WHY did you have kids?

[alecam]

Originally posted by JKanownik
This thread is really interesting. DH and I have been married for 2 years and wont be having kids for at least another 3 years. We are really enjoying married life right now. I am excited to be a mom someday, but right now we just want to enjoy each other.

PLEASE,enjoy your precious time kid free!! I totally understand your excitement, but looking back, I probably should have waited until I was in my 30's before trying! I love my DS's to death, but they sure do change ALOT!!

 

[faithinkarma]

I had my kids in the 70s. I did it because it was "what you did". You got married, stayed married, and you had kids. I came from a very large family. I was the oldest. I knew all about diapers and feeding and all the drudge part of babies. Imagine my shock when I had my own and found out what an incredibly wonderful experience it was.

I was lucky enough to be a stay at home mom. I loved every minute of it. My kids are now well into adulthood. They are my best friends. I cherish them.

Edited because the "stay married" part sounded sanctimonious. I have to add that the marriage did not last...I was wrong about that too. lol @ me.

 

[Mad4Mickey]

They bring you the remote when you cant find it !

Really I never thought about it I just knew that I would have 2 kids one boy and one girl

I never knew they would be this great but I always knew I was ment to be a Mom .

 

[ThAnswr]

Originally posted by GoofItUp
DH and I have no children, and we were wondering.....WHY do people have children? I just thought it would be interesting to find out WHY some of you had children.

Please note, we are not anti-children. In fact, we are still thinking of having children, but can't really think of a good reason to do it just yet.

I wanted a child because I did not want to be alone. My DH is much older than me and if the statistics are right, he'll go much sooner than me.

The strange thing is that, since our daughter is an only child, I'm now afraid of leaving her alone.

I was nearly 40 when I had our daughter. If I was younger, I would definitely have more children.

 

[GoofItUp]

The replies to this thread are all very interesting. Some funny, some serious, and some I don't understand at all! I'm glad there are other people out there who just aren't sure kids are for them. Everybody I talk to thinks DH and I are crazy for not already having kids. We've been married 6 years now and are getting closer and closer to 30 (UGH!). Sometimes I worry that I'll wake up years from now (past the age that I'd want to have kids) and think we should have done it. One thing I'm very sure of.....there are two very different paths ahead of me, and whichever one DH and I choose to take, I'll never know what's down the other path. I guess there are lots of things in life like that, but this decision has brought that to mind more than anything before. Too bad babies don't come with a 6-month money back guarantee or something!

 

[Nutsy]

I had children for two reasons. I really love kids & really love playing with littlies. Plus I wanted to be a Mum & be able to have my own children to love & nuture & be around 24/7.

I would have had 6 if it were economically vialbe & if it were possible for me to have them. Instead I have 2 healthy teenagers.

 

[wdwdvcdad]

2 words:

Tax Break.


I call them my little write-offs.

 

[onecoolmama]

Originally posted by alecam
PLEASE,enjoy your precious time kid free!! I totally understand your excitement, but looking back, I probably should have waited until I was in my 30's before trying! I love my DS's to death, but they sure do change ALOT!!

And see, I feel completely the opposite! I love the fact that I had my kids sooo young. Dh and I figure if we have 5 we will be done by 32. We will be 55 and all of our kids will be out of college (as long as the last one doesn't go over 5 years!LOL!)

I also talk tongue in check as I have a huge family and I can leave the kids with them an go to Disney without them..or whereever. So, I say that, because I have the support system. In any case..I am certainly gld I didn't wait!

 

[goofygirl]

Oh please. You couldn't get anyone to share your life with you if you paid them. You said it yourself that your boyfriend still wants to talk to his friends when he is with you. I'm sorry for you.

Ok, #1- This is a personal attack and against DIS policy and I've just reported you.....and

#2- I never said such a thing about my boyfriend so you are confusing me with somebody else I suppose.....and

#3- Even IF my BF wanted to talk to his friends when he's with me, nothing is wrong with that. I talk to MY friends when I'm with him!

Don't YOU talk to YOUR friends when you are with your DH?

Do you HAVE friends?

and #4 What the heck has your statement got to do with the topic??

and lastly- I share my life with my BF, my mom, my extended family and a host of friends. Who says you need kids to SHARE?

 

[Robinrs]

I've always loved children and tried for YEARS to have one. Lost one at 31 and had Michael at 36. I agree that it's a personal choice and should only be done by those who are REALLY ready. I was more than ready so being a Mom is my gift from God.

 

[MAC3]

 

[J.Cooper]

Intersting thread! I like it!! DH & I have been married for 9 1/2 yrs and we don't want kids. We love our childfree life together. People may say we are selfish and don't understand why we don't want children, but I believe it's all about choices we make. We choose not to have kids. Don't get me wrong, we like kids, have nieces & nephews, but just don't want any of our own. It's always nice being able to watch the nieces & nephews and being able to take them back home. I feel it's up to you. Plus once you have them, it's no refunds! Parenting is just not for everyone. I do believe parenting is one of the toughest jobs in the world. I commend those moms out there.

 

[Doesney]

We had children mainly because it seemed the next thing to do. I am being honest when I say, I was really on the fenc about having any. But you can't just stop at one Now I could not imagine life without either of them.

And J.Cooper I admire your attitude.

 

[hookedondizney]

Why did I want children? I wanted children because.... to hold that baby that you created with your partner is an unbelievable feeling. To think about the life that I created is an amazing thought (from the very begining). I have never been so fulfilled since having my two children. When I wake up in the morning and hear that little voice saying "mommy?" And when you come home and see that little one so excited to see their Mommy smiling from ear to ear and holding on soo tight. Or, when you tell them that "we are going back to Disney"and the look on their face. My dogs only get excited to see me come home. But, my children have given me the real meaning of the word "life" and without them I would have no life!!! It is a feeling that no one else can give you. Don't get me wrong, there are plenty of difficult times (terrible 2's, teenagers etc.) but when you see your child getting older and wiser it is a great feeling to know that you have raised a child and given them great foundation to make them a great person.