Ok guys, I just need to vent for a minute. I am having a downright rotten day. As I was on my way to
WalMart for my lunch break (mistake #1) I called my mom (mistake #2). I just needed to ask if she bought boots for Lyzzie, I knew she mentioned them but couldn't remember if she got them or not. (Not). Out of nowhere, she tells me she thinks I should cancel my Feb. trip. No reason, other than "you were just there and you don't need to go again, it's too much money, I just don't think you NEED to go." (Keep in mind this is coming from a woman who takes a minimum of 3 cruises per year, and usually doesn't even know where the boat is going.) I told her I'm sorry but I'm going, I am 32 years old and don't need my mother's permission to take a vacation. Next, she starts talking about how she guesses I didn't know I had a copay when I went to the surgical center. Offhandedly I said yes I knew. Then it hit me: I just received a bill for $200 from the surgical center, from my injection in October. This was not a copay, it was a portion that insurance refused to cover. (Apparently anesthesia is optional for injections, but I digress.) How did Mom know this?? She
WENT THROUGH MY MAIL while she babysat Emma yesterday while we went to the Nutcracker. This is not a new issue with us, in fact, I moved out of the house at 17 because of my parents reading my bank statement and questioning EVERY line item. If they receive my mail at their house, she will open it, read it, and sometimes even photocopy it. This makes me SO ANGRY!! You'd think after 15 years of arguing over this, she would make an attempt not to do it. Then today, she also questioned me about a check I received from my last job, from cashing out my stock plan (which was required upon leaving the company). I had deposited the check several weeks ago, and "filed" the stub in a basket on the kitchen counter. This means it was under several weeks worth of other "filed" items to be permanently filed later. She purposely rifled through all my important, personal paperwork and READ EVERYTHING!! She also saw some receipts and told me I should return a bunch of the kids' Christmas presents because I spent too much money. I am so flaming mad right now, I am tempted to tell her she's not allowed to babysit in my house anymore. However, she also did about 5 loads of the kids' laundry - I was a little behind - but she also questioned why there were only 2 pairs of Lyzzie's undies in the laundry!! Insinuating that I don't keep my kids clean! (It was because I had just done a load of whites/underthings.)
I ended up hanging up on her and proceeded to shop. 10 minutes later, she called back as if nothing was wrong and invited us to stay for spaghetti for dinner!
Then at WalMart of course I couldn't find anything... I mean how hard is it to find a simple coloring book these days? And the self-checkout did not recognize the boots, it took the lady 10 minutes to fix it which made me late coming back from lunch.
I realize none of this stuff is really THAT bad, it's just really irritating. This is how my relationship with my mother has always been. In fact, she has taken me to family counseling not once but twice (I don't mean individual sessions), and she just doesn't understand why we can't have a "Norman Rockwell family." Both counselors told her that it was not my fault/problem. Both times, she decided they don't know what they are talking about and she didn't need to go anymore - but I did.
Thanks for reading, if you didn't skip it. I feel slightly better after the vent. The good news is, my day can only get better!
you did the right thing. If he wasn't giving what you needed, then he isn't right for you. Maybe he will realize that he missed out on a great thing and you can get back together. If not, there is someone great out there for you. 
DS has recovered as quickly as he got sick...so for that we are thankful!
) and go through all his personal stuff, reading the letters I wrote him, etc. She would confront him with things I wrote about her (done on purpose because I knew she would read them 
) and its just a mess. I'm actually terrified of what is going to happen when we move back home to Florida because I don't want her at my house everyday! Anyway, I do feel for your situation. 
Now this has nothing to do with money but what is appropriate. The people from Blake's office come in suits, or shirts and ties with the women in dresses or suits. The folks from the other plant were in ripped jeans, muddy boots and a lot of flannel. This year they brought in a professional photographer who set up and took portraits of each couple for free. Blake's boss made a comment about one couple as they were up there that she must have worn her 'good jeans' For Heaven's Sake they were skin tight and must have had a 1/2 dozen holes in them, and she was older than I am!!! 
You are a braver woman that I. 
