Why Do People Do This...?

[allison443]

So, is Aunt Millie out of the way? Is it really any skin off your nose to pick her up? Someone needs a ride and you live near her and it's simply the nice thing to do. I guess I don't understand why all the drama over being asked to do someone a favor.

I agree with this! What's the big deal over giving someone a ride?

Why the drama?

 

[allison443]

The funny thing is, I don't even know yet if I work that day! I just hope they aren't planning on me being Millie's only option to the function.

I could care less about driving her, but ASK me, don't TELL me. I just don't get why people do that.

Who TOLD you to do it? Was it by chance your mother in law?

 

[AKL_Megs]

I love how it's "dramatic" because it's not happening to YOU. I'm not being "dramatic", just making conversation.

I highly doubt ANY of you would smile and giggle if someone TOLD YOU you were doing something instead of ASKING YOU if you would mind/even could/or wanted to. You'd be peeved as well.

I thought it was a funny topic to post about. I guess not, everything is so serious around here lately!

 

[AKL_Megs]

Who TOLD you to do it? Was it by chance your mother in law?

No, it was whoever is throwing the shower, a girl I don't know, but I guess the mom-to-be said I live close.

I wouldn't dare post about my MIL again.

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

Don't go if you don't know the person well enough to invite her to your shower. Otherwise this is just a money grab. She wants another gift, and your name came up.

If you do go, go gladly. The only thing worse than inviting distant relatives to these things is them showing up with an attitude.

If you decide to give this elderly woman a ride, get her number ahead of time so you can discuss the arrangement (when you will be arriving, departing). I bet that she will be thankful, even if the cousin is not.

 

[msjprincess]

The funny thing is, I don't even know yet if I work that day! I just hope they aren't planning on me being Millie's only option to the function.

I could care less about driving her, but ASK me, don't TELL me. I just don't get why people do that.

I thought you already knew that you were going to the shower

I've yet to decide if I want to pick her up. I hate how you feel "stuck" if you want to leave early/stay late/go someplace after/whatever... I AM going to the shower.

 

[msjprincess]

Don't go if you don't know the person well enough to invite her to your shower. Otherwise this is just a money grab. She wants another gift, and your name came up.

If you do go, go gladly. The only thing worse than inviting distant relatives to these things is them showing up with an attitude.

If you decide to give this elderly woman a ride, get her number ahead of time so you can discuss the arrangement (when you will be arriving, departing). I bet that she will be thankful, even if the cousin is not.

She knows the person who the shower is for. She doesn't know the person they asked her to pick up.

 

[tlbwriter]

Are there really people here who think it's neither rude nor pushy to TELL someone that they are giving someone else a ride?

 

[AKL_Megs]

I thought you already knew that you were going to the shower

Well, what I mean is, if I am OFF that day I am going. I won't know my schedule until next week. Good job picking out that discrepancy . Y'all don't miss a beat!

 

[ols386]

Are there really people here who think it's neither rude nor pushy to TELL someone that they are giving someone else a ride?

Yes it sounds a bit rude, or pushy, or whatever you want to call it. But we were not there to hear the actual conversation. I do think sometimes people say things like this without thinking or realizing how they sound.

But the bottom line is, the simple solution for Megs is just to not go, and avoid the person (people) that she is annoyed with. Either that or just brush it off and go and hopefully have a nice experience at the shower.

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

She knows the person who the shower is for. She doesn't know the person they asked her to pick up.

Not sure why she started it with this then:

Invite EVERY Tom, Dick and Harry they EVER met to "showers", ...

Sounds like she doesn't think she should have been invited to begin with.

 

[tlbwriter]

OP, if I were you, I'd say "I don't know yet if I'll be off work to attend the shower, so Aunt Millie should arrange for another ride." Or tell them you have to be someplace else before and/or after the shower so you will not be available to give Aunt Millie a ride. Simply because I dislike giving pushy people what they want.

 

[AKL_Megs]

Not sure why she started it with this then:

Sounds like she doesn't think she should have been invited to begin with.

No, I'm saying, where the heck did Aunt Millie come from after being MIA at all other functions for 12 years?

 

[msjprincess]

Not sure why she started it with this then:

Sounds like she doesn't think she should have been invited to begin with.

I think she doesn't think they should have invited Aunt Millie, because she's never met Aunt Millie before.

Or maybe I'm wrong

 

[si-am]

I love how it's "dramatic" because it's not happening to YOU. I'm not being "dramatic", just making conversation.

I highly doubt ANY of you would smile and giggle if someone TOLD YOU you were doing something instead of ASKING YOU if you would mind/even could/or wanted to. You'd be peeved as well.

I thought it was a funny topic to post about. I guess not, everything is so serious around here lately!

I didn't get "funny story" out of your OP. It seemed like you were REALLY UPSET.

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

No, I'm saying, where the heck did Aunt Millie come from after being MIA at all other functions for 12 years?

Okay, then this whole thread is about you being "asked" in an impolite way to give an elderly woman a ride? It bothers you that much?

 

[AKL_Megs]

Okay, then this whole thread is about you being "asked" in an impolite way to give an elderly woman a ride? It bothers you that much?

No, I was told.

I don't think she's elderly. DH thinks she's in her 60's. I don't think that's elderly.

Anyways, I don't know the whole story, just that I was told, "Megs, you are close, so you are picking up Millie" in an email.

 

[robinb]

No, I was told.

I don't think she's elderly. DH thinks she's in her 60's. I don't think that's elderly.

Anyways, I don't know the whole story, just that I was told, "Megs, you are close, so you are picking up Millie" in an email.

Was it in a group email where the writer was planning for the upcoming shower? It''s not the most polite way to do things but I guess I can understand if someone is trying to get a lot done they can sometimes be a little curt. As for Millie, she might be an honorary aunt who doesn't go to many official family activities. My DD has an "aunt" Barb and "aunt" Rona, neither one is related to her by blood.

 

[okeydokey]

I think you are right Megs. It would have been nice to have been asked instead of being told.

 

[tlbwriter]

Was it in a group email where the writer was planning for the upcoming shower? It''s not the most polite way to do things but I guess I can understand if someone is trying to get a lot done they can sometimes be a little curt.

"Megs, can you give Millie a ride since she lives near you?" doesn't take any more time or energy.