Why do people bring nanny's?

[stemikger]

When I see families with Nannies I automatically thing to myselves that they are spoiled people who can't take care of their own kids. I think if your career is so demanding that you need a nanny, then you should not have kids or work part time.

Sorry it sounds harsh, but that's just how I feel.

My brother and sister in law are both doctors and they have to small kids that they basically are left to raise by nannies. Sure they have the big incomes and rewarding careers, but they don't have much of a family life. I find that sad. I think it would have been better to have kids when the can devote the time and energy to raising them.

 

[DONALD38]

How do I respond to this, either way someone will be upset or angry. Well to me a Nanny is for those who can afford it. Or for those parents that fail to take the responsibilities for having children and being a parent.

The bottom line, it you want to pay for this service and take them on vacations with you, why should I care. As long as it's your money and not mine.

 

[BibbidyBobbidyBoo]

I stand by my original statement that traveling with my bosses would NOT be a vacation, it would be a change of venue. I DO work hard all year and I most certainly do NOT want to be "rewarded" by having to watch the children all week at WDW and then get home and be told it was my "vacation". Yes, there would be PARTS of it that would be fun, but when all is said and done it would still be WORK.

I don't know any other job where you would be expected to follow your boss on "vacation", work the same number of hours you do ordinarily (or MORE), and then come home and be working again in a day or two. I can think of no better way to burn out than to spend ALL of my time with my charges. Everybody needs a break from each other now and then.

I've never had a nanny and I've never been a nanny... but how do you know they are considering that the nanny's vacation? Maybe it's just part of their job still and NOT considered their "vacation"? And you're right- I know of no other job where you might end up doing your job at WDW (without actually working for WDW)... you're right about that. I'd rather be there working as a nanny than at home working as a nanny, if given the choice. Or I might rather go on the vacation with them and work as a nanny during that time than be forced a non-paid vacation (or even a paid one) at THEIR convenience since they are going to WDW without me.
But in any case, a nanny going to WDW with the family doesn't mean it's considered the nanny's "vacation" though. The nanny's vacation could be some other time- and NOT considering the WDW trip as the nanny's vacation- just doing there job there just as they would at home. And in that case, many might enjoy doing their job there.

I agree with those that said it's really none of our business, why let it bother you or judge them for it? Quite honestly the last trip I went with 3 kids without DH- I was sure wishing he was there. Now I think how nice it would have been to take along a babysitter or nanny to help a bit. LOL

 

[stemikger]

I must apologize for my horrible spelling. It's late and I'm tired, but even for me that post was bad.

 

[susan1]

my son

at what age do you consider a child "old enough" to enjoy a WDW vacation? If I wanted until my youngest DD was "old enough", her oldest brother would likely be in college. Hardly fair to him, I think. My youngest DD will never remember her earliest experiences--vacations, holidays, etc....but I will. She LOVED everything about WDW at 8 months--the colors, music, etc. We considered leaving her with the grands while we took the older boys, but in the end decided that it wouldn't be the same without her. And it wouldn't have been--

DD turns 4 during our Fall vacation, and I'm not sure who is more excited about the celebration, DH & I, DD, or her 2 older brothers, LOL!

sorry i stil disagree i think the sensory overload for a toddler under two is just that. i really can't see howyou can tell if they are enjoying themselves. also between five and ten they are very tempermental and subject to meltdown as mentioned on these forums. on a more serious note their immune system are not great enough to cope with the pandemic viruses that abound in close contact places like disney. i personally would not take a child under 10 yrs they are able to go on most rides and verbally express their likes and dislikes. the overwhelming sense of fun and magic is still there.my son does not seem scarred by not goingtil he was 10ys old and is still visiting yearly at 34yrs!.

 

[mnasf]

at what age do you consider a child "old enough" to enjoy a WDW vacation? If I wanted until my youngest DD was "old enough", her oldest brother would likely be in college. Hardly fair to him, I think. My youngest DD will never remember her earliest experiences--vacations, holidays, etc....but I will. She LOVED everything about WDW at 8 months--the colors, music, etc. We considered leaving her with the grands while we took the older boys, but in the end decided that it wouldn't be the same without her. And it wouldn't have been--

DD turns 4 during our Fall vacation, and I'm not sure who is more excited about the celebration, DH & I, DD, or her 2 older brothers, LOL!

My parents said let's wait until your brothers are old enough to wait in line. Well, my first trip to WDW was on my first wedding anniversary.

 

[Nancyg56]

Sounds like a great situation. Your daughter's DH is wonderful too, to have been the caregiver and to cook. No 'snippy' remarks here. I think it's good when mom or dad is at home.

It is good when it is possible. I must tell you that I went "back" to work after the kids had all graduated from school. I had been cleaning prior to that so tha I could be home with them, and let me tell you, that was rough, even with support from my DH. I had no workplace skills, because the work environment had changed so drastically. I also had no higher education to fall back on. I did manage, with help from my children and from some coworkers, and then was able to move into a quality/training position. What I observed were women who were homemakers, and something not forseen in their plan ,such as divorce, death of spouse, or medical issues in the home returning to work later in life. In todays environment, it is essensial to ensure that women are able to maintain workplace skills in order to ensure that it is possible to support themselves along with their family is needed. The women that I coached had so much more pressure that I did in that they needed to succeed and survive alongside younger people vying for the same job position and whose skill set was more advanced. Talk about stressful! Most were not prepared to take on the task of survival in this type of environment, and in most cases it was survival.

When women maintain a career, whether by choice or by necessity, and need to place their children in daycare, they are in fact doing what is best for their own family. It is very easy for other women whose choices are different to disparage these women, and I confess there was a time that I felt that my decisions in raising my family were the only correct ones. Now I know that it is not so. It is not easy to begin again if workplace skills are not current, and having to go back to work unprepared is tragic for the women involved, along with any family members that they try to support. I have always encouraged the young women in my family to keep job skills and as a family we have all worked together to keep our little ones out of daycare. Try to remember that this is not an option for everyone.

 

[Planogirl]

It's a wonder that so many people survive their childhood. Between going to WDW while they're still young enough to believe in the fantasy and the fact that so many parents are awful enough to use babysitters, it's frankly amazing!

<Sarcasm off>

 

[GEM]

sorry i stil disagree i think the sensory overload for a toddler under two is just that. i really can't see howyou can tell if they are enjoying themselves. also between five and ten they are very tempermental and subject to meltdown as mentioned on these forums. on a more serious note their immune system are not great enough to cope with the pandemic viruses that abound in close contact places like disney. i personally would not take a child under 10 yrs they are able to go on most rides and verbally express their likes and dislikes. the overwhelming sense of fun and magic is still there.my son does not seem scarred by not goingtil he was 10ys old and is still visiting yearly at 34yrs!.

And mine doesn't seem scarred by going four times before he's two. How can I tell he's had fun? Well, there's the smiling, and the laughing, and the pointing, and the giggling, and the clapping, and the bouncing, and the excited squeals when he sees Mickey or Pooh, and the kisses he gave Tigger on our last visit, and I could go on and on. I could post some of the pictures, if you want. He's clearly very excited and happy in all of them. Oh, and by the way, he's never ever gotten sick at Disney - not so much as a sniffle. So, I have no problem with your decision to wait until your child is older. That's fine. Your family, your decision. But, to say that anyone who takes a younger child is just making them miserable and exposing them to medical harm - that's just ridiculous.

P.S. My little guy was a micropreemie. He spent 83 days in the NICU. His neonatologist had absolutely no problem with us taking him to Disney World at 12 months old. In fact, he asked if we'd take him, too!

 

[Nancyg56]

And mine doesn't seem scarred by going four times before he's two. How can I tell he's had fun? Well, there's the smiling, and the laughing, and the pointing, and the giggling, and the clapping, and the bouncing, and the excited squeals when he sees Mickey or Pooh, and the kisses he gave Tigger on our last visit, and I could go on and on. I could post some of the pictures, if you want. He's clearly very excited and happy in all of them. Oh, and by the way, he's never ever gotten sick at Disney - not so much as a sniffle. So, I have no problem with your decision to wait until your child is older. That's fine. Your family, your decision. But, to say that anyone who takes a younger child is just making them miserable and exposing them to medical harm - that's just ridiculous.

Medical Harm???? Better keep them out of grocery stores, malls, other kids in the family, pets, oh yeah especially the Dr office.

BTW, your little wonder is so cute!!!

 

[madge]

my son

sorry i stil disagree i think the sensory overload for a toddler under two is just that. i really can't see howyou can tell if they are enjoying themselves. also between five and ten they are very tempermental and subject to meltdown as mentioned on these forums. on a more serious note their immune system are not great enough to cope with the pandemic viruses that abound in close contact places like disney. i personally would not take a child under 10 yrs they are able to go on most rides and verbally express their likes and dislikes. the overwhelming sense of fun and magic is still there.my son does not seem scarred by not goingtil he was 10ys old and is still visiting yearly at 34yrs!.

I respectfully disagree.

 

[auntpolly]

It's a wonder that so many people survive their childhood. Between going to WDW while they're still young enough to believe in the fantasy and the fact that so many parents are awful enough to use babysitters, it's frankly amazing!

<Sarcasm off>

Personally, I'm glad folks bring their little ones! For my enjoyment, if nothing else. Nothing like watching a 2 year old see Mickey for the first time!!!!

But hey, guys,this isn't turning into a "what age should you bring your child" debate -- is it? Cause I'll simplify things right here and now - the answer is: whenever a parent decides it's time!

 

[Mickeyhugger]

I think if your career is so demanding that you need a nanny, then you should not have kids or work part time.

Sorry it sounds harsh, but that's just how I feel.

My brother and sister in law are both doctors and they have to small kids that they basically are left to raise by nannies. Sure they have the big incomes and rewarding careers, but they don't have much of a family life. I find that sad. I think it would have been better to have kids when the can devote the time and energy to raising them.

I actually don't feel strong either way about taking a 'nanny' or sitter on vacation, if that person is there to watch the kids while Mom and Dad want to have a night or two 'out.' But I agree with the above statement, as I'd done childcare for a few years and it was the saddest sight each time. Toddlers and babies crying when parents dropped them off. (Four of them would raise their arms to me and call 'mama'. They were barely a year old.) Granted, there are extenuating circumstances when people have no choice, but a large majority of these people drove off in $50,000 SUVs or Lexuses.

 

[CheshireVal]

my son

sorry i stil disagree i think the sensory overload for a toddler under two is just that. i really can't see howyou can tell if they are enjoying themselves. also between five and ten they are very tempermental and subject to meltdown as mentioned on these forums. on a more serious note their immune system are not great enough to cope with the pandemic viruses that abound in close contact places like disney. i personally would not take a child under 10 yrs they are able to go on most rides and verbally express their likes and dislikes. the overwhelming sense of fun and magic is still there.my son does not seem scarred by not goingtil he was 10ys old and is still visiting yearly at 34yrs!.

Not taking a child who's under 10!!!?!?!? Disney World is the MOST magical for kids under 10.

 

[lillygator]

Wow - feel sorry for those kids who can't go until they are ten - god forbid anything happen you don't get to enjoy it all together.

Why does anyone care what Joe Smith brings to WDW as long as it isn't directly affecting you?

 

[tw1nsmom]

WHO CARES?!!!

I'm a stay at home mom, and I may need to homeschool my special needs son at son point in the future. Does that make me an award winning mom? Hardly! If I could afford to have someone shop, cook, and clean for me I would do it in a heartbeat.

If, hopefully, DS does well in school and the district continues to give him the supports he needs, I'll be going back to work myself. If I can find the right person, I would be thrilled to have a nanny for my children.

For those of you who have appointed yourselves to the position of parenting judge and jury, I feel sorry for you. You must be so insecure in your own parenting abilities. I say this from experience.

About a year ago I got caught up in one of these SAHM/WOHM threads. I wasn't confident in my decision to stay at home and I became as judgmental and obnoxious as many of you are being in this thread. I am so much happier today knowing that every day brings changes and every day I'm doing what's best for MY children.

Who cares how anyone else is raising their children? There is no way to look in from the outside and understand others' choices as parents. Trust me, if someone were to look at all of your parenting decisions, they would find something they didn't agree with and that they'd criticize. Short of abuse, it's none of their business.