who pays for prom?

[fac]

I am just trying to figure out what is the right way to do....At this time, I am not involved, but if I have to pay I am okay.....


DD likes to go to junior prom but does not have a boy friend, her girl friend set her up with a boy from a different school and they met once. According to the girl friend this boy went to prom with 2 different girls already.... the girl friend is also planning to ask another boy to go to prom with her...on a snapchat, she asked the boy whether he would go to prom with DD, he said "sure"...

I asked DD how much is the prom, she said $85, I asked who will pay for the boy going, she told me according to her girl friend, the boy will be paying.....

I am thinking how can the boy's family be paying for their son going to proms with different girls...I really don't mind paying (I knew the boy's family can afford, but is it fair?), but I never met with the boy nor the girl friend...I don't want to make a big deal to ask to meet with the boy, it is not like they are boy friend or girl friend...

My question is do the boys normally pay for themselves even if the girls ask them to go to prom?

 

[onenursebrandy]

The Prom ticket will be paid for by whichever child's prom it is. Usually the Juniors "pay" for prom for senior students within the same school. So a senior student does not purchase a prom ticket. So a Junior girl from school A invites a child from school B to attend her junior prom....then the girl buys the prom ticket. Then the boy will pay for his own tux and the girl her own dress. If girl is a senior, she most likely doesn't have to buy the tickets.

 

[HM]

This is one of those -it depends on where you live things, I think.

I think your DD should pay since it's her school and she'll have to fill out the forms and pay for it.

I don't understand why she'd take a 'stranger' though. Especially one that she didn't contact herself. Most kids in our area that don't have a date, pal up with some friends and go together. I think taking someone you don't know well is going to end up in night that wasn't what she wanted.

 

[ColoradoMom!!]

Seniors not having to pay for the Prom ticket? Not here. The Prom is "put on" by the Junior class, but Seniors still have to purchase a ticket. Tickets here were $40 each this year.

In OP case, if the boy is willing to buy his ticket, I guess I wouldn't argue. I wonder if your daughter can offer to go dutch with dinner as a nice gesture.

Hope this boy owns a tux, I ended up buying a suit that could double for a tux (minus the satin on the lapel and stripe down the pant), tux wing collar shirt, vest and bow tie for less than renting a tux would have been. My son is a junior, so I will just have to buy his date's color matching vest and tie next year.

 

[fac]

This is one of those -it depends on where you live things, I think.

I think your DD should pay since it's her school and she'll have to fill out the forms and pay for it.

I don't understand why she'd take a 'stranger' though. Especially one that she didn't contact herself. Most kids in our area that don't have a date, pal up with some friends and go together. I think taking someone you don't know well is going to end up in night that wasn't what she wanted.

I know, I have been thinking she should go with a group of her girl friends.... then she has another group of 2 girl friends and they want to go with boys. this boy is in the same swim team with one of her girl friends, and we are in a small town, the boy lives in a town not far, also a junior, DD's other friends knew the boy, they think he is okay....

 

[fac]

In OP case, if the boy is willing to buy his ticket, I guess I wouldn't argue. I wonder if your daughter can offer to go dutch with dinner as a nice gesture.

Hope this boy owns a tux, I ended up buying a suit that could double for a tux (minus the satin on the lapel and stripe down the pant), tux wing collar shirt, vest and bow tie for less than renting a tux would have been. My son is a junior, so I will just have to buy his date's color matching vest and tie next year.

As I said, I wasn't "involved", but just want to make sure DD does everything right... according to DD, the three girls will meet up in the house of one of the girls, then with the boys. Her girl friend told her the boy would pay for his own ticket, but I seriously doubt the girl friend knew it either... I do think the boy has a tux as he went with two girls this year....Now, I do not know the color matching vest !!

 

[DreamIsaWish]

This is one of those -it depends on where you live things, I think.

I think your DD should pay since it's her school and she'll have to fill out the forms and pay for it.

I don't understand why she'd take a 'stranger' though. Especially one that she didn't contact herself. Most kids in our area that don't have a date, pal up with some friends and go together. I think taking someone you don't know well is going to end up in night that wasn't what she wanted.

I totally agree with you, but in my high school we had an unfortunate policy of requiring a date. You were not allowed to go as a group of girls. Over 20 years later I'm still a bit bitter that I wasn't able to go to prom because I didn't have a date.

 

[kymom99]

The Prom ticket will be paid for by whichever child's prom it is. Usually the Juniors "pay" for prom for senior students within the same school. So a senior student does not purchase a prom ticket. So a Junior girl from school A invites a child from school B to attend her junior prom....then the girl buys the prom ticket. Then the boy will pay for his own tux and the girl her own dress. If girl is a senior, she most likely doesn't have to buy the tickets.

That's not how it works around here

 

[usd2bmd]

The Prom ticket will be paid for by whichever child's prom it is. Usually the Juniors "pay" for prom for senior students within the same school. So a senior student does not purchase a prom ticket. So a Junior girl from school A invites a child from school B to attend her junior prom....then the girl buys the prom ticket. Then the boy will pay for his own tux and the girl her own dress. If girl is a senior, she most likely doesn't have to buy the tickets.

In our school district it is a Senior prom. The juniors only go if asked by someone, so they would not be paying. Where we live if two kids form the same school go they usually both buy their own ticket. My daughter went with a boy from another school so she bought the tickets, they split the cost of the limo.

 

[pjlla]

DS is going to his prom and his girlfriend's prom this year (two different schools). They agreed that she would buy the tix at her school and he would buy the tix at his school. I too, went looking for a suit/tux for DS to avoid paying for a rental (since he is Junior I am hoping he will wear this suit both years) and got very lucky to find a nice one at the thrift store!! Anyhow, it is at the dry cleaner now and I will be buying a tie and pocket hankie this weekend for him ( as soon as I can get him to find out the girlfriend's dress color!). He already owns nice black dress shoes (Ecco no less) and a belt.... so we are getting out of this CHEAP ! BTW, prom for DS's school is $130/couple and for his girlfriend's school is $140/couple. This includes just dinner and a DJ..................P

 

[Kathryn777]

Maybe things have changed since I was in Hs forever ago, but I wouldn't want my daughter to feel she owed anyone anything so we'd be buying the ticket. I knew too many guys who used that with their dates for pressure

 

[fac]

Maybe things have changed since I was in Hs forever ago, but I wouldn't want my daughter to feel she owed anyone anything so we'd be buying the ticket. I knew too many guys who used that with their dates for pressure

I agreed. I asked DD tonight and she said she would ask the boy (as I asked her so many times because I do not feel right), I think I should just pay for it (but that's expensive $170, but it is just not fair for the boy to pay), I checked here because I am not sure whether it is customary for a boy to pay.... thanks everyone. (I knew DD wouldn't feel she owes anyone though... she just thought it is natural .... different generation)

 

[Smuggs]

Here whoever does the inviting, pays. Boy asks Girl, he pays. Girl asks boy, she pays.

 

[Styx Fan]

I totally agree with you, but in my high school we had an unfortunate policy of requiring a date. You were not allowed to go as a group of girls. Over 20 years later I'm still a bit bitter that I wasn't able to go to prom because I didn't have a date.

i am so sorry you were forced to miss your prom because of this crazy rule. I am so glad that now days, at least around here, kids can go in a group, alone or with a date. Girls can feel free to buy a prom dress early and know they can go and not be at the mercy of the guys. So much better this way.

 

[Luv Bunnies]

DS is a sophomore and his girlfriend is a junior. Technically it's her prom and she asked him to go with her. She had to purchase both tickets and put his name on the list as her guest. Tickets were $95 each. She doesn't have that kind of money. We didn't think it was fair for her parents to have to pay for both tickets, so we agreed that we would each buy a ticket for our own kid.

 

[BellsFam]

Here whoever does the inviting, pays. Boy asks Girl, he pays. Girl asks boy, she pays.

I asked my date to my senior prom and he paid... He was a nice guy though and rented a limo, etc. Maybe that's why I married him...

 

[auralia]

When I went my boy friend was away in the military so I took a college friend (I attended college my SR. year of high school). He was foreign and a very nice young man so it was an opportunity for him to experience this american tradition too. He was quite excited to go. I did pay for the tickets but I believe he would have paid for half of them had I asked. I also paid for half his tux as he was really doing this as a favor to me but he picked up the other half as he felt he was getting the experience. He also bought me flowers. He was a perfect gentleman and was by far and away the best looking guy at the prom!

 

[mjkacmom]

Dd18 is going to prom as a friend (she's a freshman in college). The boy is paying for her, but she would've been willing to buy her ticket, since she wants to go (has no interest in the guy, and he knows it, but a lot of her friends are going). She payed for her boyfriend last year when he was a freshman in college.

 

[JanaDee]

The Prom ticket will be paid for by whichever child's prom it is. Usually the Juniors "pay" for prom for senior students within the same school. So a senior student does not purchase a prom ticket. So a Junior girl from school A invites a child from school B to attend her junior prom....then the girl buys the prom ticket. Then the boy will pay for his own tux and the girl her own dress. If girl is a senior, she most likely doesn't have to buy the tickets.

I've never heard of such a thing.

 

[ceecee]

My DD's Senior prom last year was $25.00 and she paid for her ticket and the guy she went with paid for his. They both paid for dinner (with the help of a gift card from her loving parents!) and she even drove because he didn't have a car, I paid the $20 for pictures too. The guy didn't have a job so his mom paid for his part.