Why can't people resond to evite?

[lg3]

I don't understand why people don't respond back to an evite - For goodness sake, all you have to do is make one click - You don't even have to comment if you don't care to! I sent out out evites a month ago to a party we are having. It isn't a solicitation party (no jewelry, candles, tupperware, etc)., just good friends getting together. We are even providing sitters for those that want to bring their kids. These people are all computer savvy and regularly check their emails. They have all viewed the evite, but still no response the day of the party.

 

[KristaTX]

I don't know why, but I hate getting e-vites. Something about that site annoys me, and I usually don't even go look at them right away. Maybe your friends are the same way, although some have probably just been too lazy or undecided. I know it's more work on the inviter's part, but I'd much rather get a personal call or e-mail, or even a group e-mail asking everyone to reply either way. And a follow-up e-mail for the stragglers.

 

[TaraPA]

I don't know why, but I hate getting e-vites. Something about that site annoys me, and I usually don't even go look at them right away. Maybe your friends are the same way, although some have probably just been too lazy or undecided. I know it's more work on the inviter's part, but I'd much rather get a personal call or e-mail, or even a group e-mail asking everyone to reply either way. And a follow-up e-mail for the stragglers.

Ditto. I hate e-vites & especially e-greetings cards - I delete them, never even open them. I know it's the way of the future but I think it's impersonal. If someone can't take the time to write & mail an invite or card, or call, I don't take the time to reply.

 

[LisaR]

Sorry, but I am one of those that refuse to respond. I have two acquaintances that seem to host a party of some sort every single month. I do not buy overpriced, crap products. Never have, never will. I have emailed both and told them that I appreciate the thought but I do not attend house party type events. It just isn't my thing. Yet both continue to send evites for parties where they will sell lotions, spices, housewares, toys for adults and children, etc. It never ends. I am certain I am simply on their email list and they just bombard everyone they have ever sent an email to with these stupid evites. Pick up the phone and call or at least send a personal email and I will respond. If you can't tell, this is one of my pet peeves!

 

[barkley]

who gets listed as the sender when it hits the mailbox? i did'nt realize we got invited to a wedding a couple of years ago because i saw an e-mail where the sender was something called "the knot" or some other wedding site. apparantly it was an e-mailed invite but because i did'nt reccognize who sent it i thought it was just junk mail and deleted it without opening it.

 

[Stacerita]

I always forget to respond to e-vites. I will open them up and look them over, and then plan to check my schedule before I respond. But I usually forget to go back and do that.

 

[lg3]

Sorry, but I am one of those that refuse to respond. I have two acquaintances that seem to host a party of some sort every single month. I do not buy overpriced, crap products. Never have, never will. I have emailed both and told them that I appreciate the thought but I do not attend house party type events. It just isn't my thing. Yet both continue to send evites for parties where they will sell lotions, spices, housewares, toys for adults and children, etc. It never ends. I am certain I am simply on their email list and they just bombard everyone they have ever sent an email to with these stupid evites. Pick up the phone and call or at least send a personal email and I will respond. If you can't tell, this is one of my pet peeves!

I can understand regarding parties that are really for selling things, but this is for a real party with friends. I don't think an evite is any less personal for those who use email frequently. I have to end up sending a seperate email sometimes too, even though I know they have read the official invite. I just don't understand and think it is extremely inconsiderate for the hosts to be left guessing who is/is not coming, how much food to have, etc.

 

[scrapquitler]

maybe they didn't notice the invitation because they thought it was SPAM?

 

[mjkacmom]

There's no way I would be able to RSVP to a party a month in advance, with our crazy schedule. So, I probably would've opened it, planned on RSVping closer to the date, and then I would forget. Now, if I get an evite within 2 weeks of an event, I RSVP right away.

 

[FayeW]

There are some computer viruses that are embedded in attachments and sent out to unsuspecting people under the guise of "so and so sent you a greeting card". A lot of people, myself included, don't open or respond to those types of emails because we have been taught to "never open email from unknown senders".

You say that all of the people you e-vited read the invitation, so I can't explain why they didn't respond except for bad manners. If you said that they didn't open it at all, I would think it was because of fear of a virus.

 

[anniemae]

I always read over the evite, then make a mental note to reply once I check my schedule. 9 times out of 10 I forget to respond back. Okay it's really like 10 times out of 10.......

 

[Christine]

I know that there's a small group of people that just LOVE e-vites; however, most people I know really hate getting an invite that way. I'm not sure why and I tend to run with an "older" crowd so I blame it on age, sometimes.

But, I'm wondering how many people just don't like getting them or don't take them seriously, even though it's hard for you to understand?

I know my co-worker was pissed off when he was sent one by his son and daughter-in-law to attend his grandson's first birthday. He was like "Can't they just pick up the phone and call me??"

 

[Mouse House Mama]

I guess I am old fashioned but I think email/evite invitations are tacky and even rude somewhat. If you really can't take the time to do more than a mass email to invite me then don't bother. I know, I know, I sound like a brat, but I think a mailed invitation or even a phone call is much more personal. It makes me know that you'd really like me there and that you took the time to invite me. Not sent out some mass email. JMHO.

 

[arminnie]

I'm probably the oldest person on the boards - but I love getting evites.

I hate getting phone calls where I have to go find a pencil and write down all of the stuff - or try to enter it into my iphone while I am having a conversation.

If I get a piece of snail mail it ends up in some stack that I might see a month later. Then I have to go make a phone call or "eek" even write a response by hand.

I am never in one place for more than a week or two so I hate having to answer a bunch of snail mail or phone messages when I change places. I mostly ignore any phone messages except those on my cell.

Getting an email, text msg, or evite is SO much easier to handle.

Rude people aren't going to respond any better even if you call them and talk to them one on one. They will give a response like "I will TRY to make it" - which translates into "God help me if I can't find something better to do."

 

[tasha99]

I hate evites because I can't tell if they're spam or not. I just delete them.

 

[*pixie*dust*]

I hate evites because I can't tell if they're spam or not. I just delete them.

ITA!

 

[Matt71]

I have the same problem with Evites I send out. I use it all the time for parties and movie nights.

I like Evites much better than a written invite or phone calls, because you can see who else is coming. If I get an Evite for something and I don't know (or like) any of the guests that will be there, I probably won't go.

As far as people not responding, I've found that in most cases people put off responding and then forget. Of course, the site does send a reminder a week before the event, so who knows.

By the way, when you get an Evite, the email should show that it came from the email address of the host, so I don't see how people can mistake it for SPAM.

 

[lg3]

I have the same problem with Evites I send out. I use it all the time for parties and movie nights.
I like Evites much better than a written invite or phone calls, because you can see who else is coming. If I get an Evite for something and I don't know (or like) any of the guests that will be there, I probably won't go.
As far as people not responding, I've found that in most cases people put off responding and then forget. Of course, the site does send a reminder a week before the event, so who knows.
By the way, when you get an Evite, the email should show that it came from the email address of the host, so I don't see how people can mistake it for SPAM.

Exactly - It shouldn't be a surprise from the email address.

 

[Abbie]

who gets listed as the sender when it hits the mailbox? i did'nt realize we got invited to a wedding a couple of years ago because i saw an e-mail where the sender was something called "the knot" or some other wedding site. apparantly it was an e-mailed invite but because i did'nt reccognize who sent it i thought it was just junk mail and deleted it without opening it.

OT for a sec....did you seriously get an e-vite for a wedding??? That's got to be the very definition of tacky!

I've never even SEEN an e-vite.....I must run with an old fogey crowd.
I'm not sure what I think of them but I am sure I would open it and promptly forget when my inbox gets full and it scrolls out of sight.

 

[daisax]

I don't know if I've ever gotten an e-vite (I think not, but maybe I deleted without knowing?)

When I get an invitation I generally have to check my calendar. And I open email at work most of the time, so that makes it even less likely that I will just respond that very moment for a casual get together. And sadly... I have 3800 messages in my inbox, a lot of email coming in, and things tend to drift off the main screen pretty quickly, so out of sight, out of mind.