.5%.

 

[Luv Bunnies]

I don't think they're apologizing specifically to reach anyone who might have seen the tantrum. I think they're just frustrated parents who are venting about a situation that was tough for them. Not everyone who posts here has kids, but most are family-oriented people who are sympathetic to whatever happens on our WDW trips. I think people feel better when they share their experiences, good or bad. Just my 2 pennies!

 

[grumpy-gramps]

Hi,
They can scream away, it doesn't/won't bother me (us, DW) one bit.

Being grandparents is great, when their kids act up and have tantrums, their kids go with them and we go with us (me and DW, grammy).

 

[rkujay]

I believe one should NEVER apologize for one's children. They are God's gift.

However, there are times one must remind one's self that children ARE God's gift.

 

[disneygirl29]

When I witness a tantrum, I just smile......been there, done that.....a sympathetic smile. It's life...that's what kids do (sometimes).

As a Mom of kids who are still in that age (2 and 4) I do the same thing when I see someone else in that situation... And I would NEVER apologize for my kids throwing a fit... they are kids, they have meltdowns... heck there I times I would like to be able to have a meltdown, but as an adult I can't in public!

 

[tpayne]

I say...don't worry about it. All the parents are just happy it's wasn't their children that particular moment.

 

[Mumbling Jumba]

The last time I saw a tantrum at Disney (While walking thru Epcot) The parent leaned over and said " This is Disney the Happiest place on Earth, Don't make me take to the car that's the unhappiest place on Earth." The Tantrum was over.

 

[jann1033]

hmm, i think it's nice for a parent with a kid having a meltdown to acknowledge it instead of acting like it's OK,,,i think that would make the onlookers more sympathetic since the kid is disrupting their time also..i don't think you have to overdo it but a smile and a "sorry he's really tired" while the kid flails his body all over the sidewalk would do. then everyone knows the parent is doing the best they can to control the situation and is aware it could be impacting others which it is, fact is not many people enjoy hearing a child scream for the 20 min bus ride to the resort.not that they haven't been there but it isn't pleasant anyway, it's just being polite imo

as far as doing it after the fact on the dis board i think it's just venting or embarrassment hoping not to get mentioned on some "boy did i see a bratty kid thread"

 

[CR Resort Fan 4 Life]

The last time I saw a tantrum at Disney (While walking thru Epcot) The parent leaned over and said " This is Disney the Happiest place on Earth, Don't make me take to the car that's the unhappiest place on Earth." The Tantrum was over.

OMG that is the funniest thing I have ever heard, although that does sound like a good way to stop a tantrum while at WDW.

 

[JeanfromBNA]

While I think that Disney vacationers are accustomed to childish behavior and few expect an apology for a tantrum, I don't think that there is anything wrong with a parent apologizing for their child's behavior. Those of you who think that you NEVER have to apologize for your child make me shake my head in disbelief. There is too little civility in the world (both of 'em) right now, not too much repression. We could all use a little more self-control.

 

[ArtsyPics]

They post because validation is a powerful gift.

If one can offer validation, a gentle reassurance from someone who wears their Been There Done That t-shirt proudly, then the frustrated parent can concentrate their mindset on future ways to prevent a child's meltdown. Instead of obsessing about what went wrong, they can focus their attention on the facts as opposed to the emotions of the situation.

Compassion and understanding are wonderful tools to teach our children.

 

[mickyzzzzz05]

I don't think they're apologizing specifically to reach anyone who might have seen the tantrum. I think they're just frustrated parents who are venting about a situation that was tough for them. Not everyone who posts here has kids, but most are family-oriented people who are sympathetic to whatever happens on our WDW trips. I think people feel better when they share their experiences, good or bad. Just my 2 pennies!

I agree with the above poster. I think they are venting and sharing their experience. I see no difference between this and someone venting about any type of not so pleasant experience that was part of their WDW trip.

 

[blondeheroine]

I don't think they're apologizing specifically to reach anyone who might have seen the tantrum. I think they're just frustrated parents who are venting about a situation that was tough for them. Not everyone who posts here has kids, but most are family-oriented people who are sympathetic to whatever happens on our WDW trips. I think people feel better when they share their experiences, good or bad. Just my 2 pennies!

ITA! And I really haven't seen that many apology posts for this kind of thing. If they say, "I'm sorry," I think it's just their way of introducing the story.

 

[CR Resort Fan 4 Life]

I don't think they're apologizing specifically to reach anyone who might have seen the tantrum.

Then how come in these posts I have seen parents start off by saying "I am sorry to anyone who was at _________ (insert location there) on ___________ (insert date there), because they saw my child have a tanturm & it spoiled the attraction we for everyone".

So in my opinion they are appologizing for something, because they must feel guilty about it.