Exactly right.
I agree that "we" (collectively) have figured out how their "system" works, and how to best exploit that knowledge. We are members of an (increasingly less) exclusive club. But what about the folks (and there are many many of them) that never joined that club for whatever reason? I feel they also deserve to have a shot at dining in the best places at the best times. Even if that means that I sometimes don't get the reservations I want.
Besides, I know I will still have a great time even if I cannot get those reservations. Most people will. Disney and influencers have created this sense of FOMO, urgency and scarcity that didn't always exist. To some extent, it is toxic and corrosive. It eats away at our enjoyment of the parks, and pits us against each other.
And to what end? Instead of simply looking forward to carefree days at the park (for which we have paid dearly) we are stressed out, nervous and obsessive. I say "we" because I am just as guilty of it as anyone. I've set my early morning alarms, and "screamed into the night" when I still didn't get my preferred ADRs. Or cheered when I did. Did it make me happier? In hindsight, not as much as I thought it would. And I've found that just showing up to the parks, and seeing what happens, almost always exceeds my expectations. And generally costs less, too.
I'm not telling you that you shouldn't plan. But a trip to
Disneyland shouldn't make people feel stressful and filled with regret. I wish that Disney made it easier for all of us to enjoy our visits without having to experience any of the negatives that sometimes accompany that. Wishful thinking, I know, but I still wish it.